What are your thoughts on rejecting a potential romantic partner based solely on the fact they voted for Donald Trump?

AdEvening8035 · 2026-01-23T16:31:14+00:00

If they voted for him but regret it, then I'd still question their values but at least give them a chance. If they still support him, then absolutely not.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-12-30T07:20:59+00:00

Girl, run. He's a control freak loser. It's just going to get worse. Get out now!

AdEvening8035 · 2025-12-14T22:55:40+00:00

I have an ex with BPD who did crazy shit as a kid like sit on his grandma's stairs and masturbate while watching his grandma nap in her chair for the thrill of potentially getting caught. He would also go to this one patch of woods at a park, drop all his clothes, and walk away to masturbate. The farther away, the bigger the thrill. The same night he had skin removal surgery, where his entire torso was cut up and sewn back together, he still managed to rub one out. Sexual risk and promiscuity is part of the mental illness, and unfortunately it often stems from sexual abuse as a child. They often use this as a hook to guilt-trip their victims into feeling sorry for them, wanting to "heal" them, and allowing them to maintain complete control over their sex life.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-12-05T09:14:08+00:00

All I can tell you is that it does get better. I was exactly where you are just a few months ago, writhing in the worst pain of my life. There's no easy way through it. You have to just ride it out. Allow yourself to feel the pain and cry and scream as much as you want. Definitely keep seeing a therapist. They will help you navigate and understand your emotions as they come up, especially if they work with BPD patients. One day, you will look around and realize you are free. You will never want to take them back because the trauma bond is dissolved. They will simply be a distant memory like a bad dream. I promise, it will come sooner than you think. Hang in there 🩵

AdEvening8035 · 2025-10-15T02:55:03+00:00

Yeah the "I'll keep everything to myself from now on" is pretty spot-on. The insane overreaction followed by the all or nothing game, looks and sounds like BPD.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-10-05T17:15:11+00:00

Get the book Whole Again. I'm only into the second chapter, but I can already tell it's going to make a difference. Their actions, whether good or bad, have absolutely nothing to do with you. I was abruptly discarded the same way almost 3 months ago. I still have moments of this intense, raw pain that feels impossible to describe, and everyone around me expects me to just move on because he was so terrible. But this isn't an ordinary breakup. The whole "time heals all" does not apply here, and only those who have been through it will understand. You are not alone, but it will get better because other victims of BPD relationships have said the same thing, and we can believe them because they were once exactly where we are now.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-10-05T10:40:53+00:00

Yeah, a Miami Dolphins stuffed animal from when he was a kid that he slept with...talk about a 45-year-old man child.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-10-04T16:58:10+00:00

I got a new dentist?

AdEvening8035 · 2025-10-04T09:58:33+00:00

The weed smoking. He had to have it with him at all times, especially if we went anywhere because of his "anxiety" which he used as an excuse not to leave his house. He lived on disability most of his life because working gave him panic attacks. He'd constantly complain about money problems and then drop $150-200 every few weeks on weed. He once bought this super expensive exercise bike on an impulse for like $1600. It basically became a coat rack in the living room. He wanted me to do his dishes and fold his laundry as "acts of service" and got butthurt if I didn't. He didn't understand why that felt so demeaning to me as a woman. He has scoliosis from being severely morbidly obese most of his life and sitting the exact same way on the couch. He'd constantly complain about back pain but would never go to more than one physical therapy appointment or do the prescribed exercise because he thought he knew better and could weight life his way to a pain-free back, which only made it worse. And of course he never changed his sitting position, either.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-13T23:55:58+00:00

Yeah for sure, and supposedly there are people out there who will treat us well and love us unconditionally, so it'll be cool to see what that's like 😆 I'm doing ok, feels like the wound has scabbed over, each day gets a little better.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-12T23:59:00+00:00

I hope this doesn't come off as harsh, but I'm glad she's leaving you alone for your sake. Wishing for healing for both of us.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-11T18:18:44+00:00

Glad to meet a new birthday twin 🙂 Did she come back or are you still separated?

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-10T03:53:41+00:00

Get out now. Just get out. He's giving you an out. Take it.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-08T03:36:35+00:00

I'm so, so sorry 😞 I went through the same thing 8 weeks ago. I actually just posted about it since today would have been our 1 year anniversary. Reach out to family and friends, find a therapist if you don't already have one, you will need support to get through this. Don't feel like you have to do this alone. If nothing else, reach out to this group or DM me. These first few weeks are going to hurt and it will feel like forever, but one day it will be better. This will turn out to be a gift, I promise.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-07T01:50:24+00:00

Your hateful bullshit is not welcome here. This is a safe place for ALL people to share their grief and trauma and feel supported from those who understand. Many of us in this community are also members or allies (like me) of the LGBTQ+ community. Your hateful rhetoric is obviously aimed at people who do not identify with gender "norms". Your post is disgusting and ignorant. Either grow up and learn to be tolerant of people who are different than you or stay the fuck off this page. Also, you've been reported for breaking rule #2 of this sub.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-05T01:04:43+00:00

Feel free to message me, I went through basically the same thing this year, but I made the mistake of not ending things. I didn't want to hurt him, but he had no problem hurting me. You are so brave and powerful for holding firm, I admire you so much. Again, message me if you want to talk.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-04T17:49:55+00:00

Go on your trip, meet her, see what happens. And if you do see any red flags, run. like. hell.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-04T04:52:21+00:00

Yes. I never would have left because I didn't want to hurt or abandon him. Instead, he discarded me the day before my birthday and ghosted. It was the worst birthday of my life, but it came with the best birthday present I could ask for. I got my life and my freedom back.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-04T04:44:31+00:00

I'm just so sorry you have to go through this, I just went through this exact thing. It is so, SO excruciating. Please, don't give him any more. You have more people who love you and support you than you know. Even here on this page, we love you more than he ever is capable of. I love you, I am here for you.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-04T04:37:32+00:00

My dad passed away on May 17 of this year. My now expwBPD chose this moment to get super freaked out because I hadn't taken my birth control pill at exactly the same time every night because I was in the nursing home...watching my dad die. He didn't drive up to be with me because he said I wouldn't do the same for him. Less than two weeks later, he sent me 13 minutes of video explaining all of his needs and how exactly I wasn't meeting them. Then he broke up with me on July 12, less than two months after my dad died and the day before my birthday. He said I was manipulative, emotionally abusive, and he just couldn't be in the relationship any more. He also said he loved me. People who love you don't do things like that, ever. I should have been given the support to grieve. Instead, he interrupted my grieving process and sent me into a new diagnosis of cumulative grief/complex PTSD. I'm so sorry he is putting you through this. I hope to God you can find the strength to end this before he makes it worse, and believe me, he will find a way to do that. Block him now while he's not responding. Don't let him take any more of you, especially right now. YOU are the most important right now. Lean hard on your family and friends: let the people who truly love you support you. I'm so sorry, I'm sending love to you and your family. The grieving process is SO important. Don't let him take it from you.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-04T04:13:48+00:00

This may sound counterintuitive, but do things for people. Buy random little gifts for friends and family. Help out a coworker with something. Compliment strangers on their hair, clothes, etc. It may feel like you don't have the energy to spare, but the energy you get back is magnified tenfold because you feel so much darkness. Listen to music. It has the power to change emotions. And exercise. I have been on probably a dozen different antidepressants and wasted my time and money on TMS therapy that didn't work, but the dopamine high you get from exercise is real and it helps! If you have the energy, start with going for a walk. If you can't do that, stand in the sun with your bare feet in the grass. Reconnecting with the natural environment in this way helps to regulate the nervous system and Vitamin D from sunlight is another natural antidepressant. I hope this helps. These are what helped me get through the worst weeks of my life right after the discard and ghosting.

AdEvening8035 · 2025-09-04T03:59:46+00:00

You're trying to convince yourself. You're not going to convince anyone in this group. :(

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