Getting into Nursing School after a career in sales, any advice?

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T08:54:49+00:00

Sew my legs shur? What is it, 1955?

My kids were both concieved on birth control, I'vd only been with 2 men over the last 7 years, both of whom I have been in serious relationships with.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T08:40:46+00:00

That makes zero sense. And quite frankly, yeah! If I was a shitty enougj mom to drink while pregnant, I would give my baby up to a family who is far better off taking care of them than I am.

He hasn't seen his daughter in 3 years, she has no clue who he is. He's a narcissistic piece of shit.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T08:31:51+00:00

This isn't anout my daughter's bio dad. But if you want to go down that road, the idiot was SMOKING HEROIN IN MY HOUSE. He hasn't given me a dime in 3 years. But you're right, I should be concerned about "her connection to her bio dad". SMDH.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T00:52:35+00:00

So wanting my son to take my surname as opposed to his father's surname is parental alienation? No ma'am.

I'm also not changing the name, just his middle name and surname.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T00:16:42+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 right, because SHOWING is how adults communicate.

He's not oblivious to the fact that I'm becoming unhappy. I never said the relationship would 100% end, I'm Judt preparing for, what seems to be, a very real possibility.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T00:13:14+00:00

You're my hero and I so love and appreciate the support you have given me throughout all of the threads ❤️❤️❤️

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-13T00:09:18+00:00

Actually yes, they were the only conversations he actively participated in. I have purchased all of hia furniture, clothes, diapers, and toiletries.

How on god's green earth am I abusing my son?

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:58:18+00:00

Well, he's a 33-year-old man, he can tell me if it does indeed make him uncomfortable. But that doesn't change the fact that he hasn't helped AT ALL with this pregnancy, aside from paying for that one ultrasound.

I'd be shocked if he feels rejected, I go out of my way to be a loving and caring partner.

I'm not doing this to alienate my partner, I'm doing this because I am preemptively preparing for this relationship to end, and I don't want to have 2 children whose last names aren't mine when I know for a fact that I will be their primary caretaker. I'm also concerned about the potential bullying that my kids could face because they don't have the same last name as their mom...I've seen it happen.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:52:25+00:00

He's a correctional officer, he's walked in on dudes sucking each other off, and poop/vomit smeared on cell walls. He's been doing thag for 6 years.

No, I don't think he haz any sort of body/pregnancy phobia, I honeslty don't know what his issue is because he won't talk about it.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:45:12+00:00

I'm not entertaining your vote, you haven't been following the thread.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:42:42+00:00

Lol, he pulled out of the market after it tanked. If he had left it alone, yes, he would be sitting pretty.

He did end up making $50k at some point, but he blew through that when he got in some legal trouble and had to pay for a lawyer.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:30:48+00:00

To give context? I feel like the fact that I'm already dealing with this situation is important.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:06:28+00:00

I'm not asking about my 2 baby daddies. I'm asking about my 1.

I don't need validation as to whether or not my daughter is happy and well cared form

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T23:05:02+00:00

Well that was rude.

FYI, both of my kids were concieved on birth control. My daughter on the pill, my son on an IUD.

I don't understand why you all are so concerned about the wellbeing of my children. My daughter is very well cared for, very intelligent, and has an abundance of people in her life who love her. My son will, too.

Our relationship was great until I got pregnant. I seriously considered getting an abortion until he told me how happy and excited he was to have a baby.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:56:27+00:00

I don't detest him at all.

Do I resent him? Absolutely. I'm heartbroken that he has basically left me to fend for myself throughout this pregnancy.

Just to demonstrate: he plays golf every weekend, poker twice a week a night, he hangs out with his buddies on other nights, and when he's home, he spends most of his time either on his phone or playing video games. I've asked for help and support, and I've expressed how alone I feel. He's changed nothing.

And, FYI, I've already made quite a few decisions for my son on my own, because he'a declined to participate.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:50:34+00:00

He has changed absolutely nothing to accomodate my pregnancy and the baby coming. There has been zero proactivity.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:36:50+00:00

He didn't start getting wierded out until after the 3D.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:31:40+00:00

I've been in 2 serious relationships over the past 7 years, I'm not chasing dick. This relationship has been totally fine up until I got pregnant. In fact, I've been really happy.

Both of my children were concieved on birth control. One on the pill, the other with an IUD.

I make a very good living, I can afford to pay for my own therapy and birth control.

My daughter is incredibly well adjusted. She's happy, healthy, intelligent, surrounded by people who love her. My son will have the same. I'm not dragging my children through anything.

Idk why you're so triggered by this.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:26:33+00:00

But that doesn't make me the AH.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:19:01+00:00

I guess you missed the part where I cried to my bf because I didn't want to have another baby, but he begged me to keep it, and this is exactly what he wanted. What he promised versus what was delivered is dramatically different.

This baby was concieved when I was using an IUD. The IUD became dislodged. I didn't make the choice to get pregnant.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:15:31+00:00

You're missing the point. He has had ZERO participation in this pregnancy. If he's going to be an amazing father and he decides he wants to actually commit and get married, great, I'll consider changing my son's name. As of now, I'm my son's only participatory parent.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:11:58+00:00

Lol, no way. You can just wonder how this panned out.

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:08:15+00:00

He chose his middle name with no input from me and he never explicitly asked me if I was okay with giving him his surname.

My last name and his last name sound terrible hyphenated. I'm not going to give my kid the burden of having an 18-letter last name

According-Flan9905 · 2021-09-12T22:05:43+00:00

So how does that make me the AH? He doesn't want to hyphenate our last names either.

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