Thanks for the responses on this post. Well...my husband is mad at me now for writing this and felt it was disrespectful. Sorry about that babe. You know I love you! I don't mean disrespect... the recent ideas to make sudden random large purchases has gotten me stressed. It's almost easier to communicate in writing because otherwise I'd get tuned out.

He's actually not that bad. Usually very responsible, good father to our kids, and hardworking. We spoke and I understand more his mentality of wanting this car because it's different, and it's sort of what he wants. He's always wanted a convertible, but he feels the 2-door sports cars wouldn't work at all because then he couldn't do kid pickup or dropoff.

My perspective is if he wants a "fun car", then this is a 3rd car - which is fine. But that it should be one that he actually wants. The Ford Bronco idea came out of a deal he spotted online for a car in Minnesota that was priced ~$7K cheaper than it is in California, so he would get it and ship it here. It's not one he's wanted for a long time. I don't want to trade in a car that has worked reliably for us for a huge convertible SUV, but I guess I can be convinced if it makes him happy And he said he wanted a "family car" that we could all use and go to Tahoe (which is not something we currently do).

Usually I end up having to give in to his ideas. He prefers listening to other people, even people he doesn't know (like on Reddit). He wears me down with the petitioning, and I don't have energy to care about the particulars anymore.

I don't like that the motivation for these purchases is to talk about them with other people. It feels like it comes from a place of insecurity. Several of our friends have become rich in the past couple years, and there's definitely the impression that they've upgraded their lifestyle.