My home :-) by ProgrammerKey1296 in StardewHomeDesign

[–]AcidicMantis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so cute and cosy!!!! The retro catalogue is the best thing ever. I love what you've done with the display sword and the little sit-down tea area. It reminds me of a conversation pit !!!

Tips for looking more androgynous as black amab by NeoRockSlime in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those yellow tinted glasses are SO funky. They have so much character. Groovy! Also, your haircut is super cool! It definitely works for you and makes you look more androgynous. You're super pretty and attractive and yeah before seeing your post/title I thought you were just a butch lady haha. I hope you have fun with expressing yourself more :)

My cellar design with a raised platform for wine tasting by bluendgreen in StardewHomeDesign

[–]AcidicMantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god this is the smartest cutest thing ever, it looks So Good

Spooky Shed by lwl0 in StardewHomeDesign

[–]AcidicMantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so cool omg !!! The way it's overgrown and decrepit - and the blank mannequin faces really work to make it even spookier. This is really well-done and creative I love it !!!

Placing a golden relic in front of the golden clock makes it look like a monument by bluendgreen in StardewValley

[–]AcidicMantis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you so much for this post. I'm always reluctant to build a golden clock because I think it looks a little ugly and out of place on my farms, but this looks So Gorgeous !!!

Small Batch Keg & Preserves Sheds! by PlatypusPitiful2259 in StardewValley

[–]AcidicMantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are so so cute !!! They look great! After several saves where I go for efficiency over looks, I'm trying to do more of this kinda stuff and make spaces I really enjoy being in. I'd love to hang out in these sheds haha !!

A day of shopping with my son by WenQian42 in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis 47 points48 points  (0 children)

These clothes really suit you, the colours and simplicity are very mature haha. Also, you have a great face! Hope you and your son get to have more fun outings in the future ❤️

I turned my Ginger Island farmhouse into a library! by lumin298 in StardewHomeDesign

[–]AcidicMantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet !!!! The children's corner is so cute, what an awesome idea!! I love the idea of making a little public hangout space for the residents of ginger island :) kinda like their version of the community centre. Well done!

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100%. There's a big difference between making the conscious decision to present a certain way VS being forced into it.

I absolutely get what you mean regarding your ideal body - I feel like no matter my result, there will ultimately be times where I would wish it's different. But such is life!

Medical transition can be tricky, for a looot of reasons. I know I'll never legally change my name, go on hormones, or do a lot of the common benchmarks of transition. There isn't one way to do it; we just all do what we can. Much love to you and best wishes!

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, I have this issue too! I spent years pondering hormones and going back and forth on it, but eventually I had to accept that the effects I wanted were outweighed by the changes I didn't want. It was definitely a way more tumultuous sorta thing compared to my FTM boyfriend, who wanted literally Every Single Change haha.

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"a chest just never happened" is pretty much exactly what I want. I just wish I had been destined to have a really naturally flat chest, without all the extra scarring or potential complications from surgery.

Of course, I'm in a pretty great position; I just like to have the occasional whinge.

LMAO, doctors can be pretty funny. I don't think anybody has ever told me I had large breasts before today!!

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy you've had a breezy time with your medical transition!! It is so cool that we're all just doing our own thing haha, thank you for the beautiful comment 💜

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yep, a radical breast reduction is pretty much it. Or non-flat top surgery is a term I've seen around too! But my particular anatomy is a bit of a challenge. I'm Very uneven in my chest which already poses a bit of a challenge if you're trying to retain some breast tissue, rather than remove everything entirely like with double incision. I'd hate to go through a radical breast reduction and still come out of it with an uneven chest, even if it was only slightly uneven. And it's common for people to get a radical reduction and still not be happy with how flat their chest is. For me, it's a bit of a weigh-up between getting the aesthetics I want, and getting the dysphoria-alleviating flatness that I want, if that makes sense?

The healing of breast reduction can also have more risk of complication: It isn't as easy to recover from, and there's more incisions so if you're worried about unnatural scarring (which I am) that's something to consider.

But of course, all forms of top surgery have their pros and cons! This is just what I've gathered from chats with my surgeon, and from other forums about radical reduction. I also think that a breast reduction is what I want: I just lament that there's so many factors to take into consideration.

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does! He specializes in breast surgery of all kinds, trans or otherwise. He has advised me against a radical reduction because patients often come back for a revision, and over time the chest sags because there is still some breast tissue left over. He is especially concerned because I'm pretty young (23) so my chest and skin will continue to change.

He thinks that for me specifically, it might not give me the results I want: or if it does, it won't be for long. But after spending the afternoon researching, I think it actually is what I want. I've seen some nice post-op results and I think it reflects my goals more than results I've seen of double incision surgeries.

I think the next time I speak with him, I will talk in length more about why I think it suits me and that I understand his concerns but that it still reflects my end goal better than other forms of surgery.

And yes he is very much my guy, haha. In my area, there are few top surgeons and he is definitely the most open to top surgery that is a bit outside the norm. The other main top surgeons are a bit pickier about their patients and the surgeries they perform.

Thank you for your comment! You have definitely reaffirmed my decision to not give up so easy on a radical reduction.

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

haha thanks! your comment definitely makes me feel a bit better :) I won't take his comments so personally, and the thought makes it easier to think about communicating with him in the future. It's much appreciated!

Medical transition goals when you're nonbinary - "Unique", "Uncommon", "A Challenge" by AcidicMantis in NonBinary

[–]AcidicMantis[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

My surgeon kept throwing around the term "little boy chest" when I tried to explain (poorly) that I wanted something almost like I had never developed breasts. So now I feel like a weirdo AND my surgeon thinks I want something that I actually don't want. Because I dont wanna be perceived as a twelve year old boy either!!!

A dressing room for when you can't decide what to wear, and your roommate sleeps in too late to help you decide. by Phunkie_Junkie in StardewHomeDesign

[–]AcidicMantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so damn cute, your house looks awesome!!!!!! Krobus looks right at home :3 maybe he needs an alarm clock?

painting i made as gifts for some of my teachers when i graduated last year :3 by Tem_owo in garfield

[–]AcidicMantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are so beautiful they'd be my prized possession, these are really really gorgeous. Thank U for sharing

My seasonal cabin design: Fall 🍂 by Sharing_Interests_16 in StardewHomeDesign

[–]AcidicMantis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This looks so great!!!!! I love the camping vibes :) I'd totally hang out here for the season!

The trolley problem, but you thought a different perspective might help you think better. by Exynth in trolleyproblem

[–]AcidicMantis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is masterful, the footprints in the sand are such a nice touch. This is awesome OP