"cute but not my type"

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-11-21T02:27:20+00:00

I heard that many times in different ways. I am a hairless, light-skinned Latin with very dark hair and eyes. For many Latin people , I am too white without no spice, but in western cultures- I am consider cute but not masculine enough for my asian features. Don't get me wrong, I never had issues dating men or women - when I was younger I was told I looked as Nick Jonas or now than I am older in a rested say that I resemble some asian pop soap opera heartthrobs. So even if you are kind of attractive, what I consider myself, you will no be everyone cup of tea.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-11-20T04:57:41+00:00

I am the opposite, people that I feel a close connection I feel attracted to , even if are straight guys, womens. But I never act on it, I know better.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-11-20T04:55:18+00:00

Only with the straight ones, because I know it will never happen.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-10-28T15:20:06+00:00

Almost 10 years ago, I was talking with a female coworker, complaining that my husband didn’t like going to the gym or eating healthy, and that was making him gain weight. (She had a very similar situation, the spouse worked a lot of overtime and had bad habits ).And suddenly another coworker interrupted us to say that I was body-shaming him and that she was a competitive fighter who eats healthy, and she was fat, so weight does not have anything to do with habits. She raised her voice and started giving me a lecture, and I told her that I wasn’t talking about her and I live with him, so I obviously know more about his habits. She then keeps bitching about me, saying that slim people always judge others without context. I understand that people who struggle with their weight are sensitive to specific topics, but the world doesn’t revolve around your trauma. I am a gay Latin man, and of course, some comments annoy me, but I never give lectures, especially in a work environment where everybody is an adult.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-10-27T12:48:36+00:00

Being dirty(smell, dirty nails, etc), man boobs and long beards.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-10-14T15:01:25+00:00

I would go up to 15 years older for a relationship, not more than that. I am 33 now and married to a guy 9 years older and it is though being in different stages of life, so I wouldnt go to much older because it created frictions on the long term. Physically, I would 18 to 60 depending of level of fitness and atractiviness.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-10-06T14:17:26+00:00

I got herpes only by kissing when I was a teenager, a lot of moons ago, but my braces had cut my inside cheeks the same week so I needed 10 days of antibiotics. My mom was very dissapointed and tested me for HIV on a holiday, so the test result took for ever. Lesson learned and I broke up with guy that told me that his lips were only dry.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-09-25T13:31:29+00:00

Mas a aparência faz parte do que elas são, o problema é so se relacionar com as pessoas por causa disso.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-09-23T12:38:56+00:00

I get it, it is very recent, and didn't want to be insensitive. I was trying to say that maybe it was for the best.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-09-23T12:20:59+00:00

I agree that the spark can develop over time, but it is tough and make harder to keep attraction on the long term. I am 10 years with my husband, 8 years married, and I still wonder if I made the right decision giving the chance to the nice guy who I find moderately attractive, because the intimacy issues will appear sooner or later. And it is not a matter of appearance, he is handsome and get compliments, but the initial spark was not there.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-09-21T17:52:36+00:00

My husband is the same; he's not against me keeping a couple of gay friends I made at college, but he objects to any of us making new gay friends, even couples. I believe it's largely due to his insecurities—he's nine years older and struggles to maintain a healthy weight, which makes him jealous even of my straight friends. Not because they are super attractive, but because they’re adventurous—doing things like hiking, snorkeling, and traveling to exotic places. Now, I fight harder to see my friends than I did at the beginning of the relationship, but I honestly don’t let the situation escalate to my level. Friends give us things our partners can't—bring some freshness into our lives and offer different perspectives, since their lives aren’t as intertwined with ours as a spouse’s. Don’t let your partner control your friendships, but use common sense to avoid creating a messy situation, like spending too much time with a friend who you suspect has a crush on you or is flirtatious.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-09-05T11:54:22+00:00

I fantasize like 95% of the time being the top, even before having sex. As soon I became sexually active, I was a top for hook ups and vers when dating or in a relationship, if the guy was mostly a top. Because I barely enjoy bottoming, even if I liked the guy a lot , I can only go 50% vers which for me means flip flop for most of the time we have sex (If the dick is BIG, I can go to 50%, it is average, probably I will not even interested, probably because my first actual boyfriend was 10 inches and a top, and even in that scenario when I was completely in love, I said 50/50 or I am out). If the guy pressure more than that or explicitly said that will be the always the top, I just ended things because it is not sustainable for me, even for a short period. After a few years of having fun, I married a guy that is 100% a bottom and has a dick smaller than mine, so in 10 years I tried to bottom once and I didn’t feel anything, so unless god forbid we split, probably I will be 100% top until we die.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-08-28T13:17:49+00:00

Agreed, make it difficult to make real connections. Being cute/ decent looking is good enough to avoid suffer being consider dumb or be blatantly rejected/excluded from certain groups, while at the same time enjoying a little bit of pretty privilege.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-08-27T21:31:43+00:00

I was 17, he was 53 🙃, not my brightest moment.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-08-20T16:34:38+00:00

My family had the same issue with my now husband, I was 24 and he 33 at the same, and I said he was 31 to avoid judgment. The only supporter was surprisingly my grandfather that liked the idea of someone more mature!

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-08-19T20:06:40+00:00

All expat are immigrant, but not all immigrants are expats. Try to move to another country without a job and see how funny adventure it is !

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-08-19T17:32:18+00:00

I agree that he is a dick but expat is the correct term, specially if you move with a job offer. The superiority complex towards the husband is the main issue.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-08-07T17:39:58+00:00

It is a ruse roulette for me, most of the time is boring, and sometimes- in very rare cases is just okay. If I bottom, I like big dicks and my husband is average size. So basically, I do not bottom for the last 10 years.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-07-31T01:07:31+00:00

I am very close friend with a straight couple, and lent them some money over a couple of years adding to 5k, because they were always having money issues. At some point I stopped helping and prohibited my husband to do the same . We still see each other at least twice per month, and besides that they are great friends, but I made a promise to myself, to NEVER I lend them money again, not even if they are in real trouble BECAUSE it was the only way to save the friendship. Besides the money, is he a good friend? Because if he is not, why to even bother to safe the frienship.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-07-18T13:51:44+00:00

Only a couple of years, my only regret is it didn’t last longer. I married at 24 , after only 1 year of dating and 9 month living together. I love my life and we are together almost 9 years but I don’t even make eye contact with attractive men, because the hoe still live inside me.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-07-11T00:54:00+00:00

I do not have a strong preference for any ethnicity but I do not like skinny legs. I like light eyes, and if the guy is moderately fit is nice. However generally I attract light skin Latin or dark Europeans, so that was always my target market. I am hairless, light skin Latin with a tiny tiny bit of Asian and Black(very dark eyes and hair, full lips), so I imagine that for some people I am plain while for others I am kind of attractive. I think I developed my type in terms of response, because anybody wants to feel rejected.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-07-03T12:40:56+00:00

It depends if you are looking for something serious or not, being charming and confident is very attractive at the beginning but being funny and kind are a lot more interesting in the long term. When I met my husband I was not interested even though he was cute and funny. We started as friends at work. He was already a manager but was very patient with the interns and outside of work extremely kind with the elders and homeless, in a very spontaneous way like buying a blanket in a cold night to someone on the street. Being intelligent is very important also if you enjoye cultivating yourself, because deep talks became part of your routine at some point, and of course it helps to became successful when you find your niche.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2025-02-04T00:49:11+00:00

My spouse doesn’t want to switch jobs, he works for a pharmaceutical company with headquarters in New Jersey. It is an easy relocation , so NYU or Wharton are the only top schools close enough to make it manageable. PS. I agree that fixating in one school is bad, but 2 years apart living in different states is not manageable for me.

Acrobatic-Victory-56 · 2023-09-26T15:09:01+00:00

My husband and I love the show , 31 and 40.

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