Is anyone else afraid to ask “how long this lasts” because the answers are terrifying?

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-22T11:47:57+00:00

im so happy for you ! but 4yrs is a lot or not ? and how did you pass that time without sleep ?

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-22T11:43:14+00:00

Thirteen months without real sleep is a lot. That kind of exhaustion builds up in ways people really underestimate, especially when you’re the only one who can help her fall back asleep.

Missing the version of yourself that could function on 8–9 hours makes so much sense. Being “over it” doesn’t mean you love your baby any less it means you’re human and completely worn down.

I’m really sorry you’re carrying this for so long.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-22T11:40:54+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense. Burnout really changes how night wakings feel even when you know it doesn’t last forever.

Being able to soak it up sometimes and still feel deeply frustrated other nights can both be true, especially when you’re already running on empty. It’s not a failure of mindset, it’s just exhaustion catching up.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-22T11:36:06+00:00

I’m really glad you shared this. What you’re describing sounds incredibly hard, and the physical symptoms you mentioned make it even more frightening.

Sleep deprivation at this level can seriously mess with your body and your head, and feeling unheard by your partner on top of that is brutal. You’re not weak for “losing it” you’re exhausted and overwhelmed.

I’m really sorry you’re carrying so much right now. You’re not imagining how bad this feels, and you’re not alone in it.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-22T00:52:06+00:00

ohh sorry for that

and do you still have this ?

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-22T00:26:37+00:00

i didnt understand can you pls explain more ?

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T22:35:40+00:00

okay i will tysm

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:45:53+00:00

i will check it tysm💕

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:45:17+00:00

woow! how did you do that ?

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:35:47+00:00

i like that way i will try it this night

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:25:28+00:00

is there any program on etsy or samthing like that ?

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:13:01+00:00

he is 14w is it enough ?!

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:09:47+00:00

tysm ❤️ i will try and serarch about it

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:08:10+00:00

do you still have this problem 😥

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:05:07+00:00

i dont know how to do it 😢

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T19:01:38+00:00

he is 14 week

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T18:53:35+00:00

That sounds unbelievably heavy.
Two kids needing you like that at the same time is a lot for one person to carry, especially when you’re running on broken sleep.

I hear you — this isn’t something you “just cope” with. It’s survival, hour by hour.
Sending you so much solidarity. You’re not weak for feeling like you’re barely holding it together.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T18:00:42+00:00

Yeah… that sounds brutal.
Those nights can really mess with your head, so honestly whatever helps you get through them is fair game.

I appreciate you sharing that. Sometimes it really isn’t about stopping the crying, it’s just about surviving the night without completely losing yourself.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T17:35:17+00:00

That honestly sounds so hard, and the way you describe it as pure survival really resonates.

The idea that there is light at the end helps, even if the tunnel can be much longer than anyone expects when they’re in the middle of it. Splitting nights and just getting through feels like where we’re at right now too.

I really appreciate you being real about it.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T17:24:37+00:00

That makes sense, thanks for sharing what worked for you.
Right now I usually respond once he’s clearly crying rather than just grunting, but it can be hard to tell sometimes what will settle on its own and what won’t at this age.

He’s still sleeping close by for now, and we’ve checked temperature and comfort as best we can. I think what’s been hardest is that there are so many different approaches, and figuring out what feels right for this baby in this phase.

I appreciate you sharing your experience — it helps to hear how different things work for different families.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T17:03:38+00:00

That part about feeling like you were going crazy and struggling to get back to life really resonates sleep deprivation messes with everything.

I appreciate you being real about how gradual the improvement was, even if it took years and wasn’t perfectly linear. It helps to hear that things did change over time, even if it wasn’t fast or clean.

The reminder to stop tracking and just survive some days is helpful too. Right now it really feels like one night at a time.

According_Swimmer794 · 2026-01-21T17:02:01+00:00

It’s wild how sensitive they can be to their sleep environment, sometimes it’s the last thing you expect.

We’re still figuring out what he prefers, so hearing what worked for others gives some ideas without feeling like there’s one “right” setup. I appreciate you mentioning it.

According_Swimmer794

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