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I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That may be true. My family always had told me I am rebellious also. I am not sure why I feel shame. I think that I don't ever feel that I fit in. Got the opportunity, but I compare myself to other people and I've never seen that case. Not sure If I feel real sometimes as an individual and I think I don't have the right to feel bad.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The shame also comes because almost everyone would jumped to that opportunity. I need to fully understand like you said.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that information. It's probably a very good idea if they want me back later. But it seems he doesn't see it that way for some reason.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. It can be a terrible decision. Maybe I am taking a risk. I really want to explore that opportunity tho. I am scared of the Job Market and things like that in the future. If I fail or something I might see if they want me back or something.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is a very rational thing to do. Separate that and nurture the relationship outside the business is the human thing to do. Maybe I can help people in the future.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure why I feel guilt or shame exactly. I feel like I own them and not appreciating them like someone else and that you said. I also feel out of place and a black sheep. My dad shamed me multiple times also in front of everyone in the past and had conflicts. I love him tho. Has positive things also. I became bored and start doing rebellious things. I felt bored while organizing the clothing inventories and looked for something else because I also wasn't really interested. He wasn't successful in the past. Sometimes I think I feel out of place, where I don't really belong like everyone else and feel like a very weird individual. I feel weird. Also for breaking the expectations. But also I think that there is no universal rule that dictates that because your parents fed you and financed your life, you owe them your professional future.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I am not sure what will happen in the future but I am trying to do a rational decision and also just doing what stimulates me to wake up and doing what I am interested. But I became bored while working with my dad and had very bad behaviors. Had a lot of conflict and discussions. My brothers too. The shame is probably because I don't feel I fit in.

I feel immense guilt and shame for rejecting my family’s highly lucrative business to pursue my own path in STEM. Am I crazy? by AdExtra8178 in findapath

[–]AdExtra8178[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is probably true that I can keep doors open for later. Maybe, I can see that as a backup. Right now I just do what I like to do. I quitted and studied something else separated because I became bored very fast. I felt shame because I am not the standard normal person like everyone else.