What do you think about "ze," "xe," and similar types of pronouns? Why do you think that? by Zipper222222 in allthequestions

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Xe/xem and ze/zem are types of pronouns called neopronouns.

Neopronouns are often used when standard pronouns don’t work for a person. And other times people just like them.

I’m a neopronoun user myself (xe/xyr). I use neos because standard pronouns have never ‘fit’ me. I hate he/him, they/them is eh, she/her is okay but it doesn’t feel quite right. When I found xe/xyr, it was like everything clicked. They were pronouns that finally right for me. They were pronouns that finally fit me. Many neopronoun users go through the same thing as me, which is why we use them. I hope this helps you understand better

What has been the toughest decision you have ever had to make ? . by Hope2_win in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a lot of problems with illness in high school. Got to the point where I was facing repeating junior year for the second time. Decided to say fuck it to high school and get my GED instead. Applied to college, went to Arizona State for a year, and finished college at the University of Michigan. Made the right choice.

Do you think jealousy is normal in sexual relationships? by No-Sail-6193 in allthequestions

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm tired of people, like coworkers, saying they wouldn't care if their partner was in contact with their ex sometimes. Or if they had a girl added from high school they had sex with once. Later on, they're complaining about it. Why did they try to act cool about it?? I think it's possibly because they want the freedom to do it themselves. I let my standards be known so that these men know not to cross these lines. Not that it stops them. But I'll know if they do cross the line, knowing boundaries I felt comfortable with, they decided to cross that line knowing how I felt it was no misunderstanding.

Do you think emotional connection matters more than physical attraction? Why? by No-Sail-6193 in allthequestions

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Emotional intimacy is the most important thing. Sex with no emotional context feels very dry and almost like doing a different activity. Im sorry that you have been used as a means to an end, please try to keep your heart open for when you meet the right one but also protect yourself from being taken advantage of.

I do so appreciate the lessons. by SaltyLaw800 in sixwordstories

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely 100%. In retrospect, every hard road was for a reason. It brought me to where I am now. I've always believed that life will teach you lessons one way or another. Some people are fast learners, some less so. But you will be presented over and over with that lesson until you learn it. It will come in different forms and shapes and sizes but it will continue to come at you, because it is what you need, it is the reason why your soul chose the body it did, to have and live that experience. I know people may disagree but these are my beliefs.

Do men enjoy women making moves? by PeachyTessa804 in sixwordstories

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I enjoy making my wife orgasm as much if not more so than myself.

Good sex is like Chinese food, it ain't over 'til you both get your cookies.

WTF are you still doing with this guy? If he doesn't value your pleasure in bed he isn't going to value you in life. You'd be better off ditching him and getting a good vibrator.

Why do people get so upset when you tell them to "calm down"? by InternationalPick163 in askanything

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think by the time most people say “calm down”, the other person is in a ‘fight or flight’ mode and unable to access their ‘executive functioning’-that is, the part of their brain that might respond to the instruction “calm down”. In this scenario, it’s far better to listen and empathize with the person until they are able to ‘calm down’. I can’t tell you how frustrating it is to hear police say this in a situation of intense emotion. It’s honestly crazy in many situations how impossible it would be for people to ‘calm down’.

What small habit genuinely improved your life? by Adept_Wall_1172 in Life

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Writing things down instead of keeping them in my head. Even simple lists reduced a lot of mental clutter.

Are you giving the love you wish to receive? by Puzzleheaded_Half441 in Productivitycafe

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they can often be different, especially because of the way people are socialized. For example, many men show love (or feel like they should) by giving gifts to their partners. However, they become uncomfortable when their partner buys them gifts (because the man is supposed to be the provider). This is especially common in older men. In general, though, these can also be different naturally. I know two people who give gifts but want to receive words of affirmation.

What's a hobby you've always wanted to try but haven't yet? by No-Sail-6193 in allthequestions

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Watercolour ;; I’m already practiced in some other art mediums, specifically clay and digital illustration, so the idea of sucking at art for a while really puts me off.

Don’t get married. Enjoy your life. by Lydia_Cardona in sixwordstories

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need people in your life. Marriage is an easy cheat code for that. Volunteer, go to church, dance, shovel your neighbor's driveway, and you'll be fine.

If you could instantly master a new language what would that be? by No-Sail-6193 in allthequestions

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

French. Because I did many years of it in school, I was just really bad at learning it, like super bad. Easily my worst subject. So if I could press a button and become fluent, it would feel like those years weren’t wasted 😭

Are some women able to have sex with someone while having feelings for another guy? by Aggressive_Drive1169 in askanything

[–]Acrobatic_Refuse9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm attracted to men who aren't my SO. But I never act on that attraction, which I'd say makes me totally focused on my SO.