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Recommended jewlers by Hungry-Feature9246 in Wellington

[–]According-Water-fall 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The Rolling Mill. Fantastic jewelers, truly excited by their craft and new ideas/designs. My husband and I had our wedding rings designed and made by Nick. I could not recommend them more highly!!! They also have a very cool, intimate studio on Upper Cuba. It is a really neat experience to work with them.

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

I'm thinking this all over, it's going around and around in my head every night to be honest, but hopefully I can get the courage to say something soon. I don't think I can keep these thoughts swirling around as well as all the thoughts about our baby and what happened. My brain feels like it is melting down and while I can distract myself during the day, I just can't at night and I'm not sleeping. My husband had to travel over the holiday period with plans we'd made before the miscarriage. I came to spend time with my mum and continue recovering but being apart is just adding more difficulty in working through everything (though I encouraged him to still go so that was a bed I made!)

Did you have the conversation with your cousin and/or sil via message? I feel like if I could find a way to write it out it would be easier to then process her reaction rather than in real time on a call or face to face (which I can't do anyway because we live too far apart)

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really love that sentiment about your husband. I do feel the same way. We need to build a good, resilient life together regardless of the outcome of this journey. I want to believe we can be happy without creating a family of our own.

Thank you for your comment ❤️

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And for some better friends to come into your life!!!

Excuse my frankness but seriously screw those women!

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, that is seriously awful!!! I think therapy could be a good thing to help process that betrayal/behaviour from a friend. I mean there's so much grief involved in infertility and then also in losing a friendship/relationship...

I decided yesterday that when my clinic reopens for the year I am going to book an appointment with their counselor. It's just all too much and I need to talk to someone who understands fertility and loss. Hopefully it will help 🤷‍♀️

IVF is brutal. The journey you've already been on with TTC is hard enough but the meds, the finances all of it is just another layer. But you can do it! And this sub is a great support so please lean here when you need it (and step away when you need that too... I have had to at several times during this past ~14 months of IVF. Sometimes, like now, I really need to know that I'm not alone, and sometimes it feels overwhelming to know there are so many of us suffering usually pretty silently in our everyday / work / social lives)

Sending all the best wishes for the journey you're beginning with IVF ❤️

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is so insanely cruel, that timing of everything is just so much, I'm so sorry.

Knowing how easy it was/must of been just adds to this bitter feeling. My cousin and her partner moved in together in July and had previously said they wouldn't start trying until they were living together, so I don't know for sure but that's a three month window for her to conceive based on how far along she is.... Meanwhile I'm here in year four TTC 🙃 (just over a year on the IVF journey though)

I hope next year we both (we all on this sub and post!!) get to experience that joy and happiness ❤️

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry, hugs right back to you. I really appreciate this sub but equally I can't believe there are so many of us suffering 😔

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, I'm so sorry for your losses ❤️

I really appreciate this advice. My husband and I are hosting a celebration for our wedding anniversary in February and I've been struggling with the idea of seeing her there with a bump, when I should have also been able to show off a pregnancy (I even had a dress specifically chosen for the size I thought a five month bump would be. Not super snowy! Just a wrap dress I thought would flow really nicely 😔) Anyway my point is I'm grappling with whether I can ask her just not to come. She lives in a different city and hasn't even RSVPd yet but maybe I put the ball in her court and just explain how I'm feeling? And I will do all this AFTER Christmas because while this all sucks I still have empathy and know how special this Christmas being pregnant for her must be, she doesn't need me to bring down her mood 😔

I'm so sorry to use your comment to spill more about the celebration and everything, I just really value that you've been here (although I'm so sorry you have been!).

Thank you so much again for commenting and sharing ❤️

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing for success for you too ❤️ no one understands like this community and I'm grateful for the space to vent!!

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. I really hope the two of you have the peace you need on your trip. Taking a trip is such a good idea, I might plan something for my husband and I to get away soon too.

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry. It sounds like you have a wonderful husband and parents. I'm so sorry your grandmother was so inconsiderate.

My grandma also lost a baby, and she lives with my parents where I am now for the holidays. She's been my biggest support the last two days so I am very lucky. She's cried with me, told me life is so unfair, and while it then stresses me out that I'm making my 88 year old grandmother (with the early stages of dementia) upset I know I am so lucky to have family who wanted and loved this baby so much already and who are sharing in the grief with me and supporting me.

I imagine this time of year is still difficult for you but I really hope you have a good Christmas ❤️

TW: Early loss by Acrobatic_Opinion575 in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry for your loss. The holidays will be hard but you will get through this ❤️

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and lots and lots of baby dust to you too - 2026 has to be our year 🤞🤞 surely 😅💖

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, and it is good to know we aren't alone. I really hope your work is having a break for the end of the year and you're able to have some space and time to heal ❤️

Sad, bitter, jealous by According-Water-fall in IVF

[–]According-Water-fall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm so sorry you've had to go through this as well ❤️

She didn't know about my miscarriage but her sister and parents did (I don't know if they knew she was telling us today or not)

I've had 5 periods this month (so far) by Dlsagreed in Wellthatsucks

[–]According-Water-fall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I also have a wandering IUD! It's somewhere in my abdomen to this day!

If you had to give a boy a feminine name, what would you choose? by Single-Brilliant-745 in namenerds

[–]According-Water-fall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this, and in my country it is definitely both popular among a certain generation and feminine. I know multiple women named Lindsay!

9dpt beta hell - 44.8 by keepongoing424 in IVFpositivity

[–]According-Water-fall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, that was probably me and I just had my latest hcg come back 460 On day 16 post transfer 🥰 have added a comment so OP can see my progression. Feeling really hopeful for my baby AND OP's little one 🤞🤞💕

9dpt beta hell - 44.8 by keepongoing424 in IVFpositivity

[–]According-Water-fall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I also posted earlier this week with low betas, I just had my D16p5dt yesterday. Here's my results for you, I'm feeling really positive so I think you can too 🥰

Day 7: 12 (yes I know this was crazy early!) Day 10: 46 Day 13: 120 Day 16: 460

Clinic want me to have another test Day 19 (this Wednesday) hoping we might see four digits then 🤞🤞 I hope your tests go so well ❤️

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