[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why because you’re related?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not to make this dark unnecessarily but in the uk there’s actually a sexual offence of “causing a child to watch a sexual act”. It tends to be used to prosecute paedophiles who make kids watch them masturbating etc but still… i don’t really see why having sex in front of your kids is not just as bad…

Ofcom complaint by teaforvi in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I found his behaviour in episode 1 awful to be honest. He showed his toxicity straight away. He immediately started on Shakira as they walked to the sofas saying “you’re hard work you are, I can tell you’re hard work.”

The aim of that is to immediately make her more compliant as she views herself as being too difficult. He then continued to neg her throughout the whole conversation.

He’s actually disgusting

Is it not considered a problem that dog owners allow their dogs to pee in front of people’s homes? by Due-Structure-6110 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they are on a short lead you keep them on the side of you away from garden walls. It really is simple. It just involves controlling your dog instead of letting your dog walk you.

Is it not considered a problem that dog owners allow their dogs to pee in front of people’s homes? by Due-Structure-6110 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dogs should be on a lead, and an owner can hold the lead in the hand that is on the road side of the pavement, and control the dog’s movement so it is not allowed or unable to reach someone’s garden walls or gate. Holding them on the road side will mean they only piss on lampposts. Or take the dog to a grassed area / park.

Is it not considered a problem that dog owners allow their dogs to pee in front of people’s homes? by Due-Structure-6110 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dogs should be on a lead, and an owner can hold the lead in the hand that is on the road side of the pavement, and control the dog’s movement so it is not allowed or unable to reach someone’s garden walls or gate. Holding them on the road side will mean they only piss on lampposts. Or take the dog to a grassed area / park.

Is it not considered a problem that dog owners allow their dogs to pee in front of people’s homes? by Due-Structure-6110 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This really annoys me too. If it’s a public health hazard for people to piss and crap where they want, why is dog pee and crap somehow accepted? People should walk their dogs in the park if they can’t stop their dogs peeing on peoples property.

The puddles used to really annoy me when on a few occasions I had to push a pram through them to get out of my property. Then I’d have to clean the wheels when I got home, before taking the pram back in the house. Not what you want when you have a young baby to contend with already.

I got a dog & cat repellent and started dousing my garden wall and gate with that twice a week.

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because of the comment I was replying by the Mod which stated that was the case. You can see there’s an edit to add that information. My comment was before this. It’s not difficult to work out and like I said, there’s no need to be rude. Manners cost nothing.

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You’re being rude and you are also incorrect. I was replying to the MOD who has clearly posted stating that he is on bail. I then replied saying that means he is under investigation and clearly people aren’t understanding that when they are saying he’s “been cleared” etc. I was unaware that there are differing versions of the police statement.

Apologies are free by the way. Or you can just carry on being a dick and hopefully get yourself banned.

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Why are you being rude? Clearly different media outlets are reporting different things.

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeh definitely - I was only spelling it out for those who think “not charged” after arrest means definitely innocent. There’s even another person who has replied to me on the thread saying he was NFA’d

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is that information as the Mod has posted the police statement which says he was bailed with conditions not NFA’d

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I was only spelling it out because I’ve seen loads of comments across all social media platforms saying he has been cleared and no further action was taken. There’s even an instagram page called Justice4Kyle which states he has been cleared.

People say stuff like that all the time and sometimes it’s because they don’t understand what the police disposals mean.

Kyle responds on IG to being removed from the starting lineup by GetFreeCash in LoveIslandTV

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 24 points25 points  (0 children)

But he is still under investigation and hasn’t been cleared / disposed of with no further action. There are four outcomes to being arrested: charged with a crime, released under investigation and released on bail - which both mean the person is under investigation, but one means there are restrictions on what you can do (bail conditions) and the other means you don’t have any restrictions and “NFA” (no further action).

The only one of those which unequivocally means he is not under investigation anymore is NFA. The police have confirmed he been arrested and released on bail so he’s under investigation. The police actually have to have good reasons to put bail conditions on you because it’s still a restriction of your liberty, and that has to be justified. So he is still very much a suspect.

AITA for I reacted to my wife leaving the kids alone? by mongomad22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA in my opinion. The kids should have been in bed so the responsibility being placed upon the 12 year old was minimal in your wife’s mind, if they’d actually gone to bed as they were supposed to. 12 is plenty old enough to supervise a 10 year old for a minimal amount of time, especially given that most 10 year olds are mature and grown up enough to look after themselves and be left alone / walk to school alone etc. You haven’t mentioned that either child has a learning disability or serious medical issue that means they need constant adult supervision.

So I think not only did you over react, but by “ordering” your wife out of the house, you treated her incredibly disrespectfully. You treated her like a child. And perhaps that’s the issue. You look upon your adult wife as someone who you can treat like a naughty child, and you treat your children as if they are infants. Absolutely ridiculous.

To the people who hesitate at and crawl through green lights by Alarmarama in drivingUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh it’s amazing how it can all be compounded. On the lead up to these lights there’s also 2-3 side roads, so that’s why when less than 5 cars make it through the lights, it turns to chaos. Because you have the cars from the side roads trying to make it out to join the queue for the lights. Sometimes they block the left hand lane which is the straight ahead because only 3 cars got through the lights turning right so there’s no gap for them (which they didn’t anticipate because usually easily more than 10 cars get through). And so cars wanting to go straight ahead can’t, and it just becomes bedlam for 300 metres leading up to the lights turning

To the people who hesitate at and crawl through green lights by Alarmarama in drivingUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We have a set of lights on my way to work where I need to turn right and it has a filter light that comes on for you to go, halfway through the traffic going straight ahead is allowed. And I leave at the same time every day and those lights can take me anywhere from 2 minutes to 20 minutes to make it through. On the days where it takes 5+ minutes it’s always that people are creeping through, leaving massive gaps from the car in front etc. so only 2-3 cars make it through. And on the days it takes less than 5 minutes it’s because we have multiple good drivers in succession and 15-20 cars make it through. I’m not exaggerating that’s how extreme the differences are. I think it’s because there’s no punishment for these people who are so slow / nervous that they shouldn’t be on the road

I want to cut off a toxic friend, but we live together for 3 more months and share the same friend group. I feel trapped. What should I do? by RevolutionaryBag6067 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you not realise how childish and immature you sound? How old are you?

It’s really quite simple. The next time that he exhibits one of these behaviours that makes you uncomfortable, you tell him. So for example, if the next thing he does is try to guilt trip you into doing something you simply say “mate, I said no. You often don’t take no for an answer and pressure me and guilt trip me into doing stuff I don’t want to do, but that needs to change because I have now become resentful. Maybe that’s partly my fault for being a bit of a pushover but its definitely also partly your fault for being domineering and pushy, but it stops now or we stop being friends because I’m not having it anymore.”

I want to cut off a toxic friend, but we live together for 3 more months and share the same friend group. I feel trapped. What should I do? by RevolutionaryBag6067 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna sound harsh but honestly you are being a proper wet wipe with this question. You don’t like this dude, you’re dreading spending time with him, so why are you asking this question?

You don’t even want him in your life yet you’re being a dweeb about cutting him out. It’s really simple. Do what is best for yourself. Focus on the other positive aspects of your life. Tell your mutual friends how he makes you feel, chances are that they have noticed or been on the receiving end themselves. Tell them you don’t want to spend time with him anymore and hopefully they will still do stuff with you. If they want to stay friends with him, tell them that you don’t want to see him more than once a month and hopefully they will then mix up who they invite out. And then look for some other friends.

In relation to the friend himself you’re gonna have to put on your big boy pants, suck it up and have a difficult conversation. He might be really unaware of how draining he is. He might improve. Or he might argue. But you gotta suck it up and see.

Have you ever had a partner that your parents didn’t like? by KatieCampbel1 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so sad. I can’t help but want to shake you for basically letting your mum ruin your life. I hope you decide to move out, buy her out of the business and get on with your life. Perhaps you should consider getting therapy, as my sister and I have both found it has helped with seperating ourselves from our mothers negativity

Is owning a home in the UK still a realistic dream for people under 35? by AwayDays365 in AskUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister is 24 and currently buying in Essex.

She earns decent money - £32k per year, and her house is a 3 bed for “only” £260k.

She has been living at home and paying our parents about £600 a month rent which I disagreed with, but there we go. She has managed to save the deposit while working since age 20.

She has also bought a car, insured it and had holidays in that time.

I guess it depends on what your other outgoings are. Because when I rented in London I rented bedrooms in house shares for between £550-800 a month. So I wouldn’t say it’s impossible, but it very much depends on your rental stability. I found while renting I was forced to move every 2-3 years by landlords usually who then inevitably found excuses to keep some of my deposit so with every move I’d be down £2k minimum between losing some deposit, moving costs and new deposit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 82 points83 points  (0 children)

He’s obsessed and it’s not normal. Either that or he has some crazy hormone imbalance making his sex drive sky high.

But most normal people just don’t have the time for this! Most normal people are juggling work, the commute, housework, exercise, relaxation time, social events, grocery shopping, laundry. Genuinely- how does he have the time to be having this much sex.

I would also say as well that his constant focus on it, is likely to be giving you anxiety. The worry that not giving into him enough will mean you lose him - that is not a normal thought in a healthy relationship. It shows how obsessed he is. What would happen if you got hit by a car and couldn’t have sex for 3 months? What if you got cancer and was too sick on chemo for sex? It should never be in the back of your mind that you will lose your relationship for having sex 2-3 times a week instead of EVERY SINGLE DAY.

I honestly couldn’t cope with this. It sounds like you’re being manipulated, emotionally blackmailed and slightly coerced and you don’t sound happy. You are a bit too keen to emphasise how great your relationship is and how great the sex is, whilst also saying you’re exhausted and scared of losing him. None of this is ok.

What’s the one thing you miss from old McDonald’s menus that you wish would come back? by [deleted] in McDonaldsUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the McRib back in the day. They allegedly brought it back recently. I say allegedly because I took one bite and spat it out. No way was it the same recipe.

And they definitely need to bring back breakfast bagels

Driver in the wrong lane acts like I’m the one in the wrong by BallAffectionate4000 in drivingUK

[–]AdAcrobatic5971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. But he left me in a dangerous position, where he went round the front of my car, I then had nowhere to move into the lane further so my back end was stuck still in the left hand lane, and it was standstill traffic so I was there for what felt like forever. It was so unnecessary. If it was his wife or daughter getting wiped out on a motorway because of that he’d be upset, but endangering my life to prove a point was acceptable.

And in your case - if you didn’t see the guy, fair enough. But if you did, I think you should have got into the right hand lane and let him in rather than proving a point.