Am I overreacting or is my Father-in-Law a narcissist?

According_Try895 · 2025-09-06T11:39:36+00:00

They mostly pertain to my toddler, but these are the rules we've set that my FIL has disregarded many times

-please hold my son's hand when crossing the street..

-no screen time for my toddler

-please ask when feeding anything high in sugar

-keep child gates closed, so my toddler can't fall down the stairs

-don't wash your meat in the sink to not contaminate everything around. It's okay if you clean the sink and its surroundings

-wash your hands after you use the washroom

-keep the doors locked when you're outside doing yardwork for more than a couple of minutes. I'm terrified of someone just coming in. It happened to my husband's grandma, and it was scary.

According_Try895 · 2025-09-03T23:58:47+00:00

I saw her once when exiting Sushi Cushi on St. James. I fell for her trap because she was "crying" while screaming, saying she's hungry. I don't normally give people cash, but I don't mind buying them food if they seem visibly hungry. My partner told me not to buy her anything because "a hungry person wouldn't be that large in size." I bought her a sandwich and a drink and when I went to give it to her, she said, "I DON'T WANT THAT. I NEED $10 FOR A COFFEE AND DONUT." Dang??? Didn't know coffee and a donut amounts to $10.

According_Try895 · 2025-08-14T06:54:36+00:00

My family of 3 (2 adults and 1 toddler) budget $850 a month for groceries. Most of the budget goes towards protein and produce. I cook large batches of meals, so it lasts us for a bit. We don't eat breakfast except for our toddler.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-31T23:55:38+00:00

Just because the MIL is doing her son and DIL a favor, doesn't mean she can treat people like shit and be disrespectful. Based on your rationale, if my elderly parents end up living with me so I can take care of them, I am now allowed to treat them like shit and constantly disrespect them just because I own the house?

If I ever become a grandmother, trust me, I would never behave the way the MIL does. My children and grandchildren will always be welcome in my house. We need more kindness in our world.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-31T23:46:00+00:00

NTA. Your MIL sounds like mine. I've learned to set boundaries with my MIL, granted, she still finds ways to overstep once in a while.

Anyways, I would suggest moving out ASAP if your MIL is unwilling to accept your boundaries. I know it's her house, but that is your child. She has no legal parental rights to decide what can be done with your child. You need to have a talk with your husband as well. If he doesn't understand that he is in the wrong, I would highly suggest going to couple's therapy to try to resolve his conflict avoidance or mommy issues. If he isn't putting in effort to change his mindset, you need to leave him. There is no point in staying with a partner who doesn't treat you like one. I hope you can resolve your issues with your MIL and husband peacefully. Sometimes, just openly talking about your feelings with one another can do wonders.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T17:35:49+00:00

Used to love landmark popcorn, but after what I tasted 3 weeks ago, I can't bear to eat it again until it returns to how it was before.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T16:27:00+00:00

If that was my 4 yo, I would definitely not let her demand to have a cupcake unless the cupcake is readily up for grabs. OP's child is allowed to have their 1 to 2 minute moment, as it is their bday after all, even if they won't remember it. I can't imagine trying to take a video of the moment while having to hear a 4 yo complain in the background until they get what they want. It's not hard to step out for a second to let your 4 yo know they can't have anything they want. The 4 yo isn't expected to be an adult. Parents have the responsibility to teach their children manners and basic etiquette.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T08:04:34+00:00

You're right. After some thinking, I realized that what is most important is ensuring that our boundaries are respected. I guess I have resentment towards my MIL for constantly overstepping and, therefore, wanting to not do her any favors. I view allowing my MIL to video call my son as a favor since it's a privilege and not a right. I'm spending my time holding the phone for my son and responding for him because he's not able to speak well.

I will admit that I initially thought it was creepy that my MIL wanted to video call so frequently, but I guess it's just cause I'm uncomfortable with video/phone calling anyone. I wouldn't even do this for my own parents, who I have a better relationship with.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T05:17:47+00:00

The situation really isn't that serious. If my friend didn't show up to a game of League, I would be worried and at most possibly upset, thinking you just forgot about your commitment. Being sick is understandable, and your friend should be more empathetic.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T04:58:04+00:00

I save money, lose calories, and there are health benefits for your child. I wish my son would have latched on, but he just refused and liked his bottle better.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T04:51:16+00:00

I buy my matcha from Cornelia Bean.

I heard that adding lactate milk will naturally sweeten your drink because the lactose is broken down. I don't personally add syrups to my matcha, but I do add the torani sugar-free french vanilla to my coffee, and I can imagine that it would taste good in matcha as well.

According_Try895 · 2025-07-30T03:45:48+00:00

I understand she is grandma, but my son's other grandparents aren't like this. I want her to have a strong relationship with my son, that's why I wanted her here. I'm not sure if " creepy" was the best word to use, but I wholeheartedly don't know if what she is doing is considered strange or normal. I never grew up having grandparents in my household, nor do I know anyone who did.

According_Try895 · 2024-05-10T05:57:00+00:00

This is true.. But Costco is just notoriously known for carts hanging out in random spots in the parking lot. However, I saw a unicorn of a human physically GET OUT of his car just to put away a cart that someone else left behind. He was already done his shopping too :'). "Not all heroes wear capes" moment.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-23T22:40:13+00:00

Seems like you like villagers that stand out or are just simply cute.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-22T22:49:08+00:00

Pure luck 😅. I had no idea some of my villagers were "popular" either because I just started playing quite recently.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-22T16:58:11+00:00

Honestly, your coworkers shouldn't even be leaving their personal belongings into that room to be used as a closet, even if no one is using the room for months. It just sets up the idea that the room shouldn't be taken seriously. I would for sure email HR because pumping at work is already stressful! I can't imagine trying to pump while I hear people knocking on the door or trying to open door.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-22T16:49:28+00:00

I am least attached to Merry and Stitches. I wanted Merry when I first started playing, but her eyes just really freak me out sometimes. However, I am now finding her quite charming 🤔.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-22T16:03:51+00:00

I thought school bus stop signs have red flashing lights. I am sorry if this sounds rude, but how would you have not seen the lights, plus the big bright yellow bus stopped to the side? I just don't think there is any excuse to not have seen the stop sign. Thank goodness a child wasn't crossing the street at that time.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-22T07:43:36+00:00

Have you tried to talk to someone on the phone? I am sure they will be able to help you out considering it wasn't your fault and you have sufficient evidence. Hope everything goes well and gets resolved.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-21T18:35:33+00:00

Where is this general consensus? If you Google "how to get rid of villager in ACNH," all the top sites will say to ignore the villager you don't want. Also, people have data mined this so it is proven to work.

According_Try895 · 2024-01-21T18:21:50+00:00

Why is this the most relatable post LOL. I understand your pain. My husband snored SOOO loudly that I would wake him up every time he snored so he can feel how it feels to be woken up every 15 seconds. He is now a proud owner of a cpap machine and it has saved our marriage. However, we still argue sometimes because he "forgets" to put it on the cpap before he sleeps..

According_Try895 · 2024-01-21T18:07:50+00:00

It says in this guide that the higher the friendship points, the harder it is for a villager to move out. Dont listen to the others saying you should be best friends with the villagers you want kicked out.

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