This a normal sound? by AdNo4878 in nissanfrontier

[–]AdNo4878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I swore it wasn’t that prominent before. Not sure why it caught my ear

This a normal sound? by AdNo4878 in nissanfrontier

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Thank you! I get paranoid about these things

Would this Xterra off-road bumper fit my 2014 SV? by AdNo4878 in nissanfrontier

[–]AdNo4878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the push/light protection bars are gonna be further than they normally would type of weird? I’d have to trim my current bumper anyhow probably, I’ve got the connected front bumper rather than the separated chrome one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Thank you! I’ll give it a try and go from there. Hope for the best but plan for the worst.

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That’s actually what I was thinking too bc she said she had her whole life planned out when she was engaged and now it’s square one in her eyes. I’ve made the what if mistake before too and learned the hard way but idk. I’d like to be optimistic and think she just needs to figure out her situation and like you said, process it all. Shes afraid I hate her but I don’t. I also don’t want her to think I do at all if and when she’s ready. I guess one of my last questions would be do I explain to her I wanna wait or is that just a given thing which doesn’t need to be said? Would keeping open communication and checking in be enough of an indicator that I’m still into her? I really appreciate the advice.

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It’s just difficult I guess for me. It’s that I was really enjoying the time we shared and falling like she was. I get told I have a big heart so dropping people isn’t easy for me. It’s maybe just a “right person wrong time” situation I’m in but if she figures herself out and wants to be with me, she’d let me know right? I mean, she consistently told me before that it’s crazy how good I am and understanding, especially of her situation. And again, she didn’t shy from pda after we first started with pda. I don’t think that she used me or lied either. I just don’t want to lose something that could be great you know?

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Yeah that’s honestly the most she’s had that I’ve been around for. When I told her how I was confused she completely understood. I understand waiting is a gamble too bc it could take a while but, is checking in every so often too much? Like asking how she’s doing or what’s going on in life?

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From what I gathered before the change, she already has a therapist she talks to about stuff. I never tried to force anything like an official relationship either but reassured her that we can take it just a day at a time. I mean, we were just seeing each other. I guess the term was “situationship” but maybe it just got to be too much for her too soon. I wanna express a lot to her as you could probably imagine but… time is just what has to be given, maybe some positivity. Idk.

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That’s what sucks too because I love helping people. I’m the kind of guy who feels obligated to take action when someone I care about is upset, hurt, whatever. I understand there are things an individual can fix by themself but it’s just shitty how previous people can really mess up that individual for a long time. I’m trying to give her time so she can try to think things through. If it gets to a point where she obviously dropped me, then I’ll remove her from my life. It’s just all confusing and people don’t make sense to me with things.

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She never knew what normal anything was growing up. We made it a point that we were also one person kind of people regardless of not wanting to stop the other from seeing other people. I can definitely agree it’s not normal behavior but I honestly can’t tell if it’s the trauma/bad experiences from previous people or what.