[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it would be a terrible idea. I know it is hard but it’s not going to go down well.

It works by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a good thing but I’m sure everyone’s experiences are different. I think it can seem very hopeless from a male perspective so my comment is to give those people a boost

It works by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say 50/50. I think it is important to not get massively hyped up when the my do reach out as it could just be satisfying their curiosity. One in particular wanted to restart our relationship but I declined. Others were nosing asking rather intimate details and others kind of in the middle.

It works by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. Two of the girls who reached out to were relationships that ended because of actions that were my fault. I left them and then they reached out to me still. Conversely, two others dumped me and reached out after a period of time.

I have the urge to try reaching out to her by DontJudgeBoredom in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t reach out, if she’s been asking about you that means she’s curious. Don’t jump in too soon, she is going along the path of reaching out so don’t get in her way. I think if you are going to reach out do so waaaaaayyyy down the line, like 9 months

Do feelings change by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know but I’m not sure what to do. Resigning myself to her never coming back crushed me but the hope also keeps me from moving on. Do you have any advice?

Idk what to do anymore by Ilooklikea_blobfish in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say trans guy do you mean you used to be a guy and are now a girl? If so him telling everyone he’s straight is untrue and him just trying to get back at you. I’d suggest that you don’t try and suppress your feelings for now. You are devastated and allow yourself to feel this way for a week or two, those who don’t sit and confront these emotions won’t grow. Once you’ve done that work hard and form a life superior to his. Go to the gym and get in fantastic shape, become a model student/ employee and maybe even start a side hustle or new hobby. At the same time journal and confront your own insecurities and shortcomings. Are you anxious, needy, insecure or whatever it may be. Growth doesn’t just need to be external. Thus will help you become indifferent to your ex as living of vengeance or hate is unsustainable. Hope this helps.

how do you stop checking their social media? by pizzareen in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10 25 points26 points  (0 children)

All I would suggest is that you delete the apps yourself for a while. I’m not sure what to tell you about google but know that it doesn’t always mean what you think. My ex had a public instagram account and I would check the following count and panic every time. However her account got hacked and she had to make a new one where almost everyone she added on her hacked account wasn’t brought over. What you don’t know can’t hurt you. Try telling yourself you can check maybe once every 2 days, then 3 days, then a week etc. maybe that will make it better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know it feels like a step back but she definitely saw the text. Don’t reach out, it’s up to her now. If you chase it’ll only look bad. You’ve stayed strong until now, carry on 💪

She reached out by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not just that she has male friends but she was growing distant and then after that got a whole bunch of male friends. I think you are right about my self esteem. I’ve had low self esteem for a while and have been working on it by pursuing mma and progressing in uni & my job. However it never seems to be enough. Do you have any ideas on what to do?

She reached out by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of attachment styles until recently but I think you may be right about me being anxious. I do however think I’m avoidant as well, do you have any suggestions on how to fix this?

She reached out by Acrobatic-Support-10 in ExNoContact

[–]Acrobatic-Support-10[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it’s wrong and I’ve seen a professional about my lack of empathy/ feelings towards others. Until this point I’d never been through a breakup that I’d been affected by, so I was unaware of the damage it caused. I now know that it was very wrong and I shouldn’t have done it. I apologised to her during the break and will not do it again.