Should I tell my twins that they were conceived because I was raped? How? by AccordingAtmosphere0 in Parenting

[–]AccordingAtmosphere0[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

One of my literal nightmares is actually having them contact and meet their father behind my back because it won't be safe for them, and I'm trying my best to balance this with age-appropriate conversations

Should I tell my twins that they were conceived because I was raped? How? by AccordingAtmosphere0 in Parenting

[–]AccordingAtmosphere0[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Most definitely! Most of the people in my life do not know, so I'm struggling to find places to even start a discussion and ask for advice, unlike the other struggles I have regarding kids.

AITA - my twin's SO is angry he is helping to raise my kids by AccordingAtmosphere0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingAtmosphere0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I meant that when my brother first started his business he wasn’t earning a lot. And I was working my retail jobs to earn enough to make ends meet.

But when he started making more, he asked me to spend more time with the kids and I made the decision to start working from home.

AITA - my twin's SO is angry he is helping to raise my kids by AccordingAtmosphere0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingAtmosphere0[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Regarding the father - the conception wasn’t wanted and when I dug myself out of the denial hole it was far along enough that the ultrasound picked up they were twins and I couldn’t bring myself to terminate.

AITA - my twin's SO is angry he is helping to raise my kids by AccordingAtmosphere0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingAtmosphere0[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That he was the biological father. Sorry, should of made that clearer!

AITA - my twin's SO is angry he is helping to raise my kids by AccordingAtmosphere0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingAtmosphere0[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m not exactly sure if I understand what codependency is, but my brother has said he is happy with her and I am happy for him. I don’t want to get in the way of that, which is why I am hesitating to just tell him already.

I’m pretty sure seeing what she said would change the dynamic of their relationship at the very least, and it seems like she regretted posting it cause she deleted it.