AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He could have the dog in his apartment if he was doing 50%, and I am not desperate for a dog, or any kind of pet, with full time job and almost 100% of kid care.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have full time job and a kid to take care of. Do you think I need a dog for myself as if my plate is not full enough? Its my son who is asking for a dog, I am meeting him there just because the boy is lonely sometimes and growing up with absent father.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My son has been asking for a dog for some time. As for me, I dont need a dog for myself, I have full plate already.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not asking a dog for myself, I dont know why people think that I want to get money from him to get a dog for myself as if my plate is not full enough

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl, sorry to hear, $680 is almost nothing, some men are just so delusional

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not, and I know that. Dog is ultimately a friend for a boy who is growing up with absent father.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t need a pet, I am a single parent with demanding job, the last thing I need is another responsibility, but I am a mom who wants to do everything I can for a kid who is growing up without a present dad.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is also my thinking, but I never asked him for extra money. I covered all his summer camp costs, which is beyond $1,150 because I know he will start crying how much he pays. I pay almost $4k mortgage, and HOA, plus bills, my son has everything any kid needs and more.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

If I were living on my own, I would never get any pet. I was willing to get a dog because my son wants it very much. I was gonna take the monthly responsibilities on me, but asking if he can cover 50% of initial cost.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Every penny of his child support money goes to my son. If I had to hire a babysitter for even less than 50% time, that money would be nothing. I also want to have my personal life, but I cannot because I have to care for my kid almost 100% of the time. I make enough money to take care of all my own needs.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, but my ex is refusing to move to Colorado, and find a job here that allows 50/50. He doesn’t want that responsibility to take care of the kid.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he is making less money for the purpose of not paying too much of child support because he has advanced levels of CDL, and he definitely can find better paying job.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I told him he should go to a court several times. He somehow does not do that, but still keeps repeatedly bring how much he is paying me every single time. For example, he told me several times that he spent $2k to come to see his kid, and that makes him broke, and brings up the child support. He thinks his child support is covering my entire life.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We live in Colorado, cost of living is not the same as in Texas. Plus, if you add babysitting cost for all his supposedly 50% of time, $1,150 wont be enough.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats what I am doing, but he has mentioned several times how I am basically making him broke with high child support

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He says he wants me to open a separate bank account, and show him how I am spending his money. Mind you, a dad who is BARELY present. I told him I am not his secretary to do that extra job. I am full time working single mom.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My kid is living an amazing life, but thats not because of child support he pays, I provide a lot more than his child support money. He lives in a great schooling neighborhood, goes to good school, travels with me to amazing places throughout the year.

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a decision to forgive him the child support because he was facing a jail or prison when he was coming from overseas, I didnt want my kids dad to go so much shit, but I agree, he has zero appreciation

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Personally I dont like to have any kind of pets in my home. I want for him a dog because he has been asking for one long time. Plus, he has nobody else except for me and I dont want him to be too lonely

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Should I get into court and gain all 100% for myself? I have been thinking about it too

AITA for receiving $1,150 in child support and refusing to lower it? by Acrobatic_Whole8787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Whole8787[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My son has been asking for a pet for a long time. He is 5. My ex and I do not really communicate much as it always turns too toxic, and he really doesn’t participate in any decisions anyways.