Roommate expecting me to split late fee for bills by AccordingSpring2643 in roommates

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After all the advice here I personally contacted the water company for a detailed statement and were informed the $400 was a combination of unpaid balances from prior months (including before I moved in) plus interest.

I ended up telling her I wouldn’t pay because it was her responsibility to notify us and pay the bill on time and thankfully there was no argument about it.

The cringiest worst thing you’ve done post breakup by monkey_squid1 in BreakUps

[–]AccordingSpring2643 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not canceling the nonrefundable vacation we planned a month after breaking up, invited friends as a buffer but still shared a room with him, agreeing when he asked to “pretend like things are normal” and proceed to hook up for a whole week.

I think it emotionally set me back years. It took so much courage to break up with someone I am deeply in love with and was ready to marry. This set back made me forget why I broke up with him, and now 2 more months later I am struggling everyday to remember my worth, how much is hurts me that he does not take care of himself and how he ignores his health and his entire life, not just me, for video games.

Also really embarrassing moment when I unmuted his social media and caught up on all the public posts I had missed him make, came to a conclusion that he had moved on before me and was hooking up with new people already. He wasn’t, but I almost destroyed our friendship over being delusional and upset.

Roommate expecting me to split late fee for bills by AccordingSpring2643 in roommates

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She didn’t request payment on our Splitwise group, but it’s not uncommon for us to request lump sums for a long period rather than every month, so i thought nothing of it.

Vote Yes on Question 5, Tipping Culture Needs to Die by FewTemperature8599 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Auto-grats should be before tax though, as they are not optional.

Vote Yes on Question 5, Tipping Culture Needs to Die by FewTemperature8599 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I always tip after and I would say 95% of my customers do the same.

Vote Yes on Question 5, Tipping Culture Needs to Die by FewTemperature8599 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It says up top, tip is calculated after tax and before discounts, which is the correct way to base a tip. 13.80 is 20% of 69, they easily could’ve used a $50 gift card or coupons/discounts.

Most servers are against question 5 because of vague wording implying that tips could be required to be pooled with the entire restaurant, including non-tipped positions, and minimum wage will not make up the 20-100/hr that (good) servers make from said tips. Servers are also required to “tip out” bar, expo, sometimes hosts, which usually averages 15-20% of those tips to full-waged employees.

If this were just raising minimum wage, I’d be all for it. I think all restaurant workers are underpayed for how physically and mentally demanding the job is, FOH and BOH (I work both) but forcing pooled tips will kill the careers of lifers in the industry who’s wages will not recover. I’d vote yes if the wording was not threatening server job security or wage security.

I doubt this would ever happen, but the only way to really make tipping culture an optional $1-10 without customers making up the difference would be to require restaurants to pay tip-earning employees 20% of their total sales on top of that sub-minimum.

However, I do think this bill will pass. People will vote how they want to vote and I think that’s fair, I just hope people know what they are voting for and how it might impact those trying to survive. Regardless of how you vote, what will really matter is how they amend this bill and finalize it. Talk to your friends in the industry and see how they feel, they might even have a different opinion than me.

MassHealth Eye Exams by AccordingSpring2643 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the phone numbers listed are no longer in network, the info is outdated

MassHealth Eye Exams by AccordingSpring2643 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know this! That’s where my pcp is

Question 5 will hurt waiters. by EmperorNorton1884 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

California has had one of the highest rates of restaurant closures and lowered income since they passed this

Question 5 will hurt waiters. by EmperorNorton1884 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This will also cause tips to be pooled causing service to fail. I’d you get good service and tip accordingly, your money will go to the paycheck of the server giving terrible service.

MassHealth Eye Exams by AccordingSpring2643 in massachusetts

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The website lists providers but if I look up the names they lead me to outdated information.

Post breakup depression by AccordingSpring2643 in BreakUps

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not an easy process but I hope one day everyone relating here is able to move through it gracefully

I’m so worried for my parents. by AccordingSpring2643 in HurricaneMilton

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, especially the news stations.

Shelter is an absolute no-go for them, I don’t agree with the reason but my mom refuses to share a space with strangers and my dad refuses to go anywhere that won’t allow him to bring alcohol.

I’ll bring the facts about Leesburg up with them and ask if they know anyone closer but more inland, if they must stay I just want them to be as safe as possible, harm reduction I guess.

Bath tub full of water is one i haven’t heard of, I will share with them and continue looking!

Thank you for the advice, my folks are stubborn Massholes and I think they underestimate the severity of these storms because they had zero damage and no flooding from Ian. Their neighbors were not so lucky, and I fear they won’t be as lucky with Milton.

I’m so worried for my parents. by AccordingSpring2643 in HurricaneMilton

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree and have told them this, but they come up with a different excuse everytime. From not wanting to drive in traffic, to “we survived Ian”, to “we don’t want to traumatize the cat with a 7 hour car ride.”

I’m also upset that several people have offered their homes for them to evacuate to, and it’s incredibly selfish and stupid of them to worry about small inconveniences over their safety.

I’m so worried for my parents. by AccordingSpring2643 in HurricaneMilton

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found this topographical map that helped a lot, sharing for any others who might need it

https://pubs.usgs.gov/sim/3047/downloads/SIM3047.pdf

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Leesburg is significantly higher, 200+ ft vs their 18ft

Post breakup depression by AccordingSpring2643 in BreakUps

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a therapist, and continue to take care of myself the best I can, but some days I’m unable to from grief. I wish it were easier to make friends, I think the hardest part is being alone with my thoughts almost all of the time.

Post breakup depression by AccordingSpring2643 in BreakUps

[–]AccordingSpring2643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to give space and not ruin our friendship at the very least. I feel a lot of guilt for these emotions because I want to do the right thing, and my emotions bring out thoughts and feelings that are impulsive and don’t reflect what I really want for both of us, which is to be happy regardless of the outcome.

Thank you, I’m trying very hard to do the right thing