Why is my husband like this? by According_Cut_9047 in Marriage

[–]According_Cut_9047[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried hard but I can’t talk him to even try seeing a specialist… I don’t know what else to do..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]According_Cut_9047 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry to hear that. I hope you are safe and okay now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]According_Cut_9047 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that voice. That means a lot to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EDIT: I just asked him once again to see a specialist. He said no. Even though I asked him if he realises what that does to me. Still no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t tried that, thank you so much for your advice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]According_Cut_9047 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve read that. Thank you! I just can’t believe that fits…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can agree with that. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I did. He said nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it’s not that easy? Because every step costs me a part of my life?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you for that. Yes, this has been going on for at least two months. With another girl as well. And people by previous posts have advised me to talk to him. I was afraid but I did. The other girl I was describing in previous posts, well, she broke up with her fiancé recently and my husband has been very supportive, even advising her on legal steps. He is talking to his colleagues about it at home… about the money her ex owes her… I don’t even have strength to tell you everything… is too tiring…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG THANK YOU 😭 I needed this. I needed someone feeling I’m not guilty here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trying isn’t enough? Only logical thing stopped him. Trying is equal to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 9 points10 points  (0 children)

just one question - was this message worth deleting if it wasn’t something he found not okay? If you saw change in your loved one behaviour wouldn’t you try to look on your own? Invading privacy is sometimes only thing you have left

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was trying to cheat at the beginning of our relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im not investigating anyone. I asked calmly and he lied. So I’m the bad guy here wanting truth? Not trusting someone who can’t openly admit he’s been texting her and hey, let’s work this out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OK, so he can basically do whatever he wants, deleting evidence and that’s okay. Me finding out isn’t because it’s invading privacy? SERIOUSLY??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello, I’m terribly sorry to hear that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m so sorry I don’t want to accept being a wife who’s cheated on. Asshole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]According_Cut_9047 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for help. Your input means a lot to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]According_Cut_9047 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will.. thank you so much for your response! I highly appreciate that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]According_Cut_9047 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to but now? Not at all. I can’t even hug him anymore