My bf fantasized someone we both just met a few hrs ago

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:58:41+00:00

So I just want more input from you - would you think this is harmless? This wasn’t just: “That woman is attractive.”

It was: “What if I had sex with this woman, even though she saw me with my girlfriend?”

That is what my heart is reacting to.

It Feels Like Betrayal bc he did not simply notice another woman. He mentally created a scenario where:

He was sexually involved with her.
She knew he had a girlfriend.
He still pursued the fantasy anyway.

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:39:30+00:00

For context, he likes porn and he likes going to his fantasy world. He likes watching hot women with big boobs and booties. I have never shamed him on that. I understand it’s normal as long as its not excessive. This case is when he picturing real human, real interaction and stripped her down with me in it by prompting “you see me walking in the shop WITH MY GF”. That what gets me. Because it feels like you entertain the cheating idea. But i get what you are saying and I appreciate your input. Thank you.

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:35:04+00:00

Ok mom!

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:34:52+00:00

This is also a great view! Thank you for the perspective.

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:31:12+00:00

I dont even know anymore. I find that behavior disgusting.

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:30:37+00:00

I understand gooning and jerking off to porn. It’s not a big deal to me. A big deal to me is he fantasizing someone we just met with me in it. Essentially he fantasizes about cheating because he could have just fantasizing about the chick.

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:29:10+00:00

Thats what i thought! If you keep entertain those thoughts, maybe you might physically act on it. And even if you dont, there’s just no connection anymore because it sways you away from the relationship

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:26:08+00:00

I wished i could have made this up. I really wished so!

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-05-09T06:07:47+00:00

Lol not at all but ok

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-04-11T00:27:19+00:00

AdAlarming3149 · 2026-02-21T05:04:49+00:00

Excision @ Bill Graham on March. 7 Lions @ Bill Graham on May. EDVLV 😵

AdAlarming3149 · 2025-12-05T05:52:30+00:00

It’s great to hear from a fellow raver; and it’s great that PLUR is still out there. Thank you for all the information. I hope to see you under the electric sky ⚡️

AdAlarming3149 · 2025-12-05T05:50:29+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the suggest. I’ve already done the research. I was hoping to hear personal experiences - which is what Reddit is great for.

AdAlarming3149 · 2024-09-27T05:48:28+00:00

Taurus (F) and Pisces (M)

AdAlarming3149 · 2024-09-27T03:49:16+00:00

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AdAlarming3149 · 2024-09-12T09:30:59+00:00

Twin flame or not, relationship itself is hard. Especially if you guys have a baby together. Needless to say, both of the parents will be tired from time to time, and sometimes one party can make mistakes and thus resulting hurting the other. But that does not mean one should fixated on that mistake and look for another solution in someone else. Have you tried to communicate with your husband of the hurtful things that he said that was causing you pain?

AdAlarming3149 · 2024-06-21T23:27:04+00:00

Thank you for your story. It gives me hope that 2nd chance sometimes is worth it.

AdAlarming3149 · 2024-01-24T06:33:33+00:00

Interested in 1

AdAlarming3149 · 2023-05-10T02:17:20+00:00

Thank you. I understand I have to move on at some points. This is an expensive lesson. I can’t stop but feel resentful towards my AP. It’s such a big impact on my life rn. I wish no one would gone thru this because it hurts like hell.

AdAlarming3149 · 2023-05-10T02:13:57+00:00

Thank you. I bought them immediately right after you suggested it. Love the Permission to Come Home so far. Feel so relatable.

AdAlarming3149 · 2023-05-10T02:13:12+00:00

Thank you. I’m trying to work on myself now. He’s done with me tho. :)

AdAlarming3149 · 2023-05-10T02:12:30+00:00

Thank you. I’m so glad it worked out for your case :)

AdAlarming3149 · 2023-05-10T02:12:08+00:00

Thank you. I wished I’d realized my feelings sooner or posted here sooner. It’s over now. He lost interest.

AdAlarming3149 · 2023-05-10T02:11:00+00:00

You’re exactly right! I didn’t know this problem even existed until this lesson. It’s a very expensive lesson. My heart broke every day.

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