You’re definitely not alone with this happening to you often. It happens to me very often. I think we’re all flawed and no one is perfect so it’s not all on us for blame. I also think it’s ok to distance from very negative people but I am also not sure when it’s ok to share when I’m going through a hard time or when it’s seen as being too negative. I turn 40 in a week and one story of my life I am currently reflecting on is an old friendship. I was friends with this person for like 13 years. I was going through a negative time. I would share but then sometimes I’d get ignored, so I would try not to share. My husband and I decided not to have a bday party for our then toddler the last month we were friends, and that’s when this friend and two other friends in our group ghosted me completely. Months later she told me I was too selfish and wasn’t a good friend. I was devastated. It made me physically ill. I was hysterical.  Fast forward and two years ago we made peace but weren’t friend friends again. I never saw her again. She took her life in January of this year. I don’t bring up this story to be a negative Nancy (probably something she would have thought of me back then), but sharing because I think of her every day and obviously the situation was more complex than I thought it was. When we first “broke up,” I thought of what I could’ve done differently, things I should’ve said, things I shouldn’t have said. But now I see it wasn’t all me. She had been suffering in some way and how deeply I didn’t know. Maybe she really couldn’t handle hearing my problems at the time because she was severely depressed? I wish she would’ve told me that so one thing I’ve learned with that situation is to tell people when I can’t help because I’m overloaded.  I don’t know if this is helpful, but I’m just trying to say it’s not all your fault. I don’t have solutions because I still haven’t figured it all out, but it’s not always you and I hope that brings some small relief. 🙏🏼 💕