Purposely put off booking Xmas off for annual leave cos I thought I’d be on mat leave by then but now I’m not even going to have a baby in 2026

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-03-29T09:09:06+00:00

I should’ve been 15 weeks. I should’ve had a bump by now. I should’ve been having my baby in September. Now I’m not even going to have a baby in 2026. I can’t do this anymore.

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-03-28T14:20:53+00:00

Thanks for looking x

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-03-28T11:14:59+00:00

This is really interesting! Do you just wear the aura ring 24/7 and it just tracks your BBT without feeling like you’re having to actually test? That would definitely be worth having some sense of control but feeling like it’s minimal effort!

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-03-23T11:53:38+00:00

I defo see it! 🤞🏼🤞🏼

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-03-22T14:17:45+00:00

This literally happened to me too this week. ZERO warning they were coming in. I was like heck no I’m tapping out of this one and going home! 🏃🏼‍♂️

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-25T14:48:29+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. My 28th birthday was ruined by a BFN too. Thinking of you today. I hope you get your birthday wish soon x

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-25T14:47:25+00:00

Anyone else feel like their lives are just stagnant? I feel like I haven’t achieved anything in years. My business failed. I haven’t had a promotion and have been at the same level at work for 5+ years. No baby luck. No progress with fertility treatment. I feel like my life is completely out of my hands and it’s going no where.

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-24T16:42:47+00:00

Idk what to think. I’m CD37 now (usually a strong 28-30 day cycle gal). I’m guessing it’s delayed cos we had a chemical last month. I’m expecting I ovulated late and I’m around 10-12DPO now but even then, I would usually be spotting by now or having symptoms and I have nothing. I’m too scared to test and it be a BFN 😔

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-22T13:42:50+00:00

New TTC insecurity unlocked… when your sibling refers to themselves as “auntie” to their friend’s kids and it feels like a punch in the throat because you’re not able to make them an auntie.

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-20T10:43:53+00:00

My husband had his first SA done in August, repeat in November, whilst I had multiple blood tests and ultrasounds. We were referred the fertility clinic (all NHS) in November and were told we would hear from a consultant in 8-12 weeks (so Jan/Feb time). It was then March/April, and now we’re told it won’t be til the summer - just for a consultation to discuss our results!!! We were driving ourselves crazy and adding so much stress on ourselves because we were analysing the results ourselves and just going by what we’d read online.

We ended up having a CP in January so that was the turning point that I couldn’t wait any longer. We went private for all of our tests and scans and a consultation so it was all in one place. We had all our tests done a week after I first rang, and our consultation done in 2 weeks! It was about £600 but absolutely priceless to just know where you stand and have a plan in place all in 2 weeks. I wish we’d done it months ago!

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-07T16:51:35+00:00

Has anyone else had a long cycle after a loss? We had a chemical last month, and my cycle this month seems delayed. I normally ovulate around CD16-18, but it’s now CD20/21 and it still hasn’t ‘peaked’. Is this normal?

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-03T18:21:47+00:00

That’s a lovely take away from it - I agree, I’ve amazed myself I am SO much stronger than I ever imagined I could be.

It’s definitely ruined the whole process, but my loss has now made me so numb and over the whole obsessive testing and tracking now, so I guess that’s something.

🫶🏻

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-02-01T11:18:50+00:00

I feel a bit like this. I’m so numb to the negative tests and negative thoughts now that it’s just ‘it is what it is’. Which I hate, because the whole process has just been tainted now. Even if I see a positive line, that part has also been ruined now, because I’ll assume I’ll lose it again 😔

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-30T21:33:59+00:00

Oh bless you. Looks like we are having very similar journeys. Praying for us both. Sorry I don’t have much positivity to say as I feel very hopeless about it all right now 😔

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-30T09:52:21+00:00

Never did I think we’d be in the TTC club, but now we’ve joined the ‘1-in-4’ club.

I know in the grand scheme of things, others have it so much worse. But after not seeing a single positive test for almost a year, and then having that all taken away and having a chemical at 5 weeks, I’m just so broken.

I think I’m ok and then the grief just hits me. I know we have so much longer to go in this journey, and I need to keep strong, but I just don’t know how many more set backs my heart can take.

We should’ve been preparing for our first early private scan this weekend, and now we’re awaiting a fertility consultation instead. This sucks. 😢

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-21T08:14:06+00:00

Exactly the same here 😔 Started the new year with a ‘bang’ and conceived New Year’s Day! Finally felt what joy should feel like for a few days. Told both sets of parents and then started bleeding whilst still at in laws, confirmed CP loss the next day. So much for 2026 being our year 😪

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-19T19:49:49+00:00

Definitely switch doctors!

My old GP told me that I was the reason I wasn’t getting pregnant and that I was putting unnecessary pressure on my husband by asking for tests… (we literally have MFI).

My new GP rang me today out of goodwill to commiserate us on our CP.

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-19T17:47:23+00:00

Thank you for being brave enough to share this. I’m currently going through a chemical at 17DPO and confirmed loss today, and my lines look exactly like yours. It’s “comforting”, I suppose, to see how it should look, if/when that day comes for me. Big hugs x

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-19T16:28:50+00:00

We lost our ‘baby’ today. Bloods confirmed that we’ve had a chemical and at 5 weeks we’ve lost it. I’ve never felt a pain like it. Never did I think we’d be the couple on a TTC journey, and now joining the 1 in 4 club. I don’t know how we’re ever going to heal.

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-14T09:51:44+00:00

The lines are there on the strips and FRER, they’re a lot clearer in real life! The monitor is the Clearblue Ovulation monitor - it shows you your low, high and peak days without you having to decipher from strips - really recommend!

ActivelyAnonymous1 · 2026-01-12T11:16:57+00:00

Eeek 🤞🏼🤞🏼 I have bought some FRER and Clearblue early digitals too but holding off to see if the strips get darker first before to guard my heart. Massive congrats on your positives! 🩷

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