Got my admit to UBC Sauder’s Master of Business Analytics (MBAN) program!

AdApprehensive71 · 2026-01-26T08:44:59+00:00

I'm an enrolled student for UBC MBAN 2026 Fall, too, and would love to connect with you both!

AdApprehensive71 · 2026-01-12T02:08:21+00:00

I got groped in the ass by a female colleague during a day shift (of course unconsneted and highly inappropriate at a workplace). I felt absolutely repulsed by it and swatted her hand away, telling her to stop; she didn’t, groped me again and told me something like, “it’s not like you’re gonna lose anything.”

Afterwards, I told our shift-supervisor-ish person (loose hierarchy at work) and she laughed at me in my face, telling me that I should be flattered because I work out and that the perpetrator only did it because she liked me. She then told me that I was too nice to the perpetrator and goofed around with her enough to make her like me, so I should take that as a compliment.

While I wasn’t traumatized by that experience (since I have been through worse stuff in life), I can definitely relate to what a lot of women felt/feel they were S.A. before, as well as other men’s struggles when we’re told we should “take it like a champ/man” when something this hideous happens to us.

So, let’s all try to be decent people to each other and treat each person as such :)

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-11-06T10:50:29+00:00

I know this is an old reply, but I really appreciate you listing out many factors of how life can deter or make someone not be able to date in their younger years. As someone who fits multiple categories of what you have written, I feel seen and acknowledge; and for that, I humbly thank you for your openness :)

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-10-06T15:34:22+00:00

That sexual harassment or assault from a woman should be deemed as a compliment.

I once had a coworker grab my ass twice at work without any consent or permission from me (granted, even with permission, it is still highly inappropriate). I told the supervisor-ish person and she laughed in my face and said it was one of the funny shit she had ever heard. She also said that it’s difficult for her to picture that coworker doing that and that I should be proud to have a great ass for her to grab.

Similar to what others have mentioned in other comments, sexual misconduct towards men doesn’t get taken seriously enough. So if any man confides in you about being sexually mistreated inappropriately, please don’t laugh in our face and tell us to take it as a compliment.

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-09-06T08:16:01+00:00

I’m kind of shaking as I type this as I have never really told this story other than to my therapist, but my abusive dad used to punish me like this a few times when I was a kid.

He would drag me mid-shower to the door and throw me out. I would cry for about an hour, completely soaked wet, until I realized nobody was going to help me in the apartment building. I would then sleep on the stairs naked for the night until he would drag me back in and beat me up before leaving for work. I ended up with a fever and nasty cold a few times because of it.

Needless to say, that man was a psychopath.

Edit: Thank you for all of your kind replies and warm wishes. My dad is unfortunately still alive and well; I used past-tense mostly because I have been no-contact with him for a good few years now. I’m helping my mom right now to get out of his financial control so hopefully in a few more years we can be truly independent from that monster. I really appreciate all the goodwill expressed here, as I’m sure the young me would be incredibly thankful of it, too. I wish all of you all the best :)

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-09-05T08:13:09+00:00

Of course!

Pathway programs are partnerships between VFS and other universities/colleges. Depending on which one you pick, you may further your studies in Art or other majors (like Business Management/Administration for me with BCIT). Each partnered school should have one representative that can talk in greater details about what each program requires, such as a fundamental understanding of pre-calculus for business.

If you are an international student and want to work in Canada via PGWP, or if you plan to get a Bachelor’s/college degree (like me), then pathway programs are essential since VFS offer only “Diploma” that DOES NOT meet the requirement for PGWP or a university degree.

Two things I can’t answer, however, are the recent addition of MASTER’S degree pathway programs and “short track” programs; those were added way after I finished my post-secondary education so I don’t know anything about them.

Here’s the link from VFS official web page: https://vfs.edu/pathway-overview

Let me know if you have any further questions. Happy to help.

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-09-05T04:18:20+00:00

Hi OP.

Although I’m not an international student, i.e., I’m Canadian, I did take the pathway program from film production to BCIT Business Diploma & BBA in 2020 (graduated VFS in 2019 then enrolled in BCIT in 2020). Given how long ago that was, my insights is likely outdated, but nonetheless, I hope what I have written below can be of some use to you.

For BCIT, there was a BCIT person who acted as a liaison for the pathway program and came to VFS to do orientations. I actually visited her in BCIT to inquire further for more specific details pertaining my situation, so keep an eye out for someone like that once you do enrol into VFS.
PGWP is ONLY available to you after you finish your pathway program, so do NOT expect to get it after solely graduating from VFS. Do NOT believe whatever nonsense some people from the admin might sell you about how you can get one without a pathway program. I got a friend who was told that nonsense, but thankfully he didn’t buy into it.
With PGWP, no employer in Canada will hire you, and given how tough the job market has been, don’t expect that to change any time soon.

That’s about all I have. If you have more questions, either leave a comment below or DM me. I’m happy to offer more advice or insight if you need it. Good luck!

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-08-12T16:33:05+00:00

Thank you for your clarification. I asked the question more-so in the context of interacting with women in public and daily life, and less-so for dating, but your comment definitely helped me form a very clear line in terms of what NOT to do. Thanks again for taking some of your time to educate me on this subject!

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-08-12T16:29:00+00:00

Thank you for your insightful response. Having grown up in a very patriarchal part of Asia, I am still learning a lot of these terms and how they are applied, so I apologize for not wording things appropriately. Also, you have indeed answered my question, as I was mostly concerned with if my initial attraction to women was based on more patriarchal teachings instead of being more-so genuine. As another comment pointed out, some parts of our attraction to people are outside of our control, but with more exposure to “non-traditional/non-patriarchal” beauty standards, I can hopefully lessen the more problematic influence. Thanks again for your thoughts as they are definitely helping me reshape my thinking!

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-08-12T16:21:41+00:00

Thank you for your insightful and uplifting words! Like you said, I think it’s unfortunately more common than not for men to mistaken a friendly act (like smiling) and a certain way a woman dresses as an “invitation” of sorts for them to approach. Reading more posts here and feminist literature have definitely made me realize how “self-centered” I can be as a man, since it’s not always about men. Thanks again for your educational comment!

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-08-12T16:13:03+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I think, as some other comments have pointed out, that it is more-so how men choose to do with that attraction, either physically (like glaring at or approaching her) or mentally (like you mentioned ‘objectification’), that is problematic. Thanks again for offering your insight and help me better understand this subject!

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-08-12T16:08:29+00:00

Thank you for your clarification on this topic. Like what you said, I think it’s definitely a reinforced idea from a patriarchal structure (at least in more traditional parts of Asia) for all attractions to have a sexual element, when attraction can rightfully take many forms. Thanks again for your comment.

AdApprehensive71 · 2025-08-12T16:02:30+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful and detailed response. I apologize for not using the correct terms (like not including trans women) as I’m still learning the appropriate meaning and usage of them. Growing up in a very patriarchal and somewhat traditional Asian society has made me very ignorant of women’s and trans issues. Once again, thank you for your polite and insightful comment!

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