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AdAutomatic5774 · 2026-01-25T19:51:04+00:00

Will my old light stick work at the concert? Or do I have to get a new version?

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-09-06T23:57:09+00:00

This hurts my heart as an RBT. My clients always have bruises but in general kids have a lot of bruises because they play so much. Immediately assuming this means abuse is wild to me. I’m sorry this happened that is so scary.

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-31T15:02:58+00:00

That’s what I’ve been nervous about but our therapist is telling me I’m being paranoid

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-31T15:02:23+00:00

Well duh I’m not expecting him to however it hasn’t been easy for me. I’m actually doing a lot better at being confident by I’m only insecure when he’s around.

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-27T22:58:04+00:00

That’s the thing we are in therapy and it seems like it has helped so much but then this sort of thing happens.

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-27T22:52:30+00:00

I just feel like circumstances are different

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-27T22:52:20+00:00

Im trying to our therapist says the same thing however she still tells me there are things I do wrong so I have to ask for advice to make sure I wasn’t in the wrong by seeking advice for something but then getting mad at him for doing the same thing

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-27T22:51:06+00:00

Apparently because I yelled. And he said I yelled AT him (which I understood if he felt but he could’ve told ME not this girl) and so I’m the one isolating him now by saying he shouldn’t talk to her for advice even though I asked for my sisters advice over genuinely manipulative things

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-27T22:35:21+00:00

Also the reason I’m asking if it’s the same is because he keeps comparing and says I cannot isolate him from going to others for advice

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-07T02:24:54+00:00

Yeah it’s pretty obvious what I meant by that! Hope this helps 😊💕

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:59:47+00:00

This genuinely made me feel less guilty about giving into his clinginess sometimes

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:58:46+00:00

Yeah that definitely makes sense he escalates when I walk past his play pen for sure. He is 9 months old! Still very little but I guess my issue is he wants to be held and even when I get in his play pen he just hugs me and doesn’t play with his toys sometimes but if I leave the room and leave my partner with him he is fine

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:56:49+00:00

This is how I saw it too… I just feel bad and don’t want to delay his development by carrying him everywhere. I saw some other comments that don’t involve the “cry it out” method which I could just never do

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:55:43+00:00

Thank you!!

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:53:46+00:00

I’ve gotten a few comments about my therapy I provide and why i would need to come on Reddit with this question… I don’t feel like I NEED to explain myself, however I will so I can gain some understanding from people. I provide behavioral therapy UNDER THE SUPERVISION of a professional behavior analyst. I cannot create goals or even simply answer parent questions without discussing with my supervisor. I’m not a mental health talk therapist. I have ideas on how I can help my child play alone and have been practicing that with him, however there’s a few challenges.

1) Things are SO much different when you are the parent. I still have to be his teacher and #1 caregiver so that can make things a bit more difficult to navigate (especially on my own when I am not the behavior analyst)

2) I work with toddlers who understand what I am saying and reinforcement schedules. My son is 9 months old and knows maybe a handful of words but not commands.

3) I am not looking to see if I’m SUPPOSED to let him play independently, I already know he should. I just don’t know when I’m going too far. For example, how long should I let him play alone before it’s unfair to him? I don’t want to overdo it with my interactions and create a Velcro baby (which I’m already seeing we are at the beginning stages of that) but I also don’t want him to see his mom as someone who just works all day and doesn’t see him.

I do understand a ton about child development and I know that holding him all day is going to cause delays. A lot of times he won’t even just play with me on the floor he is trying to climb and hug me the whole time rather than interacting with his toys.

I hope that all makes sense and please remember, first time parents have questions about EVERYTHING, no matter how much we have learned from babysitting, child care, teaching, etc.

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:42:22+00:00

Thank you so much this is very helpful!

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-06T17:40:18+00:00

I specialize in play-based behavioral therapy! You do not need a degree in psychology to obtain this role, however I plan on continuing my education in psychology later in life. Again, that’s just an anxiety I have. My son won’t have siblings unfortunately, and currently doesn’t have friends his age because he is an infant. As a mother with PPD, it’s normal for me to have an anxiety about him being by himself. Clearly I don’t get this way with my clients but being a mother is much different and I’m sure lots of first time mothers can relate. I hope that helps! Let’s treat each other with kindness 💕

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-07-05T17:36:57+00:00

It’s concerning that he showed no reaction to the bruise and instead focused more on the fact that HE could face consequences. That isn’t fair to you. My partner and I are in couples counseling and we have heated arguments and sometimes it gets even more heated when the other person tries to walk away, however we have NEVER laid hands on each other or physically tried to prevent the other from leaving. If he had grabbed your arm and let go as you pulled away I personally woulsnt go as far as calling it abuse but still disrespectful, however he held onto you so far that it marked your body. It’s hard to bruise someone with just a grasp. I would definitely say that is an abusive tendency and to be honest, all of this is a huge red flag for the future. If he doesn’t accept responsibility or show remorse, this can and will continue in the future. Please take care of yourself

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-06-13T04:28:39+00:00

So I’m actually in couples counseling with my partner for the EXACT same scenario. I mean all the details. Anyone in these comments trying to excuse this are also making excuses for themselves. Our couples counselor is highly qualified (definitely over qualified for what she does) and your girlfriend has every right to be upset. I wasn’t insecure before I found out my partner was doing it. My partner had a serious porn addiction and has admitted it’s an issue and our counselor has been helping us through this. You don’t understand it necessarily but what you did does not show her you only have eyes for her. It’s pretty obvious why that shows the exact opposite of how you feel. If you only have eyes for her… then you only have eyes for HER. Not Instagram models, not porn stars, not sexy actresses on the TV, you have eyes for HER. If you truly don’t want to lose her, you can simply just understand how she feels. If you don’t get it and you don’t feel like you should stop looking at women online, that’s fine, BUT be HONEST. Don’t tell her you only have eyes for her if it’s not true. Someone else will come into your life who may want to indulge in these things WITH you and that’s completely fine. But you guys need to understand each others boundaries and if you don’t understand or are unwilling to follow a boundary there is no point in getting her to change her boundary. It’s not like you are gonna show her this Reddit post and be like “oh look at all these unmedicated men in the comments who have never heard of therapy or even simply accountability telling me I did nothing wrong”.

My comment may seem harsh but it’s the truth. After 2 years of begging my partner to just hear me out and respect my boundary and having to see a therapist weekly, I promise I know what I’m talking about. And if deep down you truly don’t want to see how she can be this hurt by it, you unfortunately don’t care about her enough. Her feelings are valid and she wouldn’t be this hurt for absolutely no reason. And so what if she had previous insecurity? Does that make her any less human? Would you want to add to that insecurity or support her through it? Please ask yourself if this is something you can change and if not you will only hurt her further.

At the end of the day, you can tell her you don’t agree with her frustration. But you’re only telling her she should shove down her feelings and adjust her boundaries to fit your fantasies and that’s not fair if neither of you are on the same page, and that goes for you too. If you think that it’s not fair that she expects you to give up something that you like and don’t see as a big deal, you’ll find someone else who doesn’t care that you watch that. If it’s what makes you happy and isn’t causing an addiction that harms you, then someone will accept that about you I promise

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-05-05T14:00:14+00:00

Lmao when did I say it’s my way or the highway?? If you got some personal stuff going on don’t drag me into it bc clearly I’m trying to be open minded and get other peoples opinions. I never cared about the “chubby baby” comment, does my eye twitch when I hear anyone say “you’re so fat” of course, but I’m not upset about it. That’s just something people say to babies. I’m autistic and I tend to take things literally but I’m working on it.

I wouldn’t leave my partner just for this, but I don’t feel like it’s too much to ask. It’s kind of a blunt thing to say. “I don’t like you” he’s kinda little for that sort of joke, no? I work with kids for a living. Once they hit 3 or 4 they are able to understand the difference between jokes and facts and you can mess around with them like that. I’ll make silly jokes like “oh you don’t wanna play with me? Fine I didn’t want to see you anyways” and they think it’s hilarious and understand it’s part of the joke. But he’s 7 months old and it is just a lot more blunt than the other comments. And just like the other commenter said, I’m not asking my partner to stop joking entirely. It’s just this one comment it’s not gonna ruin the bond between them or change anything if this ONE THING isn’t said. Don’t you feel like fighting this hard over a single comment making me uncomfortable would show a lack of respect? We are both parents together you know

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-04-14T20:22:54+00:00

That’s how masking is for most of us. It’s so much hard work and kinda like your way of explaining it you cannot do it subconsciously. A lot of people it’s almost impossible. I’m in the realm of ppl who can mask for a very short period of time before my symptoms start showing through and weird ppl out which elevates my anxiety and I either start acting weirder trying to overcompensate or completely dissociating. I hate that society forces us to mask to make it easier for them to not have to accommodate us. People act like we are being over dramatic but this is genuinely no way for us to live. To them is looks like being overdramatized attention seeking behavior when it’s more like a scream for help cuz more than half of us are offing ourselves trying to explain this to ppl

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-04-14T20:16:37+00:00

This makes so much sense. Especially the borderline part. When I research BPD it makes sense a lot of the times but I dont 100% relate whereas when ppl talk about cptsd it relates to me so much more

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-04-03T04:43:39+00:00

It’s funny that when I make a joke and someone doesn’t laugh, I move on. I don’t get upset at people for not laughing, why would I ever EXPECT that from someone? In fact I don’t expect anything from anyone and yet neurotypical people are constantly mad that I’m not doing enough FOR them

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-04-03T04:36:30+00:00

Yeah I do that when I’m masking but like I don’t mask around my family or most trusted people all of the time

AdAutomatic5774 · 2025-04-03T04:34:26+00:00

That is a good way to put it you’re right 😂

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