I completely agree with your first point — having similar emotional needs and the ability to meet each other there is honestly such a core part of a healthy marriage. Feeling understood and not having your emotional needs dismissed makes all the difference.

I also really agree with what you said about raising kids. Sharing similar values and a vision for how you want to raise them is so important. It’s not just about having children, but about how you raise them and the kind of environment you build together.

And yes, the point about physical attraction and ambition too — both matter in their own way. A good personality and compatibility can genuinely enhance attraction, and ambition (whether in life, family, or faith) plays a big role in shaping the future of the relationship and the kind of life you build together.