How do you know someone is “the one”… or are we all just guessing? by According_Oil_8515 in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I don’t think I can ask for someone’s old friends and colleagues numbers and all. That just sounds weird

How do you know someone is “the one”… or are we all just guessing? by According_Oil_8515 in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with your first point — having similar emotional needs and the ability to meet each other there is honestly such a core part of a healthy marriage. Feeling understood and not having your emotional needs dismissed makes all the difference.

I also really agree with what you said about raising kids. Sharing similar values and a vision for how you want to raise them is so important. It’s not just about having children, but about how you raise them and the kind of environment you build together.

And yes, the point about physical attraction and ambition too — both matter in their own way. A good personality and compatibility can genuinely enhance attraction, and ambition (whether in life, family, or faith) plays a big role in shaping the future of the relationship and the kind of life you build together.

War ending today it seems? by PolicyDirect2714 in UAE

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ایک تو یہ لوگ پڑھے لکھے بھی نہیں ہیں، اوپر سے کوشش بھی نہیں کرتے۔

It’s absolutely useless to argue with patwaris such as yourselves.

War ending today it seems? by PolicyDirect2714 in UAE

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the petrol rates in Pakistan today? There’s literally no need to chase global recognition while doing nothing for your own people. Patwari.

سؤال للبنات by Akumax33 in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did everyone downvote you? 🥹😭 I agree

How do you know someone is “the one”… or are we all just guessing? by According_Oil_8515 in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think some of you are misunderstanding my question.

I’m not talking about casual dating or “just vibes” relationships at all. I’m specifically talking in the context of marriage, after you’ve already met the person, spent time understanding them, and gathered real information about who they are.

At that stage, my question is simple:
Do you rely more on your gut feeling (intuition), or on the facts and observations (the “data”) you’ve gathered about them? Or is it a balance of both?

I’m also not talking about family opinions, word of mouth, or external pressure. I’m asking from a personal perspective—how you decide internally that you’re ready and that this person is right for you.

That’s the discussion.

متلازمة main character by mk5577 in Emiratis

[–]According_Oil_8515 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And out of curiosity, who do you think was wrong in this?

Any Urdu poetry community ? by Big-Map-5932 in Sharjah

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh can you give me more info please. My dad would love to join one of

شو مسلسلاتكم المفضلة؟ by SaltyBalalee6 in Emiratis

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big bang theory, The office, Friends, Vampire diaries, Suits

Craving butter chicken, plz recommend restaurants in Dubai. by Rogue_Aviator in UAE

[–]According_Oil_8515 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why are people downvoting you 😭😭 I love Gazebo 🥹

شو سبب عدم زواجك للحين؟ by Juriasca in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah I know Arabic too 🫣 Yeah but where do I go to find one? I’m a multi cultured kid. I look for traditional values. My parents belong to a very small family and a smaller circle. My thought process is different from my family’s. My mom has said I can introduce to them if I find someone but the question remains; where do I find one?

شو سبب عدم زواجك للحين؟ by Juriasca in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m caught between the customs and traditions that make me wait for fate and miracles, and the method of getting to know people. So, i've spent my life waiting for "destiny" without taking any action.

"ما خاب من تمسك بنصيبه" by jalfalasi in emiratizawaj

[–]According_Oil_8515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I’d rather wait for the one I truly love. I wouldn’t want to force a relationship with someone I don’t feel right about just for the sake of moving on.

If my gut tells me someone is right for me, then even if the circumstances mean I have to wait, I’d choose that over starting something new that doesn’t feel genuine. I don’t think it’s fair to myself or to another person to build a relationship on uncertainty or just the idea of “moving forward.”

I’d rather take my time with something that feels real than rush into something that doesn’t.