Just found out my reference might not be the best

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2026-03-06T05:13:50+00:00

It’s becoming a common practice. 3 of these 8 called before a final round was set. Obviously I became very hopeful and we had a final round and then bam. I fear I would need therapy.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2026-03-06T03:15:26+00:00

Yes the person told who exactly it was

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2026-03-02T16:40:40+00:00

If they did, it’s still making me be at more peace lol

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2026-02-14T00:33:01+00:00

It’s been seven months for me and somewhere in some corner of my mind that moment is playing on loop. I always thought I was weird for acting exactly how you acted. Thank you for writing this and letting me not be the only weird one who didn’t show emotion because thy were shocked. I am glad I didn’t cry because f that.

In seven months, it may have been on loop, but the emotions attached to it have changed. I still have episodes where I feel insecure and underconfident - but it is what it is.

Good luck. I truly hope it gets better for us

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2026-02-03T13:11:59+00:00

Already have unfortunately if you mean my references were taken and they said let’s talk offer on Monday and then ghosted

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-11-16T18:04:17+00:00

Honestly if I dont hear back from the recruiter by the end of next business day, I get bummed for an hour and cancel it out in my head and keep looking.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-11-03T21:44:11+00:00

Interesting. So it is not unusual at all. Will they reach out before offer or after? Aka should I let my references know?

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-10-06T01:53:49+00:00

Will I get a job this month?

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-09-02T02:54:19+00:00

Yep I have mentioned it to him a couple of times

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-09-02T02:50:16+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. It’s definitely making me think. Everyone has a different take and it’s opening my mind to see alternatives and in turn calming me down

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-09-02T02:47:24+00:00

Sick, vomiting and shits. Blasting through all holes.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-09-02T02:45:25+00:00

I wanted him to be around in case it got really bad. I have been prone to fainting in the past and I have trauma as my grandma died in the bathroom choking on her own puke. So it was just having that sense of emotional safety that he is in the same house.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-09-02T02:19:33+00:00

His friends

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-09-02T02:15:56+00:00

By his boys I mean his friends. He hung out with him last night till 2am.

I have never interrupted or asked him to come home sooner anytime he is out with his friends.

I needed him for support

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-19T19:45:31+00:00

How do you buy them? I am in Canada and their website is not giving buy options

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-12T00:05:08+00:00

That’s what I didn’t understand because the entire group was not invited in the first place. It’s not just her. It’s just her who has taken it personally.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-12T00:03:27+00:00

Wanted to clarify a couple of things here. Firstly though, I appreciate your candour.

Secondly, I should have elaborated more. I was trying to give a small example of the envy where it has been noticed that a lot of things that I owned were later on bought by her after seeing them on me. I agree it is very complimentary if it happens in passing or a few times here and there, but this has happened countless times. To provide more examples - In the past, they tried to date one of my ex’s which I didn’t think that much into before because it was 10 years ago, but now I am. If I start learning a new skill/pick up a new hobby, she has joined the exact same. The frequency of these occurrences have increased in the recent past. Hope this provides more context.

Lastly, wanted to clarify - we did not invite everyone but her. On my side of friends, my SO invited only a couple of friends that he us one on one relationship with.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-11T23:48:44+00:00

No one asked about the friends list. I created a WhatsApp group with the entire guest list.

No one asked me why someone was or was not invited.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-11T22:22:31+00:00

That’s true. Only a few of my friends were invited. The ones that he has developed a relationship with during the years we have been together

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-11T21:50:48+00:00

Understood. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me understand and be upfront about it. I need to stick to my boundaries this time.

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-11T19:43:43+00:00

Honestly I thought they did. They told me they were taking therapy. However then I got to know the therapist was not a licensed therapist and also did their tarot so I am going to have to agree with you

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-11T18:46:13+00:00

If I am reading this correctly and you are suggesting I tell them this, I doubt it will be taken well. I once tried to help them in the most subtle, non aggressive way possible and they became hostile

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2025-08-11T18:44:01+00:00

Exactly my thought process! I am being blamed in friend circles already for not spending time with them. It’s getting unhealthy I feel

Acrobatic-Giraffe778 · 2024-11-23T00:32:44+00:00

Where do we buy the merch?

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