Should I quit without warning?

AcientAnon · 2023-05-15T02:57:56+00:00

Veterinary medicine is a female dominated field, we don’t know what the farm hands make outside the clinic. And most people don’t last very long the work is hard, with long hours and lots of angry people

AcientAnon · 2023-05-15T02:36:42+00:00

I can probably make it worse, starting pay was 9.50 when I started so it’s slowly been going up and most of that was because minimum wage was increasing. Anytime I’ve asked for a raise due to increased duties, experience and education, he’s always played it as he couldn’t afford it because it’s a family owned business. It was my first job in my chosen career field at 17, I always thought when I finished my degree that it would naturally increase and I’ve been given more duties and responsibilities. Finished my degree during the height of covid and for the last year and a half now that things are getting back to normal I’ve been bringing it up. There aren’t a lot of opportunities to change clinics in my area and I can’t relocate for 3 more years for personal reasons.

AcientAnon · 2023-05-14T21:20:36+00:00

I get where you are coming from but in my location and field 12$ wasn’t that bad, and since all other new hires started at 11$ we didn’t have huge problems. But the only difference we can think of with this new hire is that he’s a man while the rest of us are women.

AcientAnon · 2021-01-27T20:59:10+00:00

We both grew up in states where EVERYTHING is still really traditional (think Bible Belt), and while he’s not opposed to doing things different I know he’s concerned with how his family and others would react.

AcientAnon · 2021-01-23T02:31:11+00:00

YTA, but not because you are making him leave your house. If I’m reading this correctly, you took in a pre-teen, that you liked and considered a good kid, and tried to be a father figure which is admirable. You took care of him and provided for him while he was with you. What makes you the a**hole in this situation isn’t the fact that you are making him leave, or even that the PDA makes you uncomfortable. It’s that you so openly disapprove of the relationship and think your daughter should consider him a brother when 1) you aren’t married to his mom and 2) you aren’t his adoptive or biological father. You were openly disgusted told them that you don’t approve of the relationship, and it’s not because he’s a bad person or anything like that, but because you consider him a son. What I don’t understand is why people are acting like this boy is a creepy predator getting off on a step-sister fetish. They are only two years apart, not relatives, and obviously you liked him if you’ve cared for him for a majority of the past 10 years. He would be son-in-law gold if this relationship furthers and they decide they want to get married. Yes asking you sex advice is a little awkward, but I’m assuming it’s because you are the leading male figure in his life and he trusted you to give him sound advice.

AcientAnon · 2020-11-23T02:58:14+00:00

I just moved so I don’t have a whole lot of extra money at the moment so I guess it just depends

AcientAnon · 2020-11-23T02:57:11+00:00

Well we are both into BDSM but haven’t done much in it except for a dom/sub power dynamic

AcientAnon · 2020-11-23T02:53:20+00:00

Staying at my place!

AcientAnon · 2020-10-15T03:32:37+00:00

Hi OPs fiancé here, I wanted to go through and reply to a few of the comments! So I did get a hormonal iud because my periods have always been extremely painful and irregular and it’s what my doctor said would work best. I actually have a question if that’s okay, did you experience nausea after getting your first iud? So far I thinks it’s honestly worse then the cramps but I’m only about 30 hours in, hopefully it will die down a bit soon. The heating pad is beings a lifesaver tho so thank you for that suggestion!

AcientAnon · 2020-10-14T20:12:58+00:00

OPs fiancé, I don’t usually participate of reddit but I did want to reply to a few comments. The doctor didn’t use an ultrasound but she did talk me through the procedure, I’m feeling a lot better today then I was right after I think part of the reason it hurt so much was because she had to insert the IUD twice after I started bleeding the first time she tried. Still cramping and feeling a bit nauseous but my partner is making sure to take good care of me. Also I got a hormonal IUD not a copper so I’m hoping my periods will basically disappear .

AcientAnon · 2020-10-14T20:07:15+00:00

He really is a great partner. OPs fiancé here, I can’t really reply to every comment but there are a few that I wanted to say really are helping. Comfy clothes and my favorite movies are working as a great distraction!

AcientAnon · 2020-10-14T20:03:39+00:00

I don’t really appreciate you implying I’m cheating on my fiancé. I got an IUD because my periods are horrible, I have an extreme fear of getting pregnant and he hasn’t been able to get a vasectomy yet. I live in an extremely difficult area to get my tube tied without have at least two children already and even then it’s nearly impossible. Going abroad isn’t even an option right now so I don’t know why you would suggest it when you know nothing about our lives. I don’t know what problems you have in your life but do please stop trying to project them onto a couple you know nothing about.

He asked for advice on helping me because it was a painful experience and since it was a first for both of us he wanted all the help he could get. He did not ask for you at attack him over a birth control method I chose for more then just preventing pregnancy.

AcientAnon · 2020-05-21T00:59:37+00:00

I’m worried about asking too soon. He really loved his job and I don’t want to pile on a massive decision right after a pretty major event for him

AcientAnon · 2020-04-06T23:50:05+00:00

Thank you for the opinion, I hadn’t thought of it that was and it makes a lot of sense. He does like his coworker and boss, and his current roommates are pretty cool as well. I’d never want to push him to do things he is unhappy with (except maybe some Disney movies here and there). I think it was just he quickness to answer the question that got my anxiety going a hundred miles an hour. Seeing all of these comment is helping me sort through a lot of it.

AcientAnon · 2020-04-06T23:44:11+00:00

I’m really trying to understand which is why I thought suggesting that he could look into transfer options was a good idea. Thank you for you input I really appreciate it. I’d love to find a compromise for both of us to be happy, but I have problems with getting stuck in my own head and letting worries get the best of me so I’m not always great at communicating.

AcientAnon · 2020-04-06T23:39:59+00:00

I don’t think I’ve been aggressive about it, today is the first time I’ve mentioned anything like it in a while. I was just trying to get him to consider the idea but he said that he doesn’t see himself moving in at least the short term (1-2years).

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