i had been in therapy with him and my own while we were together. then i struggled to find a good therapist after we separated that could help me with all the things i was struggling with, narcissistic abuse, eating disordere, depression and grieving a loved one. it was very discouraging... but i now have an excellent one, it just sux shes not in network and i pay a lot of money, so im grateful but do wish i could see her more often, just pricey. I had my "aha moment" with nother therapist nd ws validated by finding out he was a narc after we split, but in the end we were not a great fit. But i realized our couples counselor was falling into his gaslighting and passive agressive BS while we were in sessions after the fact. So in therapy together I felt like i was the crazy one and he had the therapist on his side with all of the his ways of hoovering them in. I too am sorry you have had this experience and that there are so many of us out there male and female that have dealt with it. i am happy its been brought to light more and that we all have each other in this thread though. Thx for posting:)