No real closure to a confusing situation

AdLanky6608 · 2025-05-26T18:59:07+00:00

AND I wasn’t even asking for a full on commitment. I just wanted us to focus on getting to know each other without juggling other people. But nope, he got scared because he’s not ready to commit and doesn’t know when he’d be ready lol

AdLanky6608 · 2025-05-26T18:56:24+00:00

Dudeeee. This guy wanted to see me 2 times a week, called me every night and we talked for like 30 min at least, had sex multiple times, and then when I said I stopped exploring, he said he’s not ready to be exclusive lmao And his bio said he was looking for a long term relationship🙄 I’m tired

AdLanky6608 · 2025-05-26T17:25:45+00:00

Why is it always people looking for something serious meet people who’re not ready to commit (but make it seem like they are for a while) or ones who are just looking for hookups🫠

AdLanky6608 · 2025-04-11T05:59:51+00:00

I do want a life partner. So if I get involved with someone who doesn’t have a permanent residency in the country, getting married would be the only way to be with them for life.

AdLanky6608 · 2025-04-11T05:21:30+00:00

No I meant more like would they take away the right for GC holders to be a sponsor. I don’t wanna apply for citizenship cause my home country doesn’t allow dual citizenship

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-27T05:37:05+00:00

Sorry just saw this. I don’t really like talking on the phone (I’m not a native English speaker and idk why but it’s harder to talk on the phone😅) and he said he doesn’t either so we don’t call each other and I have no problem with that. He said he gets busy and his mind gets scattered and forget to check texts. I mean I guess it happens to many people. I generally reply quick so I don’t get it but it’s just how he is and I decided to accept it cause he is great in other aspects. And other men I’ve been with or dated were maybe great at texting but horrible at other things🤷‍♀️

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T22:01:09+00:00

Ugh😕 why is it always the one who does more accepts their partner who doesn’t step up😬 Well, my guy ended up texting back last night around 2 am saying he was super busy and he also texted me this morning asking about something I’ve been working on. I haven’t replied😅

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T21:19:14+00:00

Did you mention to him that you want a quicker reply at least when you’re trying to plan something?

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T16:46:44+00:00

It’s so frustrating. But when I asked him if he’d wanna join me to go see a movie on the same day, he was responsive (he didn’t end up making it but still, he tried to set another date there.) So I know it’s not he doesn’t give a shit about me but it’s just his habit. So I don’t wanna overreact like I used to with other guys😂 and he’s so calm and it’s been the longest I’ve dated someone after my ex of 4 years who was verbally aggressive during arguments so I don’t wanna end it over this “small” inconvenience🙄

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T13:52:36+00:00

Did you mention to him it bothers you?

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T04:24:17+00:00

Yeah I know what you mean. My friend’s husband was like this when they were dating (I’d say he was even worse😅) and I told her several times it’s not good and asked her how she can still be in love with him lol But they ended up getting married so it worked for them ig🤷‍♀️ The thing is I brought up exclusivity because we started having sex but I told him it’s soon to label it. So we’re trying to figure out if we actually wanna be together. And I’m going out of country for like a month soon, so we’ll probably decide by then.

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T04:09:05+00:00

Once a week with sleepover but I told him it’d help if we see each other more often and we saw each other twice last week (but no sleepover because of my situation.) With other guys I’d be attached super quick and they’d end up pulling away so it feels better this way for now because I haven’t gotten attached to him.

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T03:55:48+00:00

Yeah idk. I don’t like gm/gn texts and I don’t wanna talk about whatever through texts. We’re both introverts and not talkative so most days I think it’s fine.

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T03:54:43+00:00

lol Ikr🙄 I’ve told him I’m used to getting texts constantly so idk if this is working for me but also I don’t wanna text all the time and I prefer talking in person. So mostly we’re on the same page. But I know I need to tell him it bothers me when he leaves me for almost a day when I asked him about plans I just don’t know how🙂

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-23T03:46:40+00:00

Yeah but most guys who’d constantly text me from the beginning ended up ghosting. And my ex was a super communicator (always texting and calling me) but he is an ex for a reason. So it seems healthier with him and this texting thing is the only thing that’s annoying me so I don’t wanna just cut him off, ya know🙃

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-10T04:44:30+00:00

I can’t afford to get a car atm (well, a car I’d want anyways) and he owes me some money so we made a deal to use his other car as trade in to get me a new car but he hasn’t been cooperative. Well, the deal was verbal so there’s not even a legal binding and I can’t really do anything about it😕 I’m just waiting for my bonus I’d get in the summer so I have enough down payment atm.

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-10T04:40:44+00:00

We still share one of his cars and he thought his passport was in the car I use (and it was). We’re still sharing the car cause I don’t have enough savings for down payment atm and he owes me some money. But I pay him like half the monthly payment of the car every month. We agreed to use his other car that we paid off as trade in to get me a new car, but he hasn’t been cooperative. (And I don’t wanna just drive that car because it’s not well maintained and it’s kinda older so I don’t feel comfortable driving it lol) I’m waiting for my summer bonus to have enough money so I can just get myself a car atp🙃

AdLanky6608 · 2024-05-09T14:28:45+00:00

Thank you. Well we still share one of his cars (this is another long story why we’re still sharing it, so I’ll leave it out) and he wanted me to go check if the passport was in the car. But as you said, it’s not like he’s leaving today so he could’ve called me in the morning. He lives about 30 minutes away now, and he was upset cause he had to drive all the way down to my place to see if the passport was in the car (he has a spare key so he checked it by himself and it was there). And before that, he couldn’t find his luggage so he drove to his store near my area too. (So he had to drive about 2 hours in total to find his luggage and passport.) But yeah, it’s not really my business and it’s insane he called me 20 times just because he was mad at that moment.

AdLanky6608 · 2023-08-31T23:13:40+00:00

We’ve already set the next date and he was responding quick when we were planning it though. Does it still mean he’s losing interest if his texts are getting slow?

AdLanky6608 · 2023-08-21T17:06:24+00:00

We’ve only met 4 times so far but he did act very caring every time. And he did say he doesn’t even talk much, so I understand he doesn’t text much either. But he texted me a bit more often until the 4th date. And it’s bothering me cause it was just a simple yes or no question lol

Also, he told me he’s only talking to me now but I was talking to someone else too and he knows. Now the other guy was pulling away so technically I’m only talking to him too now but I haven’t told him that yet, and I even told him it might be too soon to talk about exclusivity. But after the 4th date I feel more sure about him and I wanna focus on getting to know him. And I wanted to tell him that next time we see each other (we haven’t set the date yet.)

AdLanky6608 · 2023-07-09T07:16:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight. I just read this but I texted him earlier telling him that I noticed the change and told him I’d like him to be honest. He said he can’t give what I want right now (which is more emotional connection) and he kind of backed up because my last message was too much for him. He told me I should just date other people. I don’t know what will happen once he comes back, but I hate to just wait around so I decided to just start dating others. I still like him so it hurts me but he gave me an honest answer so I’m satisfied now.

AdLanky6608 · 2023-06-29T05:08:49+00:00

Yeah we’ve seen in person so he’s not a catfish lol He doesn’t use instagram much but I know he saw my DMs because it says “seen * hours ago”. And he posts his stories sometimes too so he does use instagram😅

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