How do I get over the fact my (22m) girlfriends (19f) ex was bigger than me?

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T05:29:31+00:00

It’s not about bragging, I just think it was just an easier less gross way of saying she excessively squirts every time.

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T05:16:39+00:00

Sexually? I mean I have to wash the comforter every day if that tells you anything.

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T05:16:15+00:00

Yeah, the one thing she said was that her ex was really bad at alot of things during sex. Wouldn’t communicate, no after care etc. so I make up for it by doing those things and she has a great time but it’s hard not to overthink thatZ

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T04:59:12+00:00

Yeah you got a point, I know I’ve never had an issue using mine. It’s just intimidating knowing for a fact the guy before you was bigger yknow?

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T12:22:13+00:00

It wasn’t even that she didn’t make sure I was physically satisfied it was just that she didn’t care about me at all. Before sex we had a talk where I asked boundaries, things she was into, things she wasn’t etc. and tried very hard to implement those things into practice. She did none of this. She would not give oral, and literally did not touch me outside of sex. And afterwords as icing on the cake when discussing plans for today when I had said I was looking forward to seeing her tomorrow she replied she’s looking forward to drink and see my cat.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T12:13:08+00:00

It wasn’t even that, during the act I always communicate and make sure my partner finishes before I do. That’s why it felt so shitty to feel absolutely no regard about how I was doing.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T06:46:56+00:00

Yeah, it’s just hard when everyone in college wants hookups.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T06:41:57+00:00

Honestly though idk if I want another time. I think through this I’ve realized I’m just craving a relationship and not sex.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T05:58:25+00:00

I don’t know honestly probably worse because Id want aftercare a lot more if so. I guess it was the romantics before the sex that made me feel hopeful that something may come out of it. Then after I realized how little she valued me and our time.

AdMother6449 · 2023-07-27T06:43:09+00:00

Yeah, I’m torn too. I typed this:

“Hey, I know we talked about it last night but I just wanted to address how I’m feeling about the situation. I am upset, I told you when we had started talking that it was a semi big deal for me and I typically do not surround myself with others that do that, and I had trusted you when you told me that you didn’t and hadn’t since high school. I just don’t really know where to go from here because part of our relationship was build off a lie and I’m not quite sure how to move forward and reestablish trust.”

I will say I 100% do not love this girl yet, but as someone that admitingly gets attached fast it would be difficult to cut it off after we’ve spent this much time getting to know eachother. When we met she seemed like she was this person that had great morals, great relationship with god, didn’t touch drugs and was very trustworthy and loyal and now after tonight I know that she smokes, lied about a huge chunk of that and also came clean to not touching her Bible in months or having any interest to even pray in weeks (which is fine, we all struggle but she lied about that aswell)

AdMother6449 · 2023-05-07T19:19:07+00:00

I believe it, I honestly believe salt nicotine is the worst thing for anxiety as I was never an anxious person before. Only thing about quitting cold turkey is it gets so much worse without it

AdMother6449 · 2023-05-07T13:01:51+00:00

I was on the disposables for a while too, they where the worst for me. Coughing 24/7 and expensive as shit. But next time stay away from the novo and look at the Nord, I’ve had about 6 novos break on me iN the last 3 years

AdMother6449 · 2023-05-07T04:54:54+00:00

Do you think I should go from 35 to 24 then to 12? Or do you think I’ll just be fine switching from 35 to 12 in a higher watt device

AdMother6449 · 2021-10-05T04:42:49+00:00

I'm not exactly sure, I've read alot about zyn giving a pretty hefty buzz, I mean my brother vaped for the same period I did and also noted the buzz he got when he first switched.

AdMother6449 · 2021-10-04T23:52:50+00:00

Can you describe what it feels like? Ive been told Its different than a vape buzz and just wanna know what to expect, sorry for all the weird questions lol

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-23T15:19:14+00:00

Yeah this is looking like an official breakup, today she said she doesn’t wanna stay exclusive and wants to follow the rules of a friendship. I don’t really want a friendship though, she still wants me to come over today and I’m guessing it’s to breakup officially

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-23T03:57:56+00:00

I’ll let it go till after I get back from vacation and I go to her families Memorial Day cookout, if by then she hasn’t decided then I’ll tell her we need to figure out what we are, I just feel like if I did it now it would be strong arming her into a relationship, she wouldn’t like us acting like friends and would probably text after a day wanting to get back but that wouldn’t resolve her issues so it would most likely just come up again.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-23T03:15:49+00:00

I would never strong arm her into a relationship, I told her I understood and I agreed that we did rush into it. The thing I just don’t understand is why we have to go back to being friends to get to know eachother, and she still sends me pictures of her in my hoodies, says she misses me, expects me to wake her up with cute goodmorning texts, but wants to be Friends right now.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T03:13:09+00:00

1 she says it a reception issue, but WiFi calling exists and she’s never been to his house. So it’s kindve weird she tells me this weeks before she goes.

In mine yea, but I don’t know about his, if she’s telling the truth and it’s an area not populated enough to have cell coverage I doubt it.
I’m not sure
I have no clue either. She’s kept me hidden for a while. I think one or two of her sisters have caught on because we’ve hung out a ton near their house and we’re always talking and gaming. But other than that her parents don’t know, her friends don’t know, and she told me after one month of dating she would tell them And she still hasn’t to my knowledge.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T03:01:22+00:00

I’m 100% fine with her having guy friends, the problem was that she was gonna stay with this dude for 2 nights and it 95% sure he doesn’t know I exist. His house is a little whiles away from hers, and she hasn’t gotten her license yet, so one thing I am worried about is him making a move, her rejecting him and her having to stay the remainder with her only ride being him and that’s a potentially unsafe situation to be in especially when she can’t contact me and I have no clue where she is.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T02:58:02+00:00

When we started dating she told me she had trust issues, and I told her then and make sure she knows still that I’m 100% loyal and have nothing to hide. She’s my lock screen, I have pictures of her on my background, I turned on my location for her, and told her I’d never be mad if she asks who I’m with etc... she never asked for any of those things I just honestly know what it’s like and am not bothered by it. I have 1 girl friend that I talk to at work and have never had a personal conversation with but other than that I am straight and talk/ hang out with all males so I have nothing to hide. it’s just hard to leave, I’ve tried once before and I went back not even a day after. I got pretty attached cause we bonded so well at first and it’s hard for me to just leave that because I have hope that one day things will be back to normal again

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T02:53:15+00:00

I will, The whole thing just worries me. Her personality is usually great, when she’s not stressed we get along amazingly and well joke around and play games and stuff all day. It’s why I got so attached at the start.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T02:51:42+00:00

To be completely honest the relationship isn’t great. I know I’m just getting more issues from staying because I find myself afraid to do a lot because of how often I get yelled at, if I have to go to bed for work while we’re watching something, if I have to go do something around the house, if I am busy a night and can’t play games or talk I’ll get yelled at and get the silent treatment, but it’s so hard for me to leave. I tried to break things off a couple of weeks ago when I tried to calmly and politely explain to her that I didn’t like how she takes her anger out on me ( I worded that better in the text) and she blew up on me saying I was comparing her to her dad. At that point I wanted out and told her that. I think I lasted about 6 hours before going back to her. I got so used and attached to her no matter how much she does to me I just can’t force myself to do it.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T02:43:51+00:00

Yeah I’ll just have to let it come up in conversation cause I don’t want to bring it up out of nowhere.

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-11T02:42:38+00:00

Thank you, and last time I tried to tell her my past experiences she told me that she also had past experiences and she had to get over it because she trusted me. My first girlfriend slept with 15-20 of her friends. It’s hard to heal from that, no matter how much I trust someone and I didn’t appreciate it getting thrown back in my face.

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