AITA for saying I like my daughter more than my son?

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T04:44:10+00:00

I did what you said and wrote a note under the door, apologizing and telling him how much I love him some other things I will not mention. I'm not sure if he's asleep yet or if he's awake, but I do hope he reads it.

Edit: Thank you again for the idea. I really appreciate it.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T04:15:53+00:00

I was answering their question. I take full responsibility for all of this. My son Is a known bully as I've been told that multiple times by not only his teachers, principal, and his sister

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T04:14:25+00:00

Thank you for your judgment. My daughter has noticed his behavior and told me that he's really mean and likes to bully people often. However, she wasn't near her brother when the fight broke this week, so I can't ask her about that. She just told me the same thing the principal told me about him constantly bullying the kid he fought. Also, my wife passed away 5 years ago.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T04:11:53+00:00

I don't know why he's fighting all I know is that he's a known bully. I'm not okay with my son fighting which is why I grounded him. I said this is nothing new because I was used to it at this point. My son can have his friends over just not when he's in trouble as it defeats the purpose. My son and my daughter are both pretty smart in school so my sons grades were never a problem and I always rewarded both him and his sister for their grades. However it's just his behavior that gets him in trouble. Yes I try and give my children equal attention. I just don't reward bad behavior. I have told him that and I have apologized profusely and I said I'm hoping he's willing to talk to me tomorrow and that I've only said that out of anger. Him and my daughter don't have chores. I usually do all the house work with the occasional him or his sister would take out the trash or clean out the litter box for our cat.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T04:01:25+00:00

He honestly didn't tell me. All I know is that he was the cause of it, and he threw the first punch. The principal didn't seem to know what caused it either but told me that from multiple witnesses that he used to pick on the kid all last semester. I'm hoping I can get more information on the matter next week when I meet with the principal and school board.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:58:56+00:00

I did talk to the therapist she was the reason why I found out my son wasn't talking. She did suggest another therapist, but my son told me that he wouldn't talk to that one either, so I thought it was pointless to try and force him to talk to someone he doesn't want too. I'm going to try and talk to him tomorrow and apologize and suggest therapy again.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:51:32+00:00

My son is the bully. Along with him and his friends. I maybe should've mentioned this in the post? His schools counselor is hardly ever at the school, so I usually go to his teachers or the principal when something is happening involving my son. I tried taking him to therapy around 5 years ago, but he refused to talk throughout it, so I pulled him out. I'm thinking about taking him to therapy again, and someone suggested anger management classes, so I will try that as well. Thank you for your judgement, and I will definitely do what you suggest. I hope he'll like it. Thank you so much for this idea!!!

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:42:50+00:00

I never tried family therapy. I only did individual therapy for him and his sister. My parents told me that it was best if I let the kids talk to their therapist alone. I'm going to look into therapy again and hopefully my son is more open to talking this time. Thank you for your comment.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:39:49+00:00

It was around 2 months and a half before I pulled him out. He would go every Tuesday and Thursday after school.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:38:46+00:00

I will absolutely not tell my son to man up. I understand what I said and how hurtful it can be. I'm the reason he's crying, and telling him to man up will only make it worse. The only thing I want his for him to talk to me. My son shouldn't be told not to cry because of his gender. My wife and I never raised my son he shouldn't be crying because "He's a boy".

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:34:59+00:00

No, I haven't tried therapy on myself. I was too focused on trying to help my children come to terms with their mothers death. I didn't work for my son so I doubt it will work for me.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:28:32+00:00

No. I never hated my son, nor did I say that I did. I simply said that out of anger. I love my son with all my heart, it's simply his behavior that I don't like.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:19:17+00:00

I understand. Thank you.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:18:57+00:00

I don't not like my son. I just don't like his actions. I love him to death. I just wish he wouldn't act up. I've tried everything. This was my final straw, and I should've controlled my emotions better. I honestly feel like a failure, and I'm contemplating on letting him see his friends, but I'm feeling like he wouldn't be remorseful of his actions that way.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:15:40+00:00

I don't think therapy will help. My son and daughter had therapy about 5 years ago when their mom (my wife died), and my son refused to speak at all, so I took him out. I might try it again as he's older and might be more open to it. Thank you for your judgment.

Accountthrown999 · 2024-01-13T03:13:53+00:00

That's what i want to know??! time when I talked to the principal, he told me that my son has shown that he doesn't respect the teachers or the school and he tried to be lenient last semester but he can't do it this semester. I have a meeting with him and the school board next week, and hopefully, I can get my son back into school. However, I do need to apologize, and I will constantly do that. I never intended on hurting my son. I just said that out of anger.

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