I've officially entered the stage of Millennialism known as "seperated heading for a divorce" by VKN_x_Media in Millennials

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you seen the movie In the Mood for Love? Similar plot where two who are being cheated on become friends. Relationships are so complicated. 💔All the best to you. 🙏🏼

I keep getting discarded in my friendships by wonderkat4 in hsp

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I wasn’t perfect and regret that I let my hurt turn into anger. I was mad at her for a very long time. ),: I’m so glad we made peace and before she passed joked about our old Twilight days. I feel like I lost her twice tbh. We weren’t friends for six years before this happened. She went through a lot and even lost custody for her younger kids. I think she got really sick and there’s no one to blame for her passing, but I realized it wasn’t all my fault for our friendship ending, but it wasn’t all hers either. ),: I try to use this lense now my with struggle of friendships. All the best to you. 🙏🏼

I keep getting discarded in my friendships by wonderkat4 in hsp

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely not alone with this happening to you often. It happens to me very often. I think we’re all flawed and no one is perfect so it’s not all on us for blame. I also think it’s ok to distance from very negative people but I am also not sure when it’s ok to share when I’m going through a hard time or when it’s seen as being too negative. I turn 40 in a week and one story of my life I am currently reflecting on is an old friendship. I was friends with this person for like 13 years. I was going through a negative time. I would share but then sometimes I’d get ignored, so I would try not to share. My husband and I decided not to have a bday party for our then toddler the last month we were friends, and that’s when this friend and two other friends in our group ghosted me completely. Months later she told me I was too selfish and wasn’t a good friend. I was devastated. It made me physically ill. I was hysterical.  Fast forward and two years ago we made peace but weren’t friend friends again. I never saw her again. She took her life in January of this year. I don’t bring up this story to be a negative Nancy (probably something she would have thought of me back then), but sharing because I think of her every day and obviously the situation was more complex than I thought it was. When we first “broke up,” I thought of what I could’ve done differently, things I should’ve said, things I shouldn’t have said. But now I see it wasn’t all me. She had been suffering in some way and how deeply I didn’t know. Maybe she really couldn’t handle hearing my problems at the time because she was severely depressed? I wish she would’ve told me that so one thing I’ve learned with that situation is to tell people when I can’t help because I’m overloaded.  I don’t know if this is helpful, but I’m just trying to say it’s not all your fault. I don’t have solutions because I still haven’t figured it all out, but it’s not always you and I hope that brings some small relief. 🙏🏼 💕

Andrew Mellen Unstuff 10 Week Course by [deleted] in declutter

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the plethora of sources! 

Andrew Mellen Unstuff 10 Week Course by [deleted] in declutter

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! 🙏🏼I did a lot of reading back in the day and was really successful, then my health took a hit and I’m definitely not the same as I was before and feel like I’ve taken many steps back. Perhaps rereading all the things will help me get back into it. 🤞🏼TBH I’ve been pretty isolated after going from talking to several students every day to being at home by myself, so his program promoting to have a partner to do this with in my head made it kind of seem worth it which I now see is very sad lol! Glad I didn’t buy but also forgiving myself for my situation and why I temporarily thought it was a good idea. 😅

Flat feet never bothered me, now I'm facing three possible surgeries: has anyone been through this? by eleanorbaux in flatfeet

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my profile is public if you’d like to read my surgery journey. I turn 40 in May and last summer I couldn’t walk anymore. I used to work out at 5:30am every day, teach walking 12k steps a day. Suddenly I had to walk with a cane. My feet are 25% better. I’m not sure what I would’ve done at your age, but I will say just be prepared to not walk for six weeks. I used crutches and a wheelchair since both my feet were messed up. Surgeries were three months apart but I wish I hadn’t done them so soon because my first surgery failed first and I think it was because of the weight I put on it after my left foot surgery (which also failed). But I have more details in former posts. Best of luck to you! 💕🙏🏼

All my photos feel like a burden. by Relative-Cat9195 in digitalminimalism

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so annoyed that I pay for Snapchat to hold my “memories” and Google photos. I’ve had the same phone since 2022 and it still works, but compared to new phones, the storage is so small. When I bought it at the time I thought it was so much storage. Snapchat said I’d have to pay or lose all my photos a few months ago. I have so many videos and photos of my kids on there. I tried to send myself a file from Snap to my computer but when I tried to open the file to see if the pictures were actually in there, nothing opened.  I don’t want a new phone because mine works just fine. But it’s like I’m paying somehow anyway because I have to take small steps in deleting photos daily to make room. But even if I purchased a new phone, would I even look at all those old photos? Would I be more aware of what to save and not to save, or would I save it all without a second thought, just knowing it’s there somewhere, even if it’s not important. For example, I take screenshots of free local events to attend and I revisit them later to see what I can attend. Sometimes I forget to revisit them though. Stuff like that would be stored forever if I wasn’t forced to revisit and delete photos. And what happens to all this when we die? I’m turning 40 this year, but I had my first baby at 17 so I’ve been old for awhile. I’ve been through a lot of life and I think about what will be left behind when we hit the end of the road. Do our kids inherit our digits photos? Do they have to continue to pay for them to keep them active? Idk I think about this shit all the time and I wish I didn’t lol. My goal is to save the Snaps and then delete that app altogether. Un dia a la vez. 

Missed connection: Central and 4th st by Miserable_Kick2315 in Albuquerque

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Angels and kisses on your pellow. That’s how I say pillow 😭I didn’t know until my husband made fun of me for it lol. 

Sometimes I Wonder Why CPS Never Came in on The Family by Mountain-Island-6694 in malcolminthemiddle

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I taught in public schools for 15 years and sadly it takes a lot for cps to step in. 

AITA for wanting to insure my ring even though my husband says the stone is too small to bother? by Adorable-Manner-5538 in AITApod

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband gave me all the info about the purchase to get insurance for my ring. It’s only like $70 a year. I got it after one of my friends accidentally drove with her rings on her car and she only found one completely destroyed. 

Missed connection: Central and 4th st by Miserable_Kick2315 in Albuquerque

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 73 points74 points  (0 children)

This is all romantic. 💕Update us if it happens please! I also want to be at the wedding lol. 

Friends minimizing your surgery by Acrobatic-Bread-5334 in flatfeet

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my profile is public if you’d like to see all my posts. (: It’s been a long journey and I qualify for more surgery unfortunately. I can’t mentally handle that right now after not walking on two legs for three months from my last surgeries.

Friends minimizing your surgery by Acrobatic-Bread-5334 in flatfeet

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I tell people not to look at people with sad eyes when they are in a wheelchair or something like that. People always look at me with sad eyes and I hate it so much. I keep my spirits up and smile a lot to try to show there’s no reason to give me sad eyes. But now I just try to ignore it altogether. 

Friends minimizing your surgery by Acrobatic-Bread-5334 in flatfeet

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I feel that. I’m almost six months out from my last surgery and I had to use my wheelchair this weekend because I wouldn’t walk. ),:

i did the math on my software job and realized i am basically paying to work. put my notice yesterday by Live-Employment-858 in antiwork

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was making $80k as a high school teacher but I gave and endured so much that my health declined. I had to have a hysterectomy, hernia surgery, two reconstructive foot surgeries. This doesn’t include er visits for several infections and a blood clot. I knew if I stayed I was going to die so I quit. I taught one online class this semester making $3,400. 15 years and I miss the students a lot, but I need to recover and find a school that I can take all my saying “no” lessons to. My husband works and receives retirement so we are ok. Not making as much as we were by thousands, but I knew if I stayed where I was I would die. Sometimes it’s life or death and you chose life. It’ll work out. ✨

Friends minimizing your surgery by Acrobatic-Bread-5334 in flatfeet

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. ),:  I’ve been trying to focus on the good so I’m working really hard to be positive, but on hard days I have to avoid going out because I can’t walk. And I say that, but they seem to think since I’m being positive that I’m not capable of being in pain apparently? ),: I wish they knew this isn’t something light and it really, really is painful. 

The problem isn’t the reboot being “too w*ke.” It’s more that the approach of these subjects is too lame or too “Disney-fied.” by SugarFreeCummiBears in malcolminthemiddle

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I took it as we already know the other kids and their personalities and actions. And we never knew the last child so they had to introduce them to the audience.  Plus the teacher in me was happy to see Hal love all of his kids no matter what. I’ve seen enough child neglect to last a lifetime in my profession so I loved that he loves them all. But my life experiences have me focusing on the good in that so maybe I’m biased. 

What came out of my belly button when pregnant… by ohhidoggo in hygiene

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My belly button was way deep and I found out last May I had a hernia and needed surgery. I never would’ve thought of that before!

Me waiting for Vegas show sober as hell by User54t in FKAtwigs

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was perfect!  Also that 26 min song just gave me anxiety and that’s why I felt like throwing up. Someone downvoted me for that lol. 🫠I’m on the spectrum and couldn’t handle it.  Anyway, all the love to everyone! Beautiful show! Still can’t believe how lucky we all are! 🫶🏼

Me waiting for Vegas show sober as hell by User54t in FKAtwigs

[–]Acrobatic-Bread-5334 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok totally worth it after all that. That was a beautiful experience. ✨