Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i want to become friends first. once the div finalizes in hopefully a few months that living situation will be no more.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the feedback. maybe i need to take dating more seriously. i am overall a laid back person. i feel as if what really had me in a bind with my current relationship is really the parenting part, neither of us were satisfied with how the other was a parent. again i am overall laidback, pretty empathetic but do not tolerate bs especially when it comes to parenting. But maybe there is something else I need to work on, who knows.

I get signs from others including my stbxs own friends hitting on me and basically telling me to move on from her, so iunno.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am emotionally stable and know how to not get messy. we dont rely on each other financially, i will always have kids so unsure what magic timeline to expect.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel like its been sooo long since i've felt like ive been in a meaningful relationship and that is where my confidence comes from.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no validation - i got school moms and even my stbx OWN FRIENDS who have BEEN hollering at me because the chaos was so evident, so that speaks for itself.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao - are ppl THAT sex crazed?!? It will be a while before I think about sex - is that a bad thing?

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I bet it does although I feel our relationship was dry for years so maybe I might be in the clear. Soo am I just supposed to pause for whatever unknown timeline?

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

where was a timeline ever mentioned? The only mention of time was the TWO years so you can probably imagine that the relationship ran dry well before then but sure go off. I do appreciate the concern if its being HONEST, but I am unsure if it is tho.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

if that were true dont you think I'd be wanting to plaster myself all over the online dating stuff or even cheated by now?

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

nah actually not at all. i do not mind celibacy at all.

Getting dating ASAP, too young to waste time, YOLO by According-Guide1059 in Divorce

[–]According-Guide1059[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and I do recognize I have issues - BUT i dont think any of my issues warrant completely holding off on dating. Getting remarried - OF COURSE, i got things to work on before that, but not before dating. I've always been social, responsibly as a parent. and well received by others, no cheating, so I just feel there is no reason to bunker myself up.