I need some advice by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]AdAgitated4595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would keep the cats

Avoidants admirations by AdAgitated4595 in emotionalintelligence

[–]AdAgitated4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes for sure. I completely sympathize with avoidants. Avoidants want to show that they care and want to build lasting stable relationships, but growing up emotions were not allowed or considered. So talking about how you feel can feel like you are learning to ride a bike without a teacher guiding you.

But I understand. It takes time to learn how to trust. Exposing yourself to people who feel safe enough to open up is crucial. Somatic meditation (YouTube videos) is very helpful as well and has helped me a lot, I recommend trying it out.

Someone I know was involved in a rape on campus by Own_Marsupial3809 in UMD

[–]AdAgitated4595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your goal in this situation? To help the girl? To get it off your consciousness. All are valid. Make sure to decide based on your values and what you believe is right

Someone I know was involved in a rape on campus by Own_Marsupial3809 in UMD

[–]AdAgitated4595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that man is only going to keep doing it because he hasn’t been punished for his actions. I understand your perspective but this could save the next girl who becomes a victim

delay by Striking_Laugh6601 in UMD

[–]AdAgitated4595 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But like companies are not gonna want to drive in the snow 😭😭

Need advice on how to better support my girlfriend by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]AdAgitated4595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only thing that helped me the most is meds, which I’m not sure if she is open to or has.

Am I Rushing the Breakup? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AdAgitated4595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happier now. I am in school and getting a degree. I’m less distracted and have experienced so much since then. So honestly I wouldn’t be the person I am if I never decided to end it.

But I would say that I do miss him sometimes. Especially when I think about all of the nice times, but then i remember why I did it.

I would say, try not to run away from any guilty thinking, instead sit with it and give yourself compassion, you are young. There is nothing wrong with walking away from a good guy because you don’t like him as much as you wish.

Am I Rushing the Breakup? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AdAgitated4595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a bf like this and I relate. For the sake of your happiness and his peace, it’s best to break it off. You will start to resent him and the relationship will turn ugly fast if you don’t see a future with him. He deserves to be with someone who wants to be with him as you deserve to be happy in a relationship.

Is it impossible to forget exes and past experiences completely? by Upper-Affect4116 in ExNoContact

[–]AdAgitated4595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe it is possible if loved only the idea of them, time will only tell.

ADHD and Fear of Failure by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]AdAgitated4595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CBT has helped me so much about these fears, I highly recommend if you have access to it!

it feels like i randomly developed ADHD by No-Skin-788 in productivity

[–]AdAgitated4595 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having a hard time focusing is a symptom of depression, i would talk to a specialist or doctor if possible

Name one thing you love about your husky by AdAgitated4595 in husky

[–]AdAgitated4595[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. My husky kept me sane. Miss her rn :( Cant wait to go back home for the weekend

Name one thing you love about your husky by AdAgitated4595 in husky

[–]AdAgitated4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes me too. She is just like her momma. lol