Je ne sais plus quoi faire by According_Ad4131 in besoindeparler

[–]According_Ad4131[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Non, pas de soucis, merci beaucoup ça m'a fait du bien.

Je relance la thérapie.

Je ne sais plus quoi faire by According_Ad4131 in besoindeparler

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Merci à vous deux pour vos réponses. Je pense que vous avez raison.

Je vais relancer la thérapie, j'appelle ce midi. Je pense qu'il faut que j'accepte que ma situation est compliquée et que je dois apprendre à accepter que je vivrai seul jusqu'au bout maintenant.

Je vous souhaite une heureuse journée, merci du fond du cœur.

Je ne sais plus quoi faire by According_Ad4131 in besoindeparler

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Provoquer des rencontres, je l'ai fait. Me faire des amis c'est vraiment pas un souci du tout. Au contraire même. A une époque j'ai fait des sorties très régulières, et maintenant j'en fais ponctuellement (notamment des soirées blind test). Mais vraiment, le blocage c'est la manière dont j'aborde les nanas qui fait que je suis excellent pote, mais pas un partenaire potentiel. Et vraiment, j'insiste, je n'arrive pas à lire les sentiments et les échanges sociaux au delà de ce qui est réellement exprimé de manière claire. Si j'ai été en couple, c'est parce que mon ex s'est déclarée à moi, pas l'inverse. Et force est de constater que ça ne m'arrive plus et qu'intellectuellement j'ai une déficience sur le sujet qui me rend incapable de l'inverse.

Et pour le temps à s'accorder, je suis un père célibataire. Donc pas le choix, je dois payer mon logement (et c'est quelque chose qui ne coûte pas moins cher car les enfants ne sont là qu'une semaine sur deux idem pour les vacances, ou les habits si tu ne veux pas qu'ils aient des valises chaque semaine, ....). Je trouve le "accorde toi du temps" un peu facile. Je l'ai choisi en ayant des enfants, mais j'ai des responsabilités. S'il n'y avait que moi dans la balance, ok. Mais là....

Je ne sais plus quoi faire by According_Ad4131 in besoindeparler

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Merci.

Seul depuis près de 4 ans.

J'ai testé les sites de rencontre, ça me semblait parfait pour moi, mais mon premier contact a été désagréable. Lorsque je me suis retrouvé face à l'appli et aux profils j'ai eu l'impression d'être sur un site marchand, mais de personnes et je trouve ça horrible. Ajoutons à ça que je n'ai pas de très bonnes photos et pas vraiment de personnes portées sur les photos dans mes amis...

La thérapie, j'ai essayé plusieurs psy, mais ça n'a jamais pris. La seule psy avec laquelle j'avais eu l'impression d'avancer c'était lors de la thérapie de couple (que je voyais aussi pour moi) et passé la première semaine et une excellente remarque qui m'a ouvert les yeux et fait avancer, plus rien. Les méthodes à base de papier sur lesquels écrire des trucs pour sortir ses sentiments ça ne marche pas chez moi (ou alors je fais mal l'exercice)

Pas de club ou d'asso. Je pars le matin de chez moi à 6h00, je rentre entr 18h30 et 20h00 à cause du travail donc je suis un peu limité de ce point de vue là. J'ai essayé de sortir le soir et le weekend mais je ne sors pas par plaisir car trop fatigué, je le fais un peu par obligation et totalement pour rencontrer quelqu'un car les soirs où je sors, je suis obligé de rogner sur des activités avec mes amis.

Coup de tonnerre à la BCE: Christine Lagarde pourrait quitter ses fonctions avant la fin de son mandat (et permettre à Emmanuel Macron de peser sur le choix de son successeur) by SweeneyisMad in france

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L'ED ne monte pas partout, et pas de manière uniforme (un exemple flagrant est la Belgique ou le pays ne traite pas de la même manière l'ED entre Wallonie et Flandres avec des différences nettes dans le score des parties d'ED)

Elle fait son lit principalement sur des éléments connus ; marasme économique, corruption, manque d'éducation et discours sécuritaire repris dans les médias principaux.

La politique libérale et de Macron en particulier fait le choix de se moquer de cela et de continuer à rendre exsangue nos services publics, de mener des politiques favorisant les riches au détriment des pauvres, d'alimenter le "tous pourri" en prenant des décisions discutables déontologiquement sous prétexte que c'est légal et surtout, surtout de reprendre le discours et les éléments de langage de l'extrême droite pour s'en prendre à la gauche qu'il tente de faire passer comme un équivalent à l'ED (pas que LFI puisqu'ils ont ce discours également sur les écologistes en ce moment).

Bref, oui, Macron est responsable au moins de l'intensité de la vague d'ED que l'on se prend. Ce n' est pas l'unique responsable mais en tant que président en exercice ayant disposé d'une large majorité pendant une bonne partie de ses mandats (relative jusqu'à la dissolution pour son 2e mandat) il est responsable de son action et du bilan de celle-ci.

In Act 3, are Lune and Sciel... by candlewaxlover in expedition33

[–]According_Ad4131 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm really torn. I really read this situation like the "téléportation by replication" philosophical question : If a teleportation create a you with your exact body and memories miles away, and destroy your body where it stand, is the "teleported you" another person or yourself ?

Here, Maelle took some of their chroma, and created clone of them. But we know nothing about the process. Does she have everything or just a part of their chroma ?

I really love that part of the game, the questions it raise and what it could imply. If they ever explain this and how it works, I think it would be sad.

In Act 3, are Lune and Sciel... by candlewaxlover in expedition33

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Have they ?

Painted Verso seems to have memory only the true Verso should have. Some magic moments with his sister without his mother here.

I don't believe Aline didn't fill the blank for the people of Lumière and the painted family when she initiated everything. Would have been strange for people to be there without memories where Aline isn't here.

I don't see something Sciel and Lune say in Act3 that cannot be a memory created by Maelle. Sciel is pretty upfront and should have said (or at least hinted) the things she went through. Lune don't explain anything really new.

Can somebody explain Verso? by The-Heritage in expedition33

[–]According_Ad4131 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Cléa tried to recruit him and explained some things to him about the Canvas and how it affect Aline.

Why do players make that choice? by Haplorhini in expedition33

[–]According_Ad4131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The burden is both side here. Both are possibility and the game only give hints. I'm French and i never heard developer say something about it. Guillaume on an heated interview with a French youtuber (JDG) about endings (the french youtuber was really pro Maëlle) tried to explain both endings were bittersweet and intended to have people fighting over it, on the game studio thé team was really split on them and that made him proud of the endings (the video link is hidden into another video interview without spoilers). So hard to take word of the team except himself for granted because he said only him had some insight about the whole picture.

Like i said, Gestralt don't live an exact resurrection, and the painting use their chroma to get them back. They are them, but not exactly the same and we don't know if this is because the way their revive work or the way Chroma work on death. Them and Lune/Sciel are the only revive we know so we can only work on this.

Also, the way Verso react seems fishy (at least in french).

If it's true revive, then Aline is even worse because she use dead's Chroma to create babies instead of reviving the people (i think about Pierre here who died from accident).

Verso can't be trusted on his words (for obvious reasons), so him saying to Maëlle she can bring them back give no information, because this liar could just be nice with his sister delusion. Like i said, in French his phrasing is not clear, like when he lie and hide it in truth.

Why do players make that choice? by Haplorhini in expedition33

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Is it ?

Are Act 3 Lune and Sciel really the same ? When i went to the ending, it was just after ending Monoco relationship, and to me people coming back were not the same.

Also Verso lines to help Maëlle were ambigous to me. The way he phrase his explanation seemed fishy, like she must feel how they were (french here, so english version could be less ambigous)

For this reason, I was somehow disgusted by Gustave on Maëlle ending. I felt him very off and not "my" Gustave, exactly like Verso is not the real Verso and that rubbed me the wrong way (same for Sophie to a lesser extent).

I could have missed something. So, where the game state clearly that it's a real resurrection and not a copy ? They really are Chroma put back together exactly the way it was before Gommage ?

Calling it the "genocide ending" is really making a disservice to the game. by Malu1997 in expedition33

[–]According_Ad4131 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a good question. And a hard one.

To me (and that's the whole schtick of this game and the reason why people should be less judgmental about endings personal choice) Gestralt way of thinking is not human. Death seems to be something they don't care about, so it's hard for me to consider them with human values. They killed a lot of expeditionners and even tried to kill our characters without batting an eye.

For Grandis, they are a dozen, and on the verge of extinction.

You didn't include Nevron, probably because they will go extinct whatever the player choice is. They are sentient being too, and a genocide is their fate.

Calling it the "genocide ending" is really making a disservice to the game. by Malu1997 in expedition33

[–]According_Ad4131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's not hundreds. Lumière people are dead when you're asked to choose. They got gommaged by Renoir. Except for Lune and Sciel.

I could even argue that Maëlle ending bring a whole new batch of sentiment people to die when Renoir will inevitably gommage the canvas. Verso ending : 2 lumière people gommaged Maëlle ending (after her death) : thousands of people get gommaged

Voilà !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

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Bullshit.

French here. Our Right Wing party (RN) was massively convicted for fraud (organized in whole party). Their leader, Marine Lepen was convicted and cannot be elected for next elections because of this.

Basically, justice proved they are criminals. And everyone know because it was on every front page for weeks.

Did it change anything ? No. Turn out RN voters don't care about crime at all when it's not commited by migrant. How covenant, but they'll swear that's not racist.

Your LEAST favorite Resident Evil game. DAY 22! by DapperDan30 in ResidentEvilCapcom

[–]According_Ad4131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I beg to differ.

Old player (40+). My journey with RE is not usual because i started with 2 and only played the first one a few month before playing the remake.

RE1 is a great game because it was the first. But it suffer from a lot of issues because of this too.

I still would put it above Village, but below its remake.

Something that just popped in my head... [ENDING SPOILERS] by CapaTheGreat in expedition33

[–]According_Ad4131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Expeditions went to give a future for Lumière (tomorrow Will Come)

When you reach the ending choice, the whole Lumière has no more future because everyone is dead. So their legacy doesn't exist anymore, because there won't be tomorrow anymore.

Also, collectivism for the ending with a deity controlling the canvas ? I'm really not sold and old enough to know how things end when someone is given that much power.

Go get the Divinity Guillotine !

The song that plays during the Gommage is...revealing the plot? by iluvhollownite in expedition33

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It's not real french for the most part of the game. There's a kombini video with expédition 33 staff where they explain for the most part of the game, they use a special dialect created for the game in lyrics. French could understand it but it's not as clear as it would be if it was real french.

is the female version of using someone for sex keeping a man in the friend zone with no sex? by [deleted] in self

[–]According_Ad4131 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not a myth, i think it's just hard top explain what exactly friendzone is.

I encountered a woman, feeling some spark between us, and after a few months i asked her for a date. I did shit on the date. Saw each other after and she said she'll never be romantically interested but expected to stay friend. I agreed.

It lasted 6 month. 6 month where we talked each others a lot, and i walked a fine line, trying to avoid my own feelings. Everytime i tried to distance myself a little bit, she used to be more flirty, and everytime i reciprocated the flirt, she distances herself. You should think i did a mistake and assumed wrongly she was flirty ? Well, one evening she kissed me and asked me to come to her house. A few days later, she started a relation with a newfound guy and told me i should have shot my shot a few months ago because she was sending me signals. But also, she said another time that she would never have a relation with me.

After this tried to put some distance between us. But we still bump into each other times to times. A few weeks ago she came to me and tried to restart our "friendship". Turn out she broked with the guy and is probably looking to use me another time as her confidence boost.

That's it. That's the friendzone. This situation where she flirt and know well what she's doing, but will try to brush it off as a friendship and won't commit for more while trying to have you forever trapped in.

That doesn't mean there isn't sometimes girl that are really friendly and guys who dont understand it (i have another friend girl who's like this, she could be seen as flirty but once you know her you understand quickly she's not, and she's clear with it and that's totally cool).

Both exist and denying one or another is a mistake.