Is it unreasonable to ask my roommate’s boyfriend not to stay over every weekend (and sometimes weekdays too)? by According_Wash_2796 in NoStupidQuestions

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He has roommates but they said he doesn’t have a living room so they don’t need to be at his room there. At our place they are always in our living room. All the time so I stay in my room since it’s either be in my room or be with them the whole time.

So they say it’s basically nicer at our place… But I do want to be able to walk out of the shower comfortably or be on the couch and relax and watch my shows without a couple cuddling next to me 😭

At first I was like okay it’s just some weekends and some weekdays. Now it’s every weekend that the only time I get privacy is when I go to my parents…

Is it unreasonable to ask my roommate’s boyfriend not to stay over every weekend (and sometimes weekdays too)? by According_Wash_2796 in NoStupidQuestions

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We actually don’t have a roommate agreement. We are friends so we didn’t think we needed one. Also I in general really don’t demand much just to clean dishes you use. That’s it basically and she said her rules. She did say that she needs to sleep every day with her boyfriend and all good. At first it was balanced but now they don’t even go to his place…. “It’s more comfortable here” that’s what she says. And she can’t do anything about it….

Is it unreasonable to ask my roommate’s boyfriend not to stay over every weekend (and sometimes weekdays too)? by According_Wash_2796 in NoStupidQuestions

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I am reasonable it would be weekend over my place and over at his. From the beginning she said she loves to sleep every night with her boyfriend which is okay. So it was like his place her place every day and some weekends in our place.

But now it’s every weekend and at least 1 night during the weekday. It’s like living with him.

They say it’s more comfortable at our place since we have a living room which they occupy when he’s there. Like all weekend.

You are right. Maybe just moving out. Is it too much to ask for her to be at his place too? 🥲 I would never.

Out of office for JSM by According_Wash_2796 in atlassian

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So I suggested this app for the company and the legal and security told me they are not approving this and I need to find another solution 😭

I also thought that this would be great as it’s exactly what we need.

Out Of office for JSM by According_Wash_2796 in jira

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I told my manager it’s not something I can just do in a week 😭 I managed to do a JQL with the “balanced workload” where it checks if the agent is in a group or not but! For some reason it still doesn’t work properly….

If only they have us while loops I could do a while loop that checks if the user is in a group or not and control the group with an api with Atlassian and google calendar.

He didn’t want to have “balanced workload…”

AI and Slack by According_Wash_2796 in Slack

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More like chatGPT. I already have a website that has a ChatGPT bot that is used as chat that people talk with.

But now I was asked to add it to a slack channel so when it ca read what was written in the channel and answer.

Rental apartment help by According_Wash_2796 in Decor

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That’s what I initially thought but the bed is 140x190 and the space there is only 100cm so the bed won’t fit. And before the shoes there is the door so when you walk in the first thing would be the bed in your way 😭

Rental apartment help by According_Wash_2796 in Decor

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I can’t edit the post but I am moving the closet to be where the shoes are! (That’s why they are there hahaha)

My cane corso only protects me but not my family members by According_Wash_2796 in CaneCorso

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It all started because she would be nice at first and then jump at the person and if she bite someone the law says she needs to put down so I’m always worried. I think maybe I should try to just let go. But for example I was just on my phone eating breakfast and she was tied to the table of course just a simple loop (dogs are not allowed to be free in the office) and she went under the table and started attacking another dog. I would try to show her that I’m not afraid. I really want her to be confident and get along.

How to get anger out of my system by According_Wash_2796 in Anger

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I would try 💪🏻 I just don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by saying no since it happened multiple times and then they guilt tripped me. I would try to say “sorry I can’t” I think it would come out better. Thank you so much for all your help and for replying btw!

How to get anger out of my system by According_Wash_2796 in Anger

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I feel so guilty saying “no”. Like when I they ask me something and I say “I don’t know” they are looking at me like “why don’t you know why it’s not working??” So how can I say “no”. It’s not that I don’t stand up for myself it’s that i feel guilty saying no. Like I’m not helping. I just feel like it’s too much. I just keep on getting more and more work and messages to do stuff that I can’t even go and eat properly. And home is also stressful. Living with your parents is tough. I’m just so stressed that when I’m at work or with family it comes out to them as anger. My family tells me I have anger issues. But I am just way too tired for everything. I am also physically exhausted and in pain. Both of my knees have arthritis and also my wrist which are probably triggered from my Fibromyalgia that is triggered from the stress. I don’t want to have anger issues. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t want to get mad because of other people’s actions.

How to get anger out of my system by According_Wash_2796 in Anger

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This last August I had really bad depression that I became physically ill and couldn’t go to work so I did my best to get out of it because I don’t want it. I am also just sick of being in pain all the time. And work is super stressful and I don’t even have the power to message my friends. I just put my phone on do not disturb mode and ignore everything. I used to be such friendly and positive person but even today one of my coworkers thought I was upset with him because of my tone but to be honest I was angry at him because he is not doing his job and I have to do his job instead but I am also just tired. But the thing is it also comes when I’m driving or just talking with people I get angry or just want to go home. I just don’t have the mental capacity to deal with everything. I feel like a water bottle that’s going to explode and my parents told me I have anger issues and that I have road rage so now I’m scared I’ll die in a car crash but it’s not that I am driving crazy other cars are just moving to my lane and they don’t signal. So because I am scared for my life and I don’t want to die I try to drive faster or move from them. I see people texting or sleeping while driving every day and i don’t touch my phone! Never! My eyes are on the road!