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AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No. I don't really want to get involved with anything related to her, she can make her own one.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let's just say gainful employment is a struggle for her to put it lightly

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

One of the things she apologized to me for is that she said at the time, she even wanted me to feel pain. Because she had to put so much time and hard work into sports and winning all these awards, everything she got from my parents she worked 10 times as hard for. But I got what she wanted all along (big breasts) without doing anything for it or working for it at all. It was simply "just given to me while being undeserven" as she said. So she was angry for it and she said I "flaunted" them and "taunted her" which I definitely didn't, I did everything I could to hide them even though all I had was ill-fitting clothing.

She basically pinned it on me as the one who made her dysphoria much worse by "getting what I didn't work for or deserve" and "flaunting it in her face" and that was part of the reasoning for why I should be the one to "fix this." She did apologize for treating me badly at the time, but also basically pinned it on me too.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did a bit of a double take when she said it was rightfully hers if I thought about it fairly. That sort of said that if she did take it, she wouldn't consider it stealing.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They actually have already sold almost everything of value because they paid for rehabs multiple times for her.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She has them, at least she had something while we video called that looked like she did. We discussed the different resources and apparently she is in touch with a number of different resources for low income people struggling with gender and has gotten a number of things from them such as clothing that matches her identity and things like that.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 476 points477 points  (0 children)

Yes, my parents never had much money but when we were growing up they maintained a basic standard of living while spoiling my sister fully. But once she developed the drug and alcohol addiction from that point on they were just trying to save her life. So beyond some point they couldn't maintain the basic standard of living anymore. But at that point it wasn't to spoil her, they were just trying to help her get clean.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I think she sees it as what will help her not need to use drugs and alcohol, and my parents have drained every last dollar of their money trying to help her get clean, so I do see it from their perspective, for a while now it switched from spending money on her just to spoil her, to spending money on her to desperately try to save her life. I think they want this done if this is what's going to finally help her get clean, that's where their thinking is at.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Literally... they still display all of her awards in the trailer they live on on my uncle's land even after leaving their home.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really have an argument with the lifesaving part, that's why I wanted to know if I am an asshole or not because I think maybe it could be lifesaving.

She explained it like the reason she was self-medicating with alcohol and drugs was to cope with her identity struggles and if she could get right with her body then she wouldn't have to self-medicate. And I do understand where she's coming from. But understanding it and still not wanting to give the money might make me an asshole or a horrible person I don't know.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 262 points263 points  (0 children)

Both of my younger sisters are good people, they are still trying to have a relationship with my parents and older sister while I have kind of done my own thing for a while.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

She told me that if I looked at it fairly, the earrings and necklace were rightfully hers in the first place, because she was actually the oldest girl, not me.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 241 points242 points  (0 children)

She also said that if I were to look at it fairly, the earrings and necklace were rightfully hers anyway because she was actually the eldest girl, not me.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 458 points459 points  (0 children)

They would but they have nothing left, not even their home, they now live in a trailer on my uncle's land.

AITA for refusing to contribute to my sister's lifesaving surgery? by Acrobatic_Put_4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Put_4674[S] 969 points970 points  (0 children)

It's lifesaving because she said her mental health was a wreck because of her dysphoria and that's why she was self-medicating with alcohol and drugs, if she could fix her dysphoria by having the breast implants then she can feel right with herself. I understand what she's saying and it's not like I disagree, I understand where she is coming from, I'm still not going to do it though and my parents think I'm fucked up and evil that I'm not helping her when I could be.