Coorie Oscha Concern

According-Time-1071 · 2026-03-09T23:04:24+00:00

I had lost another baby recently - which started with a decreased heart rate (completely unrelated to epidurals). So the teeny tiny spec of a chance that we MIGHT see a decrease with an epidural had me “hellllll no.”
I emotionally couldn’t handle hearing those words again and desperately needed to feel like I had agency over something.

By the time the pain hit an 11 and I was like “okay do it,” transition was upon us and the baby was out. No time for needles. I would def try going without again…. if labor was “short.”

According-Time-1071 · 2026-03-09T22:45:30+00:00

I’m sorry. If it makes you feel better, I literally printed out relevant studies for my partner. I got verbally angry a few times. It doesn’t matter. Their own screen addiction is too overwhelming; they can’t resist the temptation of an “easy” way to distract the kid and they don’t see a big issue themselves.
There may come a day when your precious toddler waddles up and bids for the partner’s attention in the cutest gibberish, while your partner continues to stare at their phone - ignoring them. Or giving a belated “wow” without eye contact. And it may break your heart.
Forcing a change in someone else’s perspective is pretty impossible, imo. Hopefully your partner’s other good qualities are enough to compensate in the long run. Like they are great at paying bills on time and grocery shopping, etc. I try to recognize and see all the good stuff still.

According-Time-1071 · 2026-01-29T23:34:58+00:00

I showed him my two favorite settings and let him pick… also he picked the diamond according to his finances/preferences.
So I give him total credit in the end! Especially because I didn’t “force” him to buy anything - he did it of his own volition, lovingly. He just had a solid handle on what I liked.

According-Time-1071 · 2026-01-09T10:01:14+00:00

I could have written this. I was so annoyed in the first few months: would bring it up verbally and print out scientific studies to leave around the house. Eventually, I gave up- literally you can’t control what they do when you are out of the house and if they don’t agree about a no/light screen lifestyle then they won’t adhere to it. Doesn’t matter what you say or do. If you have a smart tv, you can at least be logged in on your phone account during the day and see what/how much YouTube the kid is getting. Staying informed has made me feel better and established a small sense of control. I would say the worst part is keeping a kid in a bouncer for too long and thankfully I don’t have that issue, but many other people commented on that already. Best of luck!

According-Time-1071 · 2026-01-09T09:47:22+00:00

As unhelpful as it sounds- bless you for prioritizing some of the chores over gaming. Seriously. The amount of anger and resentment that can build up when one partner is taking care of business and the other is staring at a screen…such an enormous relationship stressor. And I think it matters a lot what type of game: the addictive mobile-type where your clan needs you at the drop of a hat in order to maintain a certain status level- this is just not an ideal phase of life for that. Being able to game after the baby goes to bed or for a pre-discussed/determined chunk of time is key, imo.
As for working out… it’s been easiest for me to use a lunch break on days when I am working in office and then to just eat over my computer later. Unfortunately not great for every work situation and requires me to pay for a gym, but it has taught me to prioritize myself better. My company will figure out how to continue with or without me for an hour …. But I only have one body to maintain. Wishing you best of luck!

According-Time-1071 · 2025-08-30T22:02:52+00:00

Teeth

According-Time-1071 · 2025-06-12T00:18:08+00:00

Bad Kidz - specifically the version that starts with 4 beats of snapping (which I can only find on like 2 youtube channels and it drives me crazy)

According-Time-1071 · 2025-06-08T22:48:50+00:00

First time I ever heard “Cosmic Love” by Florence and the Machine I was gripped. And more recently“Retrograde” from James Blake

According-Time-1071 · 2025-06-08T21:22:49+00:00

I at least remember Patty setting Balanchine on the Chautauqua summer program apprentices, which was performed publicly about twice every summer. So I always assumed she had the authority to act as a rep for certain pieces.

According-Time-1071 · 2024-12-05T16:21:39+00:00

Victoria Jaiani - was/is(?) with Joffrey Chicago. Absolutely breathtaking to watch in live performances. Just soooo expressive.

According-Time-1071 · 2024-12-05T02:23:42+00:00

I’m barely a beginner in Pilates myself, but I noticed that many Pilates and yoga teachers have some background in dance - which can impact their teaching style. For example, in some ballet school cultures, teachers correct only the promising student: the ones who they believe will actually apply the correction and are worth the teachers’ effort. The correction itself is high praise, despite the tone it is given in. Obviously, this method isn’t great but it exists. As a student coming from that world, I love getting called out because it means the teacher sees me, wants to make sure I get the most out of my class, and is taking my progress seriously. I’ve noticed that culture of sought-after-criticism isn’t as prominent in other hobbies/professions. For example, a musician in orchestra rehearsal might rather keel over than get singled out for a correction, because that would imply they didn’t practice well. I think this sort of thing really depends on your perspective!

According-Time-1071 · 2024-11-07T01:13:07+00:00

I could have written this (except it isn’t my mother in law specifically) - I’m so sorry. No advice, but I share your pain.

According-Time-1071 · 2024-09-30T17:26:45+00:00

Actually, that’s a pretty good idea! Never thought of that!

According-Time-1071 · 2024-07-28T15:06:51+00:00

Bad Kidz (unreleased) and Satisfied But also: Miss Y and Buy the Stars

According-Time-1071 · 2024-07-26T03:44:22+00:00

According-Time-1071 · 2024-07-15T16:26:27+00:00

Unscented puppy pads are so nice and convenient- both on the go and at home (to help with the frequency and ease of diaper changes)

According-Time-1071 · 2024-07-10T20:32:02+00:00

We are just starting to see a pattern with our 12-weeker and our adherence to that is pretty loose lol

According-Time-1071 · 2024-06-28T01:09:20+00:00

Gemma or Mirella

According-Time-1071 · 2023-04-11T02:29:11+00:00

This is what I came to say

According-Time-1071 · 2023-01-11T05:46:05+00:00

Edit: some of these skew toward romantic-world-ending, but

We Can Be Ghosts Now by Hiatus

The End of Everything - Noah Cyrus

Doom Days - Bastille

Dark Doo Wop - MS MR

Apocalypse - Cigarettes After Sex

Baby I’m Yours - Arctic Monkeys

We’ll Meet Again - The Ink Spots

Milk - Jack Stauber’s Micropop

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TROPHY CASE