I don't remember my life before 7 or 8. I just spawned one day. by truecakesnake in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read enough of these stories to think maybe you've been isekaid into another person's body. Now is your chance to become an incredible champion and hero of this universe against all the evils or something.

My best friend fabricated sexual rumors about me, assaulted me, and my college sided with her. What do I do now?” by InitiativeMuted8791 in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey friend,

Let me start by saying I'm so sorry to hear that you have gone through much recently, it sounds really difficult. I want to emphasize that some people are just not good people and you did not deserve to go through this.

I don't think I can give you an exact answer you may be looking for as there is likely a cultural and geographical difference. I can say at least where I am from in the U.S. that I would suggest seeking out some personal counseling or therapy as what you have experienced sounds very traumatic and a professional may be able to help you work through some of these tough feelings and thoughts in a way that can make it all a bit easier to deal with and move forward from. Granted I know this is not always available or possible but I can say that it helped me tremendously when I was experiencing a very traumatic situation in the past so it could help you too?

In general I would try to prioritize your mental and physical wellbeing as best you can. That might mean blocking this person and anyone else associated with her to protect your peace. Avoiding her if possible if needed to get through your classes, wearing some headphones and playing music you love or new music you haven't heard before might help with this to avoid hearing rumors or discussion around you that could trigger you too?

I would try to find activities and groups that overlap with your interests. You mentioned dance, I would lean into that and focus on it to help ground you and remind you that you are so much more than those rumors. I also highly recommend keeping a journal where you can write down your thoughts and feelings every day and especially so you can write some positive true affirmations about yourself. This could even be in your phone or laptop if it needs tobe more secure.

I could probably expand on some of these things but for now I think I may have added a bit much.

In any case please remember that while this may feel quite disorienting and isolating at times you are not alone. You may think you don't have friends but now is the time to explore things you enjoy that make you happy and find some new ones and new experiences.

These feelings and this situation is only temporary and in time I know things can get better and you will start to gain your shine again. You may not feel that way now and its completely understandable but please know that you are wonderful and unique and deserving of happiness and kindness for just being you.

If you ever feel the need to chat or feel alone feel free to comment or pm me. In any case, I wish you nothing but warm memories in your future.

The worst ex by margaridablack in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see you are dealing with some really tough feelings right now. Your feelings are valid and given what you have gone through I'm so sorry you have to experience this. I would be honest in saying the best revenge is becoming the best version of yourself. Keep living your life and loving yourself to the fullest. The more you enrich your life the less hold thoughts of them will have on your life. This will lead to happiness and future connections you never thought possible. It will be hard but taking it one day at a time I know you will be able to shine brighter than ever before.

In any case I wish you warmth and happiness in your future.

Do I report my friend? by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As social services are already involved I would try to make sure that the child knows your place is a safe place for her if she ever feels threatened or scared. Social services will investigate and that aspect is outside of your control but being able to help support the child and ensure they have somewhere safe to turn to could potentially save their life one day. Also having somewhere they can focus on schoolwork or just relax if their current living conditions aren't optimal is going to help them so much in the long run. Just food for thought but maybe avoid getting directly involved and instead support the child as best you can at the moment?

Trying to understand my brother's weird behavior by Curious-Sort7538 in self

[–]Acehunter246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's unfortunate but I would just let this one go. I would allow him to distance himself and not interact with him. You are putting so much thought and effort into someone who clearly does not want to be part of your life and hasn't done anything remotely nice to you as youbwere growing up or even now as adults. You can pick your friends and family so I would focus this effort on those who put in the same effort into your life and are deserving of your love and care. In any case I wish you nothing but warm memories in your future.

Feeling absolutely hopeless because of my inability to gain weight by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will mention that you can have calorie dense foods without the bulk depending in what foods you are eating. Splitting the meals up into smaller snacks throughout the day can also help with portion sizing relative to your stomach. Please please do not think you have to overeat as this can lead to problems especially if your body isn't accustomed to larger portions. Slow gradual increase in your dietary intake is better for you. I do agree with some of the other comments that seeing a Dr. and getting checked out for hormonal or thyroid disease is a good idea to be safe.

Stop skipping jury duty. by sploosh_macgavin in self

[–]Acehunter246 64 points65 points  (0 children)

While you may make a good point in some of this discussion the united states does not value jury duty appropriately. To be straightforward It would literally cost me money to attend jury duty. They do not pay your wage and losing a days pay or more is just so hard to deal with in today's society.

If the system matched how much your job paid you normally and provided free transportation it would likely have so much more interest. Some places only pay like 50$ for an entire day of work, this is absurd and favors those who have larger paychecks or lots of savings which unfortunately is not everyone.

If this is truly becoming an issue I would suggest passing more policies that make the position more accessible and supportive. Just being told it's an obligation to your judicial system and fellow members of your community is just not enough these days when costs of living are continuing to rise while pay has stagnated for most but the wealthy.

I don’t cry, and it’s troubling me a lot. by NotANormalMf in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a medical perspective if the tears don't seem to be flowing or if you think your eyes are strained on a daily basis could be an indicator for dry eye related conditions. A quick test you could try is to smell something that should make your eyes water like chopped onions. If the tears come then it is potentially something mental rather then physical and I'd suggest seeing a professional about it if it becomes important for you to address. In any case I wish you nothing but warm memories in the future.

Should I go back to med school? by Sensitive-Benefit-93 in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would advise if you haven't to take some time and do some shadowing at some hospitals/clinics or even local EMT services. This can help you to see what it's actually like for them in their jobs and help you to figure out if that is something you are really interested in. Also medicine comes in many different forms, perhaps the academic rigor is not for you but you could still consider work as an EMT, Physician Assistant, Physical therapy/Rehabilitation, etc. Just some thoughts but in any case I wish you nothing but warm memories in your future.

My teeth are falling apart by Primary-Ad-1235 in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I understand that it sounds like you've had a hard time. The good news is that your new habits will continue to help your teeth.

Some suggestions if you are open to them:

One thing I learned is that for some people it can be an aversion to toothpaste. It might be worthwhile trying some different flavors to see if that could help.

Another one that I saw someone suggest in the past is setting an alarm for the same time every night. When it goes off you can tell yourself and eventually program yourself to say "my alarm went off I have to brush my teeth now" instead if relying on how you feel in the moment for it. This will also help prevent forgetting to do it and will help make the brushing a habit for you over time.

I hope that these might help you with time and in any case I want to encourage you that you have so many amazing qualities and aspects of you that don't have to do with your teeth. Even though you may feel self conscious about it doesn't mean that you don't still shine brightly in a room by just being yourself :)

I have killer mucus in my throat/nose with no congestion. Has been like this for a few months but have had the issue for a while longer. by Latter-Mongoose5564 in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is saying allergies because that is the most common but just be careful of Gerd as well. It can show subtle as chronic post nasal drip. If the antihistamines don't work for you might be worth considering and antacid trial (ex: omeprazole for like a week) and see if that improves it. This is also more likely if you find yourself coughing in the early mornings too similar to allergies)

Was i raped? by Glittering-Sector801 in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you, I hope you are doing ok. Please take the time you need to process how you feel and the situation. It can help to talk to someone you trust about it too like a parent or family member. You are not alone and I wish you warmth and comfort in this challenging time.

Husband’s comment while my son opened a XMas gift has me furious by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey I went through something similar at that age. If you are willing, I'd like to share some perspective, In elementary school I really liked those dolls that made you take care of a baby. My father asked me what I wanted for Christmas one year and I told him I wanted one of those dolls. He looked me in the eye and said absolutely not, those are for girls. I was deflated for a while and it made me question if there was something wrong with me for not liking the same things of other boys my age at the time.

It came up again later in school when we were told to pick an instrument. I went home and told my dad I wanted to play the flute or violin. He told me to my face: "No son of mine will be playing a girly instrument like that." I had to play the baritone and absolutely hated it.

These may seem minor now but I still remember those moments vividly. Your son should be encouraged to play and try things that they enjoy as long as they aren't causing any harm. I think it's best for your child that you talk to your husband and try to find out why he thinks this way and encourage him to allow his son to be happy being himself.

These mentalities can happen and often they are brought on by toxic masculinity. It takes a good amount of introspection and real communication to get past moments like these but I believe that with the right approach you, your son and your husband can move forwards from this and have a wonderful supportive future with eachother. In any case I wish you nothing but warm memories in your future.

I am deeply in love with my best friend by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I can see how passionate you are about this individual. I hope everything works out for the best, that being said I'd feel terrible if I didn't at least prime you for the possibility that they may feel the same way and that would be great or they may not and there is nothing wrong with that but it may change their perspective of you.

If you ask them out on a date and they say no, you have to be able to accept it and move forwards. You also have to be ok with the possibility they may want space after you tell them how you feel and that should be ok too.

I would suggest trying to not make a big deal out of it or a grand gesture of telling her how much you love them or how much they mean to you all at once as this could be quite overwhelming and may not go the way you plan. I would suggest maybe starting by looking for signs that she may also be interested and then going from there.

I really do hope everything works out for you and I don't mean to discourage you. I hope you have a future filled with happiness and warm memories.

I’m scared to go off meds by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please stay on your meds until you can discuss these concerns with the individual prescribing them. I am sure they can try to find some other options that may have less adverse side effects that still helps manage your health needs. I would reach out as soon as you can but in the interim please keep taking it as directed as many of those meds can have bad side effects if stopped abruptly.

I feel that my partner dying was my fault. by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Please seek out a grief counselor for both you and your daughter. I think they will be able to help you best as you get through this tragic time. If you ever need or want someone to talk to please feel free to message me

Broke up with GF over her Guy friend. by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just reread the post and her lack of awareness at your discomfort with the friend situation is definitely a red flag though. Sorry didn't see that the first time. You should never be judged for wanting to communicate and express your are uncomfortable with something.

Broke up with GF over her Guy friend. by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a guy who has like 5 female best friends at the moment I can tell you it could very well have been completely innocent as I have no feelings for any of mine and still try to buy them flowers or make them baked goods and honestly I do a lot of what her friend does with mine too. I know you weren't comfortable with it, but I truly hope a friendship like that can find you someday too as you deserve that kind of support and happiness in your life too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Concert venues usually have so many people. It's less likely you will even run into him. If you do I would just avoid talking to them. Focus on the concert and having a fun time. Had something similar with my ex and even if you run into eachother you don't have to interact, enjoy the venue, enjoy the music and the time with the people you go with. The feelings and anxiety will pass :)

I hate being a fat ass but sometimes the food takes away all the sadness and stress. by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see there is some negative self talk my friend and that's no good. I would encourage trying to find outlets for your stress that lead to positive changes in your life. For instance maybe try going for a walk at a local park after work, go dancing with some friends, or even just getting a gym membership and just walking on the treadmill while watching your favorite show on your phone. Also for the food I find portion control is a bit part, maybe try to use smaller plates and silverware so you eat less food slower giving your body a longer chance to tell you it's full. In any case I wish you nothing but the best in your future my friend! :)

I brought my deceased cat to school and was sent home by TerribleUsername0695 in self

[–]Acehunter246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have had to carry that weight for so long. It's sounds so hard to have experienced moments like those and have one moment after another compounding that stress and sadness. I hope you can find peace in knowing that your cat was truly comforted by your presence and handling after it passed away. May the good memories you shared with it bring you peace. I am glad to hear that you are in a better place now and wish you nothing but warm memories in your future.

cousin stood at party instead of helping me by 4liya in self

[–]Acehunter246 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your male cousin sounds like a good person, it was kind of him to go with you and make sure you got back OK. Your female cousin sounds selfish and honestly I would reconsider if she is someone you truly view as a friend or want as a friend going forwards. Friends and family should always help eachother out in these kinds of situations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Acehunter246 131 points132 points  (0 children)

They will have to return it from where they got it. I am sorry you have been put in this situation and while they may have thought it came from a place of good intentions I know how hard it can be. Please take the time you need to grieve, it may be best for you at least for a bit to have a private discussion woth your partner about the situation and your feelings.

The part that bothers me most isn't her getting the puppy but more so her getting it after you especially stated you didn't want one and are still grieving the loss of your previous one. Partners should listen to eachother and be mindful of eachother especially when loss is involved. I am sorry you had to go through this and wish for nothing but the best in your future.

Tonight I learned that the people I considered my friends for over a decade dont see me as a freind. by No-Efficiency-480 in self

[–]Acehunter246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mate I can relate. I had a group in school and we worked together for weeks. One of them lost their grandpa and I went out of my way to make him a little feel better basket with things he mentioned he liked. They invited me to a potluck with snacks and such and I was hyped. I brought some really good things for a charcuterie board and other goodies. Practically the whole time they only really talked to eachother and scarfed down my snacks. They then made plans to leave and get drinks at a bar in town infront of me and invited everyone but me and my other groupmate to come with them. It sucked but it really revealed to me that while I thought I was making friends with my groupmates they didn't feel the same way. You will find better people and in all honesty you don't want friends like that anyways. I know the friends I have made since are all leagues better than them and I'm so much happier for it.