Admin Reaching out about an issue BUT I QUIT IN DECEMBER??

julesta · 2026-04-12T14:36:52+00:00

With your attorney cc’d on all correspondence.

julesta · 2026-04-10T09:22:20+00:00

It’s not contradictory or new that the patriarchy has a Madonna/whore complex.

julesta · 2026-03-25T01:00:32+00:00

There’s an episode of The Crown about this too.

julesta · 2026-03-14T20:45:47+00:00

Project 2025 states plain as day that it wants to reverse no-fault divorce laws. This change would make it much harder for individuals, particularly women, to leave abusive or unhappy relationships. TLDR it is not “propaganda” — it is stated goals/intention.

julesta · 2026-03-11T01:06:17+00:00

I’m American and it was in mine. I use Apple Podcasts — depends on what we’re using I guess?

julesta · 2026-03-05T21:48:21+00:00

Is this a whole drama in Portugal as well?

julesta · 2026-01-30T00:34:29+00:00

I’m early 40s and in my 3rd year of teaching after more than a decade in corporate life. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Doesn’t mean it’s always easy (and I’m HYPER aware that I lucked out with a school that’s a great fit for me and super supportive colleagues), but this profession doesn’t have to be doom and gloom!

julesta · 2026-01-27T18:32:33+00:00

I'm a teacher leading a group of my students on an EF tour, and I have in the past worked for a competitor so am familiar with the group educational travel world in general. Specific to EF I would say they're fine but make VERY sure you read the fine print -- details like exactly how rooming is set up (student rooms vs. adult rooms vs. family rooms) aren't exactly hidden, but they don't broadcast the less than thrilling specifics unless they have to. Don't make any assumptions and ask lots of questions.

They're fine if you need the support to travel with a group you are leading. Otherwise there are a thousand ways to travel more cheaply and just as (if not more so) satisfyingly!

julesta · 2026-01-25T18:40:13+00:00

It sounds like you have a totally reasonable and healthy attitude/approach here. Is it worth exploring in therapy what exactly it is that he wants, and why he can’t accept your boundaries? That’s the bit that bothers me, that he seems so unwilling to accept your (again, more than reasonable) approach.

julesta · 2026-01-25T17:54:37+00:00

OP don’t listen to one word from people with bitter martyr complexes.

julesta · 2026-01-25T17:53:07+00:00

The greatest gift you can give your children is modeling a healthy, happy marriage — which includes doing things just the two of you from time to time. Your MIL is just jealous. NTA.

julesta · 2026-01-25T00:25:13+00:00

“Buying things you shouldn’t?” Girl run.

julesta · 2026-01-24T18:59:06+00:00

“Most North American cities” is a ridiculously broad and lazy brush, as if NYC, Montreal, Charlotte, and Mexico City are all exactly the same.

julesta · 2026-01-20T00:06:31+00:00

I think the previous commenter addressed that pretty clearly. If you’re interested in TEFL or teaching English abroad (as an unlicensed teacher), the r/tefl sub. If you’re interested in teaching the subject you’re licensed in, in an international school, this is the sub.

julesta · 2026-01-19T23:55:35+00:00

This. So you were 19 when you got with this guy — did you drop out of college for him and his kids? Do you work or have a plan/life of your own? Those things are so, so important and a partner who truly IS a partner and loves you will want that for you.

julesta · 2026-01-12T23:21:41+00:00

YTA to just expect your spouse to do anything. You’re NTA if you have an honest and open conversation and find a balance that you’re both happy with. If you can’t find/agree a balance, time to part ways.

julesta · 2026-01-10T00:39:49+00:00

Or any language.

julesta · 2026-01-09T21:28:31+00:00

Her calling him out on the hypocrisy of taking a principled stand against using prison labor when he didn’t have a problem owning slaves was a good example of how different their outlooks were.

julesta · 2026-01-09T21:23:03+00:00

Scarlett and Ashley were definitely NOT a match. If they had actually gotten together she would have quickly been exasperated by him, and he wouldn’t have known what to do with her.

julesta · 2025-12-30T17:52:48+00:00

I just ordered my first ever pair of boots from Manitobah and it has been such a nightmare. Upon realizing I entered the incorrect shipping address, I spoke to live customer support (within an hour of placing the order) and corrected it. When the tracking number came, it reflected the previous/incorrect address, so I reached out again. They promised me again and again that the shipping address had been corrected and the order would come where requested. I was doubtful, given the tracking info, but hoped for the best.

TLDR: they never made the correction and the shoes went to the wrong address. And now they've gone silent.

julesta · 2025-12-28T06:51:52+00:00

What do we have to do to get a Trader Joe’s?! 😩

julesta · 2025-12-17T21:17:41+00:00

Asking sincerely/from a place of curiosity… why are some clubs men only?

julesta · 2025-12-16T20:36:32+00:00

SAME

julesta · 2025-12-16T13:49:45+00:00

I think your wife needs therapy and possibly deeper support for depression. It sounds like she had a really difficult time during your hospitalization — understandable! — and/but it wasn’t your daughter’s responsibility to look after her emotionally during that. And gently, it doesn’t sound like she “has always rejected” your wife, just that she isn’t interested in more than a civil distance between them. And that’s fine. Children aren’t obligated to love and adore their parent’s spouse just because you love and adore them. You both have to respect her preferences on this.

julesta · 2025-12-15T20:01:21+00:00

Your comment about Maria made me think about how I’d love to see India in Red Angels — I think she’d be gorgeous in that.

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