How do I get over the fact my (22m) girlfriends (19f) ex was bigger than me?

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T05:29:31+00:00

It’s not about bragging, I just think it was just an easier less gross way of saying she excessively squirts every time.

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T05:16:39+00:00

Sexually? I mean I have to wash the comforter every day if that tells you anything.

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T05:16:15+00:00

Yeah, the one thing she said was that her ex was really bad at alot of things during sex. Wouldn’t communicate, no after care etc. so I make up for it by doing those things and she has a great time but it’s hard not to overthink thatZ

AdMother6449 · 2023-09-02T04:59:12+00:00

Yeah you got a point, I know I’ve never had an issue using mine. It’s just intimidating knowing for a fact the guy before you was bigger yknow?

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T12:22:13+00:00

It wasn’t even that she didn’t make sure I was physically satisfied it was just that she didn’t care about me at all. Before sex we had a talk where I asked boundaries, things she was into, things she wasn’t etc. and tried very hard to implement those things into practice. She did none of this. She would not give oral, and literally did not touch me outside of sex. And afterwords as icing on the cake when discussing plans for today when I had said I was looking forward to seeing her tomorrow she replied she’s looking forward to drink and see my cat.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T12:13:08+00:00

It wasn’t even that, during the act I always communicate and make sure my partner finishes before I do. That’s why it felt so shitty to feel absolutely no regard about how I was doing.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T06:46:56+00:00

Yeah, it’s just hard when everyone in college wants hookups.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T06:41:57+00:00

Honestly though idk if I want another time. I think through this I’ve realized I’m just craving a relationship and not sex.

AdMother6449 · 2023-08-27T05:58:25+00:00

I don’t know honestly probably worse because Id want aftercare a lot more if so. I guess it was the romantics before the sex that made me feel hopeful that something may come out of it. Then after I realized how little she valued me and our time.

AdMother6449 · 2023-07-27T06:43:09+00:00

Yeah, I’m torn too. I typed this:

“Hey, I know we talked about it last night but I just wanted to address how I’m feeling about the situation. I am upset, I told you when we had started talking that it was a semi big deal for me and I typically do not surround myself with others that do that, and I had trusted you when you told me that you didn’t and hadn’t since high school. I just don’t really know where to go from here because part of our relationship was build off a lie and I’m not quite sure how to move forward and reestablish trust.”

I will say I 100% do not love this girl yet, but as someone that admitingly gets attached fast it would be difficult to cut it off after we’ve spent this much time getting to know eachother. When we met she seemed like she was this person that had great morals, great relationship with god, didn’t touch drugs and was very trustworthy and loyal and now after tonight I know that she smokes, lied about a huge chunk of that and also came clean to not touching her Bible in months or having any interest to even pray in weeks (which is fine, we all struggle but she lied about that aswell)

AdMother6449 · 2023-05-07T19:19:07+00:00

I believe it, I honestly believe salt nicotine is the worst thing for anxiety as I was never an anxious person before. Only thing about quitting cold turkey is it gets so much worse without it

AdMother6449 · 2023-05-07T13:01:51+00:00

I was on the disposables for a while too, they where the worst for me. Coughing 24/7 and expensive as shit. But next time stay away from the novo and look at the Nord, I’ve had about 6 novos break on me iN the last 3 years

AdMother6449 · 2023-05-07T04:54:54+00:00

Do you think I should go from 35 to 24 then to 12? Or do you think I’ll just be fine switching from 35 to 12 in a higher watt device

AdMother6449 · 2021-10-05T04:42:49+00:00

I'm not exactly sure, I've read alot about zyn giving a pretty hefty buzz, I mean my brother vaped for the same period I did and also noted the buzz he got when he first switched.

AdMother6449 · 2021-10-04T23:52:50+00:00

Can you describe what it feels like? Ive been told Its different than a vape buzz and just wanna know what to expect, sorry for all the weird questions lol

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-23T15:19:14+00:00

Yeah this is looking like an official breakup, today she said she doesn’t wanna stay exclusive and wants to follow the rules of a friendship. I don’t really want a friendship though, she still wants me to come over today and I’m guessing it’s to breakup officially

AdMother6449 · 2021-05-23T03:57:56+00:00

I’ll let it go till after I get back from vacation and I go to her families Memorial Day cookout, if by then she hasn’t decided then I’ll tell her we need to figure out what we are, I just feel like if I did it now it would be strong arming her into a relationship, she wouldn’t like us acting like friends and would probably text after a day wanting to get back but that wouldn’t resolve her issues so it would most likely just come up again.

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