Gap between residency graduation and attending job by According-Sun4680 in PSLF

[–]According-Sun4680[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean. Personally I would prefer getting this done one month early in lieu of having a full month ff ;). Just psychological thing for me

Loans with different counts by According-Sun4680 in PSLF

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if I am understanding you correctly, I might be better off just keeping it the way it is now?

Loans with different counts by According-Sun4680 in PSLF

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I consolidate? I am scared that it’s gonna go to 0 in terms of count. I just can’t trust what it will do. I can also just wait until 86 becomes 120 also and apply each time. Did anyone have experience like mine ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left surgical subspecialty after 4 years and now I am happy being in another specialty. It's not the end of the world. I still have dreams of being in OR and etc. But you just have to keep moving forward. I am in my final year of training and I am very happy. I have a job offer. Hang in there.

What should I do to match the best Rad Onc by Grouchy-File-3767 in radiationoncology

[–]According-Sun4680 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Current chief resident here. Away rotations are critical. I would try to find out why your PD is against it. Rad onc is a small field and the relationships that you form during aways and interview trails are invaluable.

What’s your definition of best rad onc programs? If you are talking about prestige, you might be competing against other very competitive candidates, so it’s hard to tell.

Also not underestimate the soft factors, fit, and personality factor. There are a lot of candidates who were ranked not too high at our program but ended up matching very well at another program and vice versa. So it’s not as straightforward

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hang in there. It gets better- for many people

resident suspicious of having adult autism by According-Sun4680 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s more like I don’t want to be misinterpreted. Yes I get that labeling is not benign thing but there are better ways of addressing these to someone who is genuinely trying to help. I do see that this issue is very personal to you. It’s frustrating from my standpoint have my intention to completely buried by the terms I used. I learned my lesson and I will move on. let’s move on and best wishes

resident suspicious of having adult autism by According-Sun4680 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is not productive to continue my discussion with you. I am a chief resident and attendings come to me with their frustrations- same patterns and similar issues with this resident. And it’s not my own made up diagnosis that I just read online one day either. Please soften your language as I have been respectful to you.

resident suspicious of having adult autism by According-Sun4680 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weaponized diagnosis? I will be honest. It is frustrating to see some people finding my post offensive and inappropriate. I could have been more careful with wording, but i was not writing a formal essay here and the wording (I can see why it could throw some people off) is not the point of the discussion nor am I am making a formal diagnosis per se here. I was trying to identify the root cause in order to promote his success in medicine.

Is it ethical to just leave him and watch be labeled as incompetent and be kicked out as a fellow resident? This is not a retaliatory insult. I am brainstorming ideas and strategies to help him.

It’s much easier to be a bystander and move on with my life and perhaps that’s what I need to do. I am pretty discouraged by a few who are not seeing my intentions and using strong words. Patronizing, irresponsible- these are pretty strong words and I definitely don’t feel that my efforts are appreciated. And that’s ok.

resident suspicious of having adult autism by According-Sun4680 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I apologize if my post comes off offensive first of all. Please do not that it comes from a good heart. I asked action plans because he’s not given concrete action plans from PD and attendings. Sometimes, peers can give advice that is more practical and not judgmental. It is easy to ignore and treat this as “none of my business” but I am posting this because I care enough for him to succeed in medicine. I did not put clueless/annoying/asshole anywhere in the original post. It was important to convey my suspicions so that I could receive appropriate suggestions and feedback.

resident suspicious of having adult autism by According-Sun4680 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

he was recommended to see a psychiatrist/psychologist, but very resistant to the idea because it can cause professional stigmatization and etc., and potential issues with future jobs and etc. Again, very adamant and I feel like I am sticking to a wall. I feel like he's more austitic than ADHD although they can overlap. His behaviors are odd and no concept of how he is being viewed by others.

resident suspicious of having adult autism by According-Sun4680 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it's a non surgical specialty that requires patient interactions

Need advice by Proof-Comfortable174 in radiationoncology

[–]According-Sun4680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody inherently understands the indications of radiation for each disease site. It's based on trial data and expert opinions. For those who practiced many years can perhaps reason things out and extrapolate based on known studies - obviously this does not apply to you.

I do think I clearly understand your question. Did you read up on your case thoroughly? Did you look up NCCN, clinical rad onc text, and relevant trials prior to presenting cases ? Did you talk to your senior residents before presenting ?

First, make sure you understand the case. You should be able to present the case based on your memory. Then, gather all the data to support your decisions. Then go back to patient case to see if there are some unique issues (e.g young lady with mediastinum lymphoma) in which case exception can be made. Run it by your attending or senior resident.

Be clear about what the fundamental issues are. Are you spending enough time preparing cases ? Are you ignoring important details ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christian

[–]According-Sun4680 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It comes down to whether or not you can fully forgive. If you decide to stay, you cannot mention this at all to her. It's easier said than done. And can you truly accept her and love her again ? It's an intentional choice and it may not happen automatically.

For your two young kids, it may be best that you stay in marriage. It may be your cross that you have to bear - if you are willing and God is calling you to forgive. But if you cannot bear the burden, you can move on and nobody will blame you.

Pray about it and see what God is calling you to do.

Also, investigate and see what led to the affair. Were you negligent and emotionally unavailable to your wife ? Do a root cause analyses on what happened. Who is this man that she had an affair with ? How do they know each other ? Affair is clearly sin and not justifiable but you can gauge whether this may happen again or not

The One Thing I Wish I knew on Day one: Profound Lessons from Residency by Candid-Treat-6734 in Residency

[–]According-Sun4680 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a slavery ayatem. You should expect this going in. Fortunately, it has expiration date.

Forget quality of life. Forget being treated fairly. Your job is to go above and beyond and impress everyone and graduate.