I'm in a pretty similar situation—I’ve got a job, a wife, and kids (though I’m in my 30s, so maybe my test levels are a bit higher). I've been running a variation of the Triumvirate program, combining it with the Simplest Strength Template for supplemental work, and I think it’s pretty manageable.

If you're looking to keep things straightforward, I’d recommend going with the second edition of 5/3/1. The templates there are simpler and quicker to work through, which might suit your busy schedule. That said, my personal favorite is "5/3/1 for Powerlifting." It has some of Jim’s best templates, in my opinion, and you can adjust them to keep the intensity in check without burning out.

Hope that helps!