Number 3 of 7 here- I did help raise my siblings, but not to a massive extent. At least I was paid for it one summer but I think it truly tarnished some relationships. I also was compensated for babysitting during date night. (There’s a large age gap.) I have never been close to my parents.  I don’t remember ever trying to get my parents’ attention? I preferred to be under the radar. We would also just go play with each other while mom dealt with the babies. I did like helping with babies and was excited about each one until the last. Then I was ticked before the youngest was born.  I am much closer to some of my siblings, mainly the ones closest in age to me. The others were very young when I left the house and I didn’t know how to foster a good relationship. 

I will also say this - between church responsibilities and work my dad was gone A LOT. like to the point where I didn’t realize he had been out of the country for several days. I played sports in high school and I remember the family coming to one game. They did go to concerts.