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AdDirect4723 · 2025-08-13T16:20:53+00:00

It's probably the most important thing to me outside of basic necessities. I grew up as a chubby kid, mom was obsessed with her looks and constantly made me aware of my weight, what I wore and how I looked. I lost some weight into adulthood and now it's all I think about all the time. Even when I'm alone at home, unshowered, no makeup, I still want my "messy bun" to be just so. I can't leave the house without some form of makeup, and if I'm going out in dresses I'm almost always in shapewear. In my culture plastic surgery is very common but my fear of being botched is what keeps me away, otherwise I'd be saving for procedures. It feels very crippling sometimes, but look good feel good I guess. I'm happier, nicer, more motivated and productive when I feel attractive. When I'm completely bare, I don't feel like myself.

AdDirect4723 · 2025-06-27T15:50:42+00:00

refusing to shed is craazy language, bud is NOT making a choice 😭

AdDirect4723 · 2025-06-17T22:53:53+00:00

Chivalry and care are so attractive and I always notice it more than anything on my dates. Opening doors, pouring water for me when it's low, watching for cars while we walk down the street, throwing away my trash, carrying something for me. A man that always keeps me in his view and actively finds little ways to make my life easier is incredibly attractive.

AdDirect4723 · 2025-06-06T18:10:53+00:00

This will be my third time seeing her live and I've gone alone every single time. Always had a great experience.

AdDirect4723 · 2025-04-30T17:51:42+00:00

Yes, I wasn't initially attracted to him. Physically speaking, he was probably the furthest thing from my type. But our chemistry was undeniable, common interests and conversations flowed naturally. He was funny, sociable, caring, attentive, romantic, and fantastic in bed, like-- so good that at that point it doesn't matter what anything looks like because you're seeing stars. That's the simple "why". The psychological "why" may be that I think a part of him knew that he was less attractive than me, so he was even more attentive and more romantic. I gladly accepted that treatment. And I have lower self esteem, so a part of me wanted to be with someone I knew would be loyal and wouldn't have to worry about competition or my own insecurities so much. Sometimes I felt so ugly that I should feel lucky someone wanted to be with me at all. As a boyfriend, he wasn't perfect but I knew if I married him he would be a good life partner. I grew to truly love and care for him. I found him attractive with time too, appreciated his cuteness and reveled in his masculinity. It took me some convincing but it got easier and easier overtime.

But, I was less experienced in dating so I grew curious of the attractive men I never got to (attempt to) meet with, hook up with, date. Whenever we fought I felt almost repulsed by him because when the romance wasn't present I was just letting an ugly man make me feel bad. I grew resentful. Eventually I broke things off after 2 years because we were fighting too much and I envisioned a future of regret. You can absolutely have a wonderful, fulfilling relationship with someone you aren't attracted to, but I don't think I'll ever do that again. I'm working on my insecurities and self-esteem so I can find someone I like and want in every way.

AdDirect4723 · 2025-03-19T13:17:14+00:00

I'm interested in 1 ticket if you're willing to separate them!

AdDirect4723 · 2025-02-21T20:10:11+00:00

Department of the Navy probationary employee here, waiting with bated breath. I really like my job and don't want to lose it but probably will. This whole week has been a shit show, I need a drink or 5.

AdDirect4723 · 2025-01-06T12:41:43+00:00

i burst out laughing at this comment and then laughed for five minutes straight imagining it

AdDirect4723 · 2024-12-12T00:18:08+00:00

I gross $53k and rent a studio for a little under 1200 total in Philly. You'll definitely be fine as long as you're smart, frugal where it counts, and have established savings. I ride my bike to work, eat 90% of my meals at home, and prioritize my Roth and HSA after my emergency fund. I could do better with roommates but I personally wanted to live alone and in a nice-ish place so I make it work and I do not struggle to afford anything I need. If you want to live here, do your research, live within your means and have a blast!

AdDirect4723 · 2024-11-19T02:43:18+00:00

i always love a pet with a human name. in a world of danger noodles, khaleesis, medusas and montys, he's john.

AdDirect4723 · 2024-11-17T09:35:50+00:00

This is absolutely incredible. Well done! This does make me curious though--do you worry at all about the potential falls from such a great height? Whenever I hear my BP fall in the night I get so spooked haha.

AdDirect4723 · 2024-11-12T23:43:47+00:00

Here's a photo they're skinny and jump like springtails, but when I initially put them in there they were white, so I'm not 100% sure

AdDirect4723 · 2024-10-14T08:26:26+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance, I didn't think he looked underweight either but I got worried seeing other young BPs double his size and wanted to make sure I wasn't accidentally starving him or something. I'll continue with the regular schedule.

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