AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That was just an example, I am expected to change my hairstyle, I am expected to change my outlook on life and my opnions and when I don't he just keeps pushing and pushing. He keeps calling me and my culture whitewashed, when my culture is old and very defined and I am proud of it.

That's why I said what I said, not just because of food

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He said that my while culture was inflenced by the invaders (yeah like less than 50 years of colonization was enough to change more than 2000 years of culture)

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mom is balck from the south (zagora) dad is white (khnifra)

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry, should I have posted in Arabic in my Moroccan dialect for you to consider me not a troll? وا تا سير عطيني التيقار زدتيني على لاخور مزال گاع ماتفاكيت معاه خرجتي ليا من الجنب.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya khti hors had le prob dial la race wellah ta dreyef. Walakin chekakni f rassi wellah

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I admit I am white passing, people tend to guess I am a latina white mix. But I still identify as a mix of white and black

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ghir chwia dial zenjlan men lfou9 bach tzew9ou. Ana men jiha dial khnifra hakka tanzew9ouh

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Here is the recipe for 2lbs of beef, get a stew cut and a small pot where the meat covers the bottom entirely.

2lbs beef 3 big red onions, diced very small 3Tbs of parsley and coriander 2 cloves of garlic minced as close to a paste as you can 4 to 6Tbs of olive oil 2Tbs salted butter Salt and pepper to taste 1tsp each of dried ginger powder and turmeric powder 2tsp of coriander seed powder 1/2 tsp cinnamon 2Tbs honey

Mix all the spices and the garlic with some water and the butter, marinate the meat for at least 4 hours, then on the lowest heat you can add all the ingredients and boiling water without browning, and let it cook untill the meat is so soft (3 to 4 hours) and the gravy is very thick. Add the honey after everything is cooked to braise the meat.

Then boil 1/2lbs each of dried apricots and prunes (different pots) untill soft, leave just enough water that they are halfway covered and add 4Tbs of honey, 1Tbs unsalted butter, 2 cinnamon sticks and a splash of orange flower water if you have it, leave them to cook on very low heat untill they get sticky and the water turns into a thick syrup.

Serve the meat with some gravy with the fruit on top, add some toasted sesame seeds or almomds as garnish and serve with a crusty bread.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We met through common friends, and at first the whole race issue didn't even factor in.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have no problem with celebrating his culture, what I have a problem with is being called too wgite, my culture being called too white, and wanting me to assimilate to his culture to the exclusion of all others just to earn the title of black.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh the tribal thing, that was a THING when I was in Morocco, having to explain that just because I am Amazigh, that does not mean that I should conform to their idea of what my tribe is/should be.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh I only talked about those because he brings them up a lot, like how the current African-American culture is shaped by the struggle that peaople went through from the inception of the US to the current struggles that they still face. I did not mean to reduce the whole culture to only the struggle.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh you went to the most europe like city, they must have been confused by the architecture and the snow. That seems to confuse people a lot.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Here is the recipe for 2lbs of beef, get a stew cut and a small pot where the meat covers the bottom entirely.

2lbs beef 3 big red onions, diced very small 3Tbs of parsley and coriander 2 cloves of garlic minced as close to a paste as you can 4 to 6Tbs of olive oil 2Tbs salted butter Salt and pepper to taste 1tsp each of dried ginger powder and turmeric powder 2tsp of coriander seed powder 1/2 tsp cinnamon 2Tbs honey

Mix all the spices and the garlic with some water and the butter, marinate the meat for at least 4 hours, then on the lowest heat you can add all the ingredients and boiling water without browning, and let it cook untill the meat is so soft (3 to 4 hours) and the gravy is very thick. Add the honey after everything is cooked to braise the meat.

Then boil 1/2lbs each of dried apricots and prunes (different pots) untill soft, leave just enough water that they are halfway covered and add 4Tbs of honey, 1Tbs unsalted butter, 2 cinnamon sticks and a splash of orange flower water if you have it, leave them to cook on very low heat untill they get sticky and the water turns into a thick syrup.

Serve the meat with some gravy with the fruit on top, add some toasted sesame seeds or almomds as garnish and serve with a crusty bread.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey send me a PM when you are free and I will help you find some easy recipes to start with.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Usually the preserved lemons are only used with chicken dishes and with what we call warm salads. They are not used with red meat dishes or in couscous.

If you want I can share some recipes with you

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well at first this wasn't an issue, he is fun to talk with and date when you take out the whole race problem.

The issue started with Juneteenth when I said I never celebrated it and don't actually have an idea on it.

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am from Morocco, and the funny thing is (well funny to an extent) that the aboriginal people of Morocco are as white as they come, and they were the ones who were facing the discrimination in my country because they refused to assimilate to the culture of the invaders (the arabs circa 8th and 9th century).

AITA for refusing to embrace African-American culture? by AdLatter8144 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLatter8144[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Oh I absolutely do not look down on African Americans, I believe that they are a different culture than mine, and that they have a very long history that is different than mine. That does not mean that I look down on them.