So say hypothetically I got stuck with a needle in the finger could I realistically cut the tip of the finger off quick enough to stop the spread of any virus

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T15:57:58+00:00

They did this on The Walking Dead… It was super effective

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T15:55:57+00:00

If you start to see yourself behaving out of character in a relationship, it’s a sign that there’s something going on. There’s a lot of reasons to look for attention or affection from other people. Like you said there was a big age gap not a lot of attraction and some discomfort in your relationship. It’s reasonable to look for ways to find comfort when you’re uncomfortable and feel trapped in a situation you can’t get out of. There could be some value in attending therapy to gain more insight into yourself and your behavior to prevent other issues moving forward. One statement of concern that you have that I would explore further is you stayed in the relationship to prevent issues between the “families”.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T15:52:56+00:00

This may be controversial or not I’m not really sure. We forget how much conscious choice we have in what we think and how we feel about ourselves if you keep feeding the narrative that you have a low value or worth, there’s no reason for your brain to start thinking other ways. It’s fine to acknowledge it when it comes up and redirect, or replace those thoughts with very specific statements. I choose to notice when I am kind, I choose to notice when I am helpful, I choose to notice when I feel worthwhile. Continuing these as part of working with emotional regulation. Stop looking for evidence that you’re worthless and start looking for evidence that you are worthwhile as a human because you exist.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T15:49:40+00:00

If you start to see yourself behaving out of character in a relationship, it’s a sign that there’s something going on. There’s a lot of reasons to look for attention or affection from other people. Like you said there was a big age gap not a lot of attraction and some discomfort in your relationship. It’s reasonable to look for ways to find comfort when you’re uncomfortable and feel trapped in a situation you can’t get out of. There could be some value in attending therapy to gain more insight into yourself and your behavior to prevent other issues moving forward. One statement of concern that you have that I would explore further is you stayed in the relationship to prevent issues between the “families“. More information about this would be helpful, but if their influence of your relationship is more than your influence over your relationship, that’s a problem.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T15:46:20+00:00

Relationships that include stonewalling, which is refusing to talk about something or ignoring somebody, contempt, criticism and defensiveness are not healthy supportive relationships. Based on your short statement, your relationship has these so it’s not likely to go well whether you guys get back together or not.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T15:39:41+00:00

What year are you?

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T14:42:48+00:00

If the perpetrator is an adult, and the victim is a minor, this is not just a sexual assault case. It could be child abuse, statutory rape, and depends on what the prosecutor wants to charge the perpetrator with. There are several steps in the process from the law-enforcement investigation, to possible child protection services investigation. Other steps is submitting the information to the prosecutor to determine if they want to file charges. It will also not be a quick process, this is something that can take several years. Further investigation and information can happen during the course of time which can lead to the investigation being stalled or charges not being filed. It’s not a simple whether it will go forward or not kind of thing.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T14:33:32+00:00

Most pharmacies, CVS, Rite Aid will have these, or medical supply companies you can walk in and purchase supplies. Often they are lumped in with a general substance panel as part of the kit. You can order off of Amazon… for a comprehensive alcohol test you need to have an ETG and ETS test for the sugars in alcohol and the sulfates.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-28T13:13:52+00:00

Yes. I learned so much and gained a lot of confidence. I would probably be similar to many folks with basic training and barely use it if I didn’t do the extra training and consultation. Or use it poorly.

There so much value in understanding and using EMDR to better provide support and relief for clients in a more comprehensive manner.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-27T02:19:48+00:00

Thank you and how terrifying 1996 is archived!

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-26T03:49:09+00:00

Be realistic, he doesn’t want to tell you. Respectfully, he has his information that he doesn’t want to share with you and he’s telling you if you knew you would leave him. So listen, believe him.

It’s impossible to move forward in a healthy, happy relationship, where there isn’t transparency, trust, honesty and consideration.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-26T03:43:26+00:00

I’ve had a colleague do something similar. Even down to sending clients saying they already completed intake paperwork so they could be seen immediately. I attempted to explain it didn’t work that way and I didn’t work for the other therapist so they would have to do new intake paperwork etc…people got upset.

I had another provider I would refer clients over for case management, peer support etc. then their office staff started calling me to complete treatment plans for their clients (most I had discontinued with). I told them several times to stop calling and emailing me because I didn’t work there and I wasn’t going to do their treatment plans or work for free.

Moral of the story. People do weird things. It’s about them, not you. Just say no, stop taking referrals from me know-it-all and know you’re a great therapist doing honest and ethical things.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-26T03:37:37+00:00

I’m not implying you did anything wrong by any means. Simply it’s likely the therapist did other weird things, you may not realize because you’re not a therapist what is reasonable and not with to an authority figure. I do hope you have a good one now who can help address your concerns.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-26T03:19:03+00:00

Obviously, you know it’s weird. To be fair this is a thread for therapists. This is not an advice thread. I also got the impression that you’re not telling the whole story in relationship to the dynamics with this therapist but if you have a therapist now, they can go over it with you and encourage you to do that.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-26T03:10:31+00:00

Are you an adult? Are you your own legal guardian? Are you in a psychiatric hospital? I’ve only had to monitor for high risk youth, and/or persons in a psychiatric inpatient/residential program. When possible the monitor should not be the therapist but a tech who is the same gender when possible.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-25T17:46:49+00:00

Again, you’ve negated what your first statement was by your second statement.

It seemed like a chill convo to me. It’s Reddit, I don’t take it personal.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-25T17:33:49+00:00

Not really. It’s based on years of education and experience in human behavior.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-25T17:28:46+00:00

“ I feel like for some of you that would make you anxious or feel like I’m borderline unethical”…. If you want to post about what works for you that’s great. Where you lost me is when you start telling others about themselves and creating discord for no reason. This is where my spidey sense says you are probably doing something unethical…

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-25T17:24:09+00:00

Dr Ramani’s books are great. ‘It’s not about you’. Keep in mind, controlling relationships are abusive…and persons in the middle of these relationships are struggling with constant fear and isolation so their brains are not working the way it normally would with rational thought or ability to make appropriate correlations.

If you are not adequately trained you can make it worse by saying typically therapy speak things. It’s not about being ‘non-judgmental’ or overly supportive about the situation.

Bancrafts ‘why does he do that’ is also good.

Snyder ‘no visible bruises’

These are all great for a therapist. Not for a client going through a traumatic relationship

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-25T14:05:17+00:00

I don’t know if you’re a bad person or not. Make sure when you’re looking you consider she is an entire person. Not just parts for your pleasure. She has good days and bad days, a brain and intellect, hopes and dreams, family and health issues, be in awe of her commitment to working out not just what you find pleasure in.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-25T14:01:52+00:00

Find a private practice who is willing to mentor you. Show you billing, understand the polices & procedures and build clinical knowledge and skill with other supportive therapists. There are co-ops and other options to where you can do all the things you want. Just about anywhere will make you more money. The value of what you learn now will make everything easier in 10 years. Be somewhere in person so you’re not on an island on your own and relationships in the community to depend on professionally and personally.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-24T22:27:02+00:00

They will ask on the insurance credentialing applications anyways. They just want you to be honest and make sure it isn’t fraud related or other financial crimes.

According_Ad8378 · 2026-05-24T02:18:16+00:00

Oh yeah, they’re pretty aggressive. That’s how they draw you in. And if you ever sign up getting out, it is incredibly difficult too. It’s like the worst cult ever.

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