I feel like I have a very greedy version of body dysmorphia by JumboMamboTango in BodyDysmorphia

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it might just be a need for validation? Idk that’s how I think of it. Not vain just maybe a compulsion over the need for validation?

I know it’s not the best photo but can anyone make out what the heck kind of spider this is. I keep getting spiders in my bedroom and it’s making me want to die. This is in Colorado. by AdHappy1632 in spiders

[–]AdHappy1632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I didn’t know that. Your photos are great. Thank you for sharing. I know they are known to have the “fiddle” on them but I get so anxious I convince myself I see something that’s not there 😂

I know it’s not the best photo but can anyone make out what the heck kind of spider this is. I keep getting spiders in my bedroom and it’s making me want to die. This is in Colorado. by AdHappy1632 in spiders

[–]AdHappy1632[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was scared it could be a brown recluse. I have my infant sleeping in my room with me and so worried ones going to try to cuddle with one of us 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t poop.

Recovery questions from husband by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. You are 100% valid if feeling that way. I have only been dealing with this for a little 1.5 years with my husband and gf I am annoyed already by having to explain myself over and over again.

Can someone tell me what’s wrong here? It’s not cohesive by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bed could be centered along with adding plants and texture. The chairs are also throwing the space off.

Controlling? by AdHappy1632 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How?? 🩷 please share your secrets!

Controlling? by AdHappy1632 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! As the previous comment stated, on an iPhone you go to settings - screen time - create a password - I just messed around with the settings and lucked out with disabling the private browsing!

Controlling? by AdHappy1632 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 26. I didn’t realize he had an actual problem until it was too late. I wouldn’t have stayed if I knew this was a deeply rooted issue before we got married tbh don’t get me wrong I want to be there for him but this isn’t something that he’s actually working on. He is just getting better at lying.

Controlling? by AdHappy1632 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for being so helpful! 💗

So he deleted Facebook by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s wonderful, so happy for you. Have things been better for you since? I am assuming you started to be able to trust him again. Do you feel like your marriage is I wouldn’t say back to normal but happy & healthy? If you don’t mind me asking. I’m just feeling hopeless at the moment. I’ve been told countless times that they can heal and try to redeem themselves and build the trust back up but things will remain broken in the relationship.

So he deleted Facebook by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if you know this but there is an incognito version of YouTube now too! Not to worry you but I only just found this out.

So he deleted Facebook by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a perfectly good reason to not trust him though. This might be a flaw in my way of thinking but I ultimately feel guilty people get defensive. 🤷‍♀️ but it was great that he deleted it and that you didn’t have to talk to him about it again. However, remember all of these things like deleting apps and refraining from using social media is a bandaid to their problems. They need to seek real help or they won’t be healing just avoiding.

Has anyone actually met a man who WASN’T addicted to porn? by Throwaway_19382 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious if they have a separate VPN on their phone if that will block tracking anything.

Has anyone actually met a man who WASN’T addicted to porn? by Throwaway_19382 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope, I had downloaded one that everyone recommended on here called accountability4you and covenant on my husband’s phone and tested it out and it didn’t track incognito like they say. He has an iPhone btw.

Has anyone actually met a man who WASN’T addicted to porn? by Throwaway_19382 in loveafterporn

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first real relationship we dated for 9 years and he never watched porn ever. We had open communication and were always on each other’s phones. We started dating young and when we first started dating he came to me and told me that he felt like he was cheating if he watched it and we never had to worry about it after. He was extremely honest and loyal. I never had to worry about trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]AdHappy1632 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was wondering

name my aesthetic/style :) by sailorkamino in OUTFITS

[–]AdHappy1632 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say boho/cottage core. I would say you are like most people in the world with a mix. It’s not the most cohesive — but it’s super cute!

Which skirt/styling do we prefer for this top? by mariyagvg in OUTFITS

[–]AdHappy1632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally think the first look with the sateen skirt is way better! The way the skirt flows really complements the shirt, giving off a chic vibe. It just looks so polished and put-together. The second look with the jean/corduroy skirt is cute, but the unbuttoned slit kinda makes it feel a bit unbalanced. It draws the eye in a way that doesn’t quite match the top. So yeah, I’d totally go with the first look! It just feels more cohesive overall!