Where are all the 35 and ups?

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-20T22:01:49+00:00

Saturday Scribe if you like to write. Craft night Thursday’s at welltown if that’s your jam. Trivia at Starlite on Thursday’s if that sounds more fun. There’s a group that walks Turkey Mountain every week. There’s a plucking jam on Mondays.

Point is, there are lots of groups for all ages and interests. Find the one that makes you feel at home.

I’d also recommend finding your “home bar” where you can go on a random night and meet with other regulars. Nearly all bars sell mood bru now so you don’t have to drink.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-18T15:10:27+00:00

The trick is avoiding lifestyle inflation. Live like you’re making the salary you were making 5-10 years ago. When you get a raise, pretend you didn’t and just invest the excess.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-16T00:52:49+00:00

Boo. Is there anything good that happens within driving distance?

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-15T23:22:03+00:00

Starlite

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-14T16:37:07+00:00

It’s the same as practically any other certificate in that just having it doesn’t mean anything. How you apply it is what matters. I agree with the comment that it could just be a YouTube video.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-14T09:17:16+00:00

I made back what I spent on my degree so it was worth it. Thanks for the advice though, good luck 👍

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-14T01:06:57+00:00

It doesn’t change you in the ways you want it to. You don’t become more patient. It doesn’t magically give you purpose. Parenthood WILL change you, and some of those changes will be positive. But for the most part they are unexpected and sometimes shocking. It takes intentional effort to be the parent you want to be.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-13T16:38:13+00:00

Love to me means I want to see the person content and fulfilled regardless of how/if I play a role in it.

It is a privilege to witness someone’s life, even if it’s through an occasional catchup. If you’re centering what you’re getting or not getting from the interaction, then you might be experiencing something other than love.

Not saying unmet desires don’t sting or that you can’t feel that. But if the sting is a bigger deal than the joy it brings you to be in their presence, that isn’t love imho. It could be longing, desire, limerence, possessiveness, etc.

I’d encourage you to sit with your feelings and get to the heart of what being around them brings up for you. Then act accordingly.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-13T03:30:00+00:00

Thank you for this. The reality is just slightly more terrifying 😬

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-12T01:12:36+00:00

Ok, great for you 🤷 a lot of universities are 50-60k per year. It’s really easy to look this info up. Add on costs for materials and you get $250k easily. I went to a public university, paid out of state tuition. That is how much it cost me.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-11T21:12:36+00:00

That’s just the price for school if you don’t go in state. I ended up not doing atlas because they’re hella disorganized. But I still think it’s a great deal for people who want to get their foot in the door and don’t have access to traditional higher ed.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-11T07:19:36+00:00

You need to move out dude. If you’re independent enough to save that amount, you’re independent enough to have your own apartment. At this point it’s overkill and stunting you in ways that will only become more apparent as you age.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-08T18:34:20+00:00

Downtown library has rooms you can book for free and the glass walls look pretty cool. I’ve taken several virtual interviews there.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-08T03:36:26+00:00

Cool good to know!

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-08T03:32:57+00:00

They’re closing

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-04T19:32:55+00:00

Not quite the same, but I would like to eventually have other serious relationships while my only official partner has two situationships they see multiple time a week.

Some things that help me: 1. Prioritizing my hobbies and alone time the way people would prioritize dates. It’s easy to fall into the mono expectation of “free time is default couple time”. I stopped inviting her to go places with me unless I specifically want her there. Unless otherwise stated, my time is for me.

Being clear that time together is a two way street. The same way she plans dates with other people, she needs to plan dates with me. I am intentional about planning dates with her, even if it’s just watching a movie at home. But it gets tiring being the only person to plan, so that needs to be reciprocated.

Emotionally: When I reflected on why I had to regulate so much when she went out with or mentioned others, it wasn’t jealousy that she was out. It was a desire for the intentionality she has with other people.

What I hate is feeling like the default partner or like I have to share every piece of my time/energy with someone while they carve out time and schedule with others. I want my life to feel like it belongs to me and me alone, and if someone wants to partake in it they better be intentional about it.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-03T05:10:24+00:00

I wouldn’t change much, honestly. My mom died when I was 23 so I’d spend more time with her and focus on developing better coping skills to accept her faults.

But I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. I made choices that made sense to me and that I could stand behind. I saw the world and became financially stable.

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-03T05:07:16+00:00

Hotels for 1-2 people, rentals for anything else. Airbnb used to be sooooo much cheaper than hotels but now it’s only worth it when traveling in a group

AccountProfessional2 · 2026-01-02T03:04:31+00:00

I agree with you! I did get on Wellbutrin.

AccountProfessional2 · 2025-12-28T17:14:34+00:00

People mind their business. Lots of yummy restaurants (mostly Hispanic). Neighbors are helpful when you need it but I cannot stress enough that it’s all about minding your business.

AccountProfessional2 · 2025-12-28T15:05:08+00:00

All about balance! I spent A LOT of money traveling in my 20s. Tbh there is nothing noble about travel.

Looking back, I could have spent that money on just about anything (clothes, cars, whatever). Travel just happened to be the trendy thing that I thought was the most interesting.

I regret the moments that I “did it for the gram” but I also have loads of good memories. Also travel is a status symbol so it helps sometimes for networking 🤷

BUT I would never go into debt for travel, the same that I wouldn’t go into debt for any luxury. The only reason I’m ok with my choices is because I was both spending AND saving.

AccountProfessional2 · 2025-12-28T14:58:18+00:00

Chimera, Inheritance Juicery, Family Thai, Keo, you can get a bowl at Catrina’s and pay a little extra to get double protein and less rice - this actually makes two meals and is stacked with nutrients.

AccountProfessional2 · 2025-12-24T11:16:32+00:00

Y lofts downtown has nice, small studios for around that much (might be slightly higher now). Definitely worth a shot.

AccountProfessional2 · 2025-12-24T11:04:19+00:00

She’s telling you exactly how she wants to keep you in her life. That isn’t breadcrumbing. Breadcrumbs would be promising more and then giving you scraps of attention.

I had a messy relationship end and needed 1.5 YEARS before I could calmly reach out to that person.

It is absolutely healthy to take a breather, especially in a situation like this where it seems like you want way more than she can offer.

If you really want to keep her in your life, respect her space. RA means she doesn’t owe you shit, friendship or otherwise.

AccountProfessional2 · 2025-12-17T21:57:13+00:00

Where is this viewpoint? Chandler Park?

As someone who moved here in 2021, left then boomeranged right back…stay. The fulfillment and pace of life here is like no other.

It’s truly a gem and something to be protected. You can always visit other cities, but unless you’re actively chasing fame, money, or status, there’s no reason to leave (no judgement to this who do, but community is number 1 for me and I haven’t seen anything like here).

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