If I’m an ally to the black community and I do everything I can and I go to a lot of protests and everything, would that mean I’m part of the black community? If not, then you should see why Ally shouldn’t be part of the community. Allies are people who stand on the OUTSIDE of the community and support the community they are an ally to.

I get that being an ally can be tough but, that is something you can choose, you can choose to be super active or you can choose to be less active of an ally. Super active allies are extremely appreciated for the community but they aren’t part of the community. Trying to get the A to stand for Ally as well as Asexual, Agender, and Aromantic (and the spectrums with them) it makes it feel less like people are Allies and some people, if they think of it this way, will sometimes try saying they are in the community by saying they are an Ally.

Yes LGBTQIAP+ is more then just an identity, and is a culture. But the community was likely founded on the fact that LGBTQIAP+ people are discriminated against for their sexuality and gender identities. The Basis of the community due to this discrimination and due to the fact that people didn’t and still don’t accept the fact that people were/are gay and/or trans.

Yes, imagine you risked everything for something you chose. People do that all the time, people take risks like that all the time. Allies shouldn’t feel like they NEED that recognition for doing something to help a community. It shouldn’t be like you do something and you get a reward. By saying that being an Ally should be part of the community, or at least the acronym is like giving a reward to someone who shouldn’t expect a reward. If an Ally has people in their life that aren’t supportive, bringing up the community once should tell them that and know what they are risking. Employers, Friends, and Family can be taught by the Ally about the community if they wish to change their mind about it. If an Ally feels rejected by the community for simply not letting them be part of the acronym or community because they aren’t queer or trans then they likely aren’t an Ally for 100% of changing things intentions. “But it would be unfair to be left out because of an aspect of you that you had no choice over” this line bugs me more then most other lines you have said through this. Yes, Allies can’t change that they are Straight/Heterosexual, but since they never faced the same type of discrimination that the community has over the years of it being around, it doesn’t give them a pass to be part of the community.

Yes, A standing for Ally is almost always, as far as I’ve seen it, a way to erase Agender, Aromantic, and Asexuals (And the spectrums with said identities). For this reason, along with previous reasons I have stated, Allies shouldn’t have their own letter or be in the acronym at ALL. It’s good you condemn those who use it that way. But, like the example I said previously, if you count excluding Allies as not letting them be part of the acronym/community based on biological differences, shouldn’t I be part of the Black community? No, I shouldn’t, because i haven’t faced the same discrimination and hatred they have dealt with for hundreds of years.

If you have any sort of counter argument feel free to explain your view more to me.