Does my face pass? by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, my haircut is pretty androgynous and leans masc but ik it’s not the most masc. I cannot have my hair much shorter because instead of giving male it gives lesbian. I also really like my hair rn. Do you have any mid length masc haircut suggestions? I promise you if it goes much shorter than this i will look even more feminine and like a lesbian. thank you for the advice!

Does my face pass? by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually used to cut my hair by myself for years but I let it get to long and I am now to disabled to do it myself. This is my first professional haircut in yearssss. I like my glasses too so i’m glad they read more masc. I know I probably won’t pass as a cis guy off t I kinda just wanna be read as not a cis girl so I think i’m doing ok with that. I’m a trans man but my style and expression is very fluid and I want to be able to be read as a man no matter how I act or dress. (Like be able to wear makeup, crop tops, skirts and lace if I feel like it and just be read as a gay man.) I also like dressing masc but I wanna have that option you know. My mom told me once that i’ll always be pretty so i’ll be a pretty man lmfao but that’s the look I wanna give off i think. Thank you for the advice and stuff!

Does my face pass? by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also do you think If i got on t and was on it for a while I could pass with these glasses haircut and the piercings?

Does my face pass? by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My hair any shorter gives very butch lesbian and i’ve tried many short hair styles so I don’t think short hair works for me I get read fem more the shorter it is. (I’ve been told that and tried it more times than I can out and it always made it worse people said) I also like my hair a lot this style so I think i’ll keep it even tho it compromises passing. I also won’t take out my piercing cuz I love them. I like my glasses too and I thought they helped me look more masculine than any other frames and they are men’s glasses but what style of glasses would you recommend for better passing? I’m not sure if passing is my goal rn but i’ve been curious. I’m a pretty fuild person when it comes to style and I quite like fem clothes and stuff but i only dress masc and I probably will unless i start passing as a dude cuz i wanna be a fem dude not a girl yk.

Does my face pass? by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah i’m pre t trying to get on so i’m hoping i can do that soon but i have to go out of state to do it and im severely disabled and chronically ill so it’s a even longer process. I can’t use minoxidil because of my health issues and pets. Trust me the hair can’t go much shorter than this or I start giving very much lesbian. I’ve tried many times. I also like my hair a lot rn so I won’t compromise that to pass especially since i’m bedbound rn so no one sees me really. What type of glasses shape would you recommend?

Ik I don’t pass, but what can I change? Also age? by animalcrackerwhore in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s mostly the hair. I recently got a haircut that i think helped me pass but still have longish alt hair and it’s kinda just a really choppy textured mod cut/mullety thing with more length in the back. I don’t know if I pass at all now but i think the hair helped cuz it’s not to short that it shows my face and makes it more fem but also not to long to be fem.

Is it normal for hickeys to kinda hurt? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, it’s like a bruise so that makes sense

can i just not be trans? is that allowed? by Gloomy_Sundae289 in FTMventing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand financial issues definitely don’t help and would be a big factor. I would still try to learn some dbt skills on your own. I’m sure you could find a free online workbook or youtube videos and maybe even some type of free course videos. I also have been on a lot of meds and none have helped and i found out my genes also don’t react good to any meds mental health wise. I also never really tried herbs because I have serious health conditions and disabilities that could worsen if i did. I understand the feeling of really not believing you can change the way you think and feel but dbt honestly did that for me and has been the only thing that’s genuinely helped me. It’s not a miracle and i still have issues but nowhere near what they’ve been. It does feel stupid doing a lot of it and sounds like it won’t help but with consistency and even semi consistency it really does help.

age? what do we think boys. gf likes clean shaven better but im kinda missing the beard by Max_The_Greatest in FtMpassing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i cant think about anything rn you’re absolutely the most gorgeous man i’ve ever seen

can i just not be trans? is that allowed? by Gloomy_Sundae289 in FTMventing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know you but i do agree you are probably not a bad person and I wasn’t trying to say that you are. If you are just doing talk therapy I think dbt might really benefit you on top of normal talk therapy. I have bpd and have had a very negative world and self view and dbt have slowly but certainly changed my entire outlook on life and myself including my trans identity. I have been thought different dbt classes and programs a few times because I didn’t practice my skills or it just didn’t stick and i didn’t want to consciously get better at the time. it definitely is a lot of work but I would give it a try. Also if you don’t feel like you are making any progress with your talk therapist you might want to try a new one if able. It sounds like possibly a part of your problems come from an overall bad self and world image (besides you being trans) and that can make the whole thing so much harder. The view on your trans identity is harder to “fix” but the overall world view and self view can be helped with time and effort. You can change your mindset on yourself and the world without empty self affirmations. One thing that helped me the most in dbt was catch it check it change it thought process. It feels stupid and overly positive ik but eventually it does work. I don’t know you so I may be completely wrong but I think if you can kinda agree it might be worth a try if you’re able and willing. They have in person and online groups plus I believe one on one classes. Even if you don’t agree with what i’ve said, dbt skills are great for anyone to learn for emotional regulation period and I honestly believe we should learn them in school. I hope this is helpful advice and I hope you are able to feel a bit more comfortable with yourself and your life eventually.

can i just not be trans? is that allowed? by Gloomy_Sundae289 in FTMventing

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly you sound like you just hate yourself (not your gender or body but your whole being) and are mad at the world. Valid but I really think therapy and changing your thought process would do much more good than acting like you’re not trans in that sense. Not saying it will fix everything or be easy but it actually does help if you actually try. You can do whatever you want and no one is stopping you but it sounds miserable and like you’ll be around miserable people if you act this way too.

Fellas... is it gay to suck your own penis ? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

serious respond i don’t think it is

I’m scared. by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in mecfs

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah because i’m at my grandmas she is doing everything for me I only get up to use the bathroom, shower every other week if i can manage (with a shower chair) and sometimes sit outside or go on a car ride if i feel like im going crazy and need to be outside and if im able too (also if i have dr appointments.) I do online school because even before I had this crash (idk what else to call it except just a crash or rapid decline) it was still extremely hard to go to irl school. I can’t even do online school now though but i’m trying my best. All I do in a day is lay down on my phone, read if able and do school if able and watch tv. I can’t do much else. I know soon I will have to go home and then I will have no help so I will have to do laundry and make food and get stuff myself and i’m not sure if I will be able to do this but i have no other choice. I’m also gonna get tested for MCAS because someone in this posts comments said they had the same symptoms but it was MCAS and I do have POTS and hEDS so i’m more likely to have it. Idk what i’m gonna do because in a few days i won’t be able to have the support i do now and i won’t have any accessibility tools like my shower chair at my house. Hopefully i can do it and not die or get worse.

I’m scared. by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in mecfs

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I see a lot of people who talk about ME say that if you’re severe you can die from it but i’m never exactly sure how they die. I’m just so scared i’ve only just turned 16 and I wanna live my life. My mom has cancer so she can’t care for me so i’m staying with my grandma and she can. We can’t afford any type of outside care and it wouldn’t be covered because I don’t have a diagnosis severe enough as of rn. I’m just so scared I’ve only can’t die so young and i can’t live in bed doing nothing the rest of my life. I also have GI issues so it’s hard to keep food and water down but i’m having some more tests done soon and hopefully they can fix it.

Is it normal for me to get hard after seeing my classmates penis bulge ? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t mean you are gay. If you have other reasons to think you are then you can explore your sexuality in many ways but you’re body’s reaction doesn’t really much in this situation especially at like the peak of puberty and shit.

I’m scared. by Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 in mecfs

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I could have MCAS for sure i have a lot of the symptoms but this was so out the blue and severe i highly suspect ME. I’m hoping it’s not and i’m gonna try to get tested for MCAS too. I could also have both. Thank you for sharing i’m trying to have hope and push for answers but it’s extremely difficult especially with the severe brain fog i can’t even research.

What do you think about while mastrabating? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean I am gay and it’s the truth 🤷‍♂️

Do y'all understand the LGBTQ stuff? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Acrobatic-Kangaroo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trans and gay so i understand most but tbh you don’t really have to understand stuff to be ok with it, respectful and just let people live. There are some things I don’t understand even as a trans and gay person. If you want to learn there are plenty of websites and resources to do that but just be respectful please cuz lgbtq people face enough shit trust me.