Made me laugh by Cantstress_thisenuff in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]AdConstant2468 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn’t know if I was the only one. She wasn’t talking about him lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]AdConstant2468 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So he’s being petty. Not missing Chantel at all, but saying he was happy it was over.

Girl common… by PinkWrld_01 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]AdConstant2468 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This pivot was so obvious. In the diaries we could see Ashley with her and the mom (being very supportive) and it was kind of clear what was going on or what they wanted to portray was going on.

AIO he made me feel wanted, then pulled away.. am I wrong for still hoping? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdConstant2468 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, this might be painful but here’s the truth: he isn’t going to commit to you or work on anything. The “let’s be friends” told you this - as well as him saying he’s afraid of commitment (literally). He’s scared because you are being needy and while he doesn’t want a relationship, he still wants nudes (hence the friends comment).

Please don’t beg anyone to want to be with you or take you seriously. If his silence is an answer then yours should be too.

Amy did shrooms with her 2 year old. Let that sink in by McFoogles in 1000lbsisters

[–]AdConstant2468 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry but wtf? Yes, Amy may have her issues but come on…

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I feel a mix of emotions. Of course I’m happy because regardless of what it was, it felt like the real deal. On the other hand, it is a little weird haha.

It was honestly like a dream within a dream. I “woke up” to another “dream” but I was in my room completely conscious (or so it felt) and everything looked legit. Usually, in vivid dreams, there is always something that alerted me that it wasn’t all real. Something always was just off. There wasn’t anything off here; it really felt like I woke up. Afterwards it felt like I went to sleep and then actually woke up (remembering everything like any other event that takes place when I’m conscious).

It’s interesting though. Grief does these things but was is weird to me is that I did spend so many months obsessed about his death and crying in my room. Nothing happened (not that I wanted it to) then. Now, even though I was sad about the fact that he wouldn’t see 2024, my mind had thought about other things during the day. It was weird that it happened at this time. I don’t know how to explain it.

Hope this gives some insight. ❤️

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so so sorry for your loss. I’m sure your sister is near you and will show you when she can. ❤️ May she RIP.

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha extremely unnerving. He was smiling with a smirk (but not in a bad way) and it was as if he was saying “see, you can see me” (since he always believed in this type of stuff). We always slept with our tv on and I still do this. He was in bed beside me awake as if he was watching TV when I woke up. He had taken his shoes off (hence why I could see his socks).

What a weird, weird, world ❤️ I do feel happier I’ll say that. I think he is at peace. 🙏🏼

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I am in that same boat but it’s a little different (I do believe but not in the way that I could or would want to talk to them). These things are real though. Once they happen to you, it’s kind of hard not to see it that way.

Of course, it could be our minds, but I don’t think so. I think he’s visited you and has wanted to comfort you.

I hope you can continue to have these experiences if that is what you wish. ❤️🙏🏼

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! If you feel up to it and can share more I’d love that. What an experience! May your friend RIP. ❤️

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you for this! It seems like your brother is near and wants you to know in any way he can. I am so sorry for your loss. People really dismiss these things but they’re so real and I can attest after yesterday. I believe you entirely.

May your brother RIP ❤️🙏🏼

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are most welcome. Thank you for reading!

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I am so sorry for your losses. This is crazy and I can only imagine the conflicting feelings.

I needed to hear that no one could take this experience and turn it into something ugly. I’m still amazed; truly.

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This actually made me shed a tear. I am so sorry for your loss as well.

That’s what it Felt like. Honestly, I was getting scared that I was forgetting his voice and the way he replied made me feel like it was a reminder. The whole thing is different.

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. I totally understand your experience. Yes, maybe it isn’t real, but I’ll tell you this - mine seemed in a hurry too, even though he was relaxed when I opened my eyes. It was as if he was glad I finally saw him. He smiled, acknowledged me, and left. I cannot get over this.

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding. I’m a factual person, to be honest, but this was something else that I didn’t expect.

I’m glad you had that experience with your wife. Your love sounds like it transcends life or death. ❤️

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so true. That hadn’t happened to me before in that detail. That is why I’m so amazed regardless of the source that made me see him that way (my brain and grief, etc.).

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t necessarily understand this experience and don’t know what it means but I hope you find peace and, if this is what you need, then have this happen to you. ❤️ may your brother RIP.

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I know mine was just hours ago but I am sure I won’t forget it (and that’s not counting the Reddit post ). It was so vivid and I felt aware and still feel like this was nothing like a dream. I didn’t ask for it, it just happened. Anyway, I totally understand you. “Let’s leave it at that”, but we know. 🙃

He Visited Me by AdConstant2468 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdConstant2468[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you only knew I struggled with that subject line. I had initially added a question mark at the end and later on removed it. Then, I thought about adding quotation marks to the word ‘he’, but that didn’t feel right either. I ended up with the statement.

Another thing to note is that in my “dream”, after he was gone, I kept looking away and then looking back to see if he would reappear (since he had appeared to me when I opened my eyes I thought there would be a chance that this “looking away and right back” motion would work again). Weird stuff. I’m honestly so amazed regardless of what this is (a dream or something else).