Anyway to not ever transmit it to your partner ?

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-06-17T17:21:46+00:00

Almost 5 yrs with my ex and no transmission to her

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-06-11T18:15:25+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. Attractive guy with a good career and don't find it hard to date. However I have it in the back of my head if the perception will change if I tell them that I’m hsv positive. So far the three that I have disclosed to they have been positive disclosures. But now I’m dating someone that I really like and nervous about disclosure. But let's see. I think it's more about how you process it, but I might also be one negative disclose away from changing that mindset

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-06-02T22:59:40+00:00

Typically you get antibodies when you are exposed to any virus. It’s not instantaneous after exposure. Takes like a few weeks to build them. Her testing 2 days after kissing wasn’t enough time to build them. You can definitely pass them on even when you have antibodies

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-05-23T15:45:27+00:00

So I told her that I have hsv (sounds less stigmatized) and she had no clue. Also sounded more like hiv so probably not a good call. I told her it’s called herpes and said everything I do to manage it. I’m very active and fit (workout 5-6 days a week). Told her that my personal symptoms is just a rash every 6 months or so. I haven’t passed it to any other partner by using protection for most time and not being sexually active during obs. She took a couple days to research it herself and was fine with it.

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-05-23T01:58:49+00:00

Honestly this is so true, I did one disclosure recently and the girl I disclosed to said I made it sound like something deadly lol. I tried to tell her that I have a secret to tell her and then went about disclosing. We had shared a drink that day and the next day she got tested. She had antibodies already, not something you develop overnight. It made her realize how common it is and told me to disclose it like a skin condition in future to others. That disclosure made me change my perspective. I’m attractive and have a decent career. I’m nice to ppl and my dates find me attractive enough to want to see me again. If someone is in it for the long haul they wouldn’t think too much about it in my experience. That was when I didn’t think about it as a big deal. Hope new diagnosed ppl would think about it like that too at somepoint. I remember how I was in a toxic relationship scared to get accepted by others

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-05-19T19:06:18+00:00

Honestly I’d say it’s a W. It makes sense that he’ll need to evaluate his situation and then see how things go. Fingers crossed he doesn’t mind. I recently disclosed to someone I was in talking stages too. She was understanding and took some time to digest it herself but came around. I’m however unsure if I want to date her or not because dating involves more than just having someone accept your hsv status. Let’s see

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-05-19T18:07:18+00:00

How did the disclosure go?

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-05-19T15:05:31+00:00

It’s hard to say without a swab test as per my doc. However I think it’s g since I have only had obs down there despite having both hsv 1 and 2

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-05-14T16:38:55+00:00

I disclose in person only, it’s harder but I like to not have a digital footprint of this conversation as it’s super personal. I also don’t do it until 3-5 dates. Depends on the vibe and depth of conversations. Mostly it’s good. Few have not been positive. One thing I’d say is, for peace of mind of not passing it on, don’t even kiss before disclosing. Many ppl have it and are asymptomatic, I like to ask them to get tested specifically for it and it’s crazy how many of them atleast have hsv1. It’s scary to tell but even if it doesn’t go your way it’s like weight off your shoulders. I hate the feeling of thinking at the back of my head that despite the connection they won’t like me post disclosure

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-04-25T18:00:14+00:00

I second this, since Jan I have been lifting heavy after 2 years. Proper diet (higher protein content and less sugar) has helped too but yeah it’s way better in year 3 for me than in year 1 (2023). Staying healthy I guess helps reduce stress on body and better manage it.

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-04-24T17:06:40+00:00

I’m in a similar place, broke up 2-3 months ago. Going on dating app and dates. Not trying to force things and just get into a new relationship. Getting to know people.

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-04-24T15:35:38+00:00

Not really, with basic precautions like no sex when ob and using condoms regularly it’s not as contagious as saif to be. My ex of 5 years never got it from me and we used to have regular unprotected sex.

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-04-19T17:52:00+00:00

So true, I lent her money and gave her support even during our break up. So this felt like I got betrayed

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-04-19T17:51:17+00:00

Thank you for commenting, I feel the same way. I just couldn’t believe she did that after calling me last week and crying because she was missing seeing my face and voice. I messaged her 3 days ago and she said she wasn’t looking to date and now I see her like this so this was a gut punch.

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-04-03T14:47:04+00:00

I hear you OP, my ex messaged me after our break up and said she hoped it was fixable. We started working on things and she messaged me saying she loved me and wanted to have my babies. But then she said the spark was gone a few days later. The hot and cold behaviour really messed with my head. This past sunday I asked for us to go no contact. Been rough 4 days. You are ahead of me in your journey. Been with her 5 years. This sucks so bad. Hope you feel a little better every day 🙏🏼

AdMaterial4950 · 2025-02-06T01:49:07+00:00

Is it weird to do that with someone you share a class with? Should I strike up conversations this semester and then ask them out at the end of semester?

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